The Rod of Rod
The cane is the reason why erotic flagellation is known as the English Vice. As iconic as the maritime cat-o’-nine-tails, Scottish tawse, fraternity paddle, and the American bullwhip may be, none is so perfectly suited to the task at hand. None possesses the elegant severity of a thin, swishy wand of rattan.
Rattan is the stem of a giant tropical Asian grass, growing over twelve feet tall. Bamboo won’t do. It lacks flexibility and is prone to unexpected splitting, its hollow shaft suddenly sprouting razor-sharp edges – although whipping with split bamboo rods was a form of capital punishment in ancient China. Synthetics (Delrin, Lexan, and fiberglass) make popular canes. They’re available clear, and in black and other colors. They don’t fray or dry out, but they’re denser than rattan, hence too severe; and lack a natural direction of bend, hence harder to control. And they have all the aesthetic appeal of artificial flowers. Nature does it best.
WHY THE CANE?
The cane became the rod of choice during the Victorian era, usurping the birch. There were several contributing factors:
1. Availability. British and Dutch traders opened up the Far East at the end of the eighteenth century and began importing rattan for use in wickerwork and furniture. Nilgiri canes, from a district in eastern India, became the standard instrument of academic correction.
2. Modesty. A birching must be delivered on the bare, and the Victorians were uncomfortable with indecent exposure. As a French commissioner noted, “One is astonished at seeing English masters remove a garment which the prudery of their language hesitates to name.” A cane is effective over the drawers, even over the trousers.
3. Durability. A bundle of birch switches, even soaked in brine, shreds to pieces after a whipping or two. A single cane can see to hundreds of bottoms. When the end begins to split, it is simply trimmed and returned to service.
4. Efficiency. A memorable birching requires dozens upon dozens of strokes, its effect resulting from the cumulative sensation of hundreds of minute cuts and scratches. Six of the best with a cane is sufficient for a brisk but unforgettable experience. Every stroke counts. The cane’s flexibility permits its tip to attain speeds of up to 200 miles per hour.
5. Favorable pain-to-damage ratio. The cane’s smooth, round cross-section, lightness, and speed transmit maximal deep-down sensation while causing minimal surface trauma. Intense sting and several days sitting-down discomfort – an ideal reminder for students – may be inflicted leaving only stripes that soon fade. A stringent birching slashes the loins into a bloody shambles. Thus frequent caning is both practical and humane.
In discussions of caning, one case always arises. The civilized pleasure of erotic flagellation bears no relation to the brutal ordeal suffered by American vandal Michael Fay in Singapore. He was dealt four strokes from a rod half an inch thick and four feet long, wielded with maximum force by an executioner using a two-handed grip. (The original sentence was six strokes – Fay had a good lawyer.) Such judicial barbarity results in bloody furrows and permanent scars. Not safe, not sane, not consensual, no fun. Not what we’re talking about. But remember that atrocity was perfectly legal - yet they call people of kink depraved!
So why did British aristocrats crave to recreate their dread schoolboy discipline by patronizing flogging brothels and paying the likes of Alice Kerr-Sutherland (author of A Guide to the correction of Young Gentlemen) and Theresa Berkley (inventor of the Berkley Bench) a guinea a stroke? Because it hurts so good! You and your partner may be enthusiastic spankers ready to try other flavors. Spanking is a thud. Caning is sting and burn, a sharply focused sensation, a compelling excursion into the entertainment potential of your central nervous system. It’s ecstasy for endorphin junkies, heaven for heavy players, paradise for bottoms who’ve learned to process pain into pleasure. Pain is when I stub my toe. Pleasure is when I’m tingling in anticipation of the next stroke. Caning can be severe or sensuous, decadent or decorous, spontaneous or scripted. Incorporating a single implement into your play can add oodles of atmosphere.
SELECTING THE BEST CANE
A practical recreational rod measures about ¼ to 3/8 of an inch in diameter (the narrower, the stingier), and from 24 to 32 inches long. A yard-long school cane is difficult to control without much practice. Considerably less expensive than fancy paddles and floggers, canes have another distinct advantage: their impact makes very little noise, an important consideration if your bedroom has thin walls with nosy neighbors on the other side. (Noise made by the recipient is another matter.)
A good cane need not be straight as an arrow. In selecting one, stroke vertically in its natural direction of bend and beware of any wobble to the left or right. A few gentle swings should reveal its flexibility. Do not attempt to bend the cane into a circle; this will damage it.
The British public school tradition insists on a crook handle for hanging the cane menacingly on the wall, but a loop attached to the end of a straight cane serves the same purpose. Sometimes the end of a cane is steam-bent into a complete turn to form a handle, but the best natural handle is the knob at the root end of a rattan stalk. Knob-handled canes are rare indeed.
Some merciful schoolmasters used to brace the crook against their forearms in a style that prevented any wrist action, also shortening the cane’s effective length. If you purchase a crook-handle cane, be sure the crook is properly aligned relative to the cane’s natural bend to suit your grip and stroking style. Crooks also serve to prevent the cane from flying away, as does a straight-cane handle wrapping. Use a thin leather thong (kangaroo is ideal), racket-handle tape, shrink-wrap, or bicycle handlebar wrap. Electrical tape works too, but lacks elegance.
CARE OF YOUR CANE
Canes are usually sanded to remove some or all of the bark and to smooth the joints. A “peeled” cane with all the heavy bark removed is much less dense, so it’s less severe as well, making it a good cane for beginners. It’s also more fragile and should be frequently examined for splinters. Unsealed, such a cane soaks up bodily fluids like a sponge so its use should be restricted to light play or limited to one particular bottom. Sealing a sanded cane with repeated light coatings of shellac, varnish, or polyurethane prevents it from soaking up bodily fluids. Leaving all the bark on results in a heavy, stiff cane with joints that may cause more bruising than you’d like.
Canes should be stood upright with their business ends in an inch of water and left standing overnight every few months. The fibers will draw in the water, keeping the ends from drying out and splitting. Purists advise sanding and resealing the end each time, but this isn’t necessary if only the very end is left unsealed. The tip should never dig into your target, anyway. A split end may be trimmed off, but be sure to sand it to a smooth, rounded tip before re-use. Taping the tip retards splitting.
CANING TECHNIQUES
It requires remarkably little force to deliver a memorable cane stroke. Think of it as a whip, not a stick. Think badminton, not tennis. Wrist alone (if your wrist is strong and supple) will be enough to satisfy many bottoms. Wrist and forearm combined suffice to deal an exhilarating cut. A wrist flick right at the end of the stroke can be devastating. Chastisers used to hold a book (try a Bible, if you’re very kinky) under their caning arms to limit the power of their strokes. A saber-stroke-style slash with shoulder, elbow, and wrist all fully involved is probably over-doing it.
Practice on a cushion upholstered in a nappy fabric (or a teddy bear) so you can see where you’re striking. Aim a few inches short of the edge of the pillow because a power stroke will reach further and wrap around more. Begin with the cane up next to where you want to strike, tap, draw back, and let it return mostly by its natural recoil, applying very little additional force. Gradually increase the involvement of your wrist and then your elbow. Start the stroke further away from your target but continue to begin each stroke by drawing back, allowing the cane’s end to achieve maximum travel. Your goal is an even impact of about the last third of the cane’s length. You don’t want the tip to cut in. Once consistent accuracy has been attained, you can develop fancier strokes in your own personal style.
After you’ve achieved control, practice on your partner’s clothed hindquarters. Use a wide, thick belt to protect the lower spine and kidneys. Insist on detailed feedback. You’re looking for an “Mmmmm!” You might chalk the end of the cane to tell exactly where your strokes land. British school prefects used to do this as an aid in striking repeatedly in precisely the same spot, a sadistic practice that is extremely painful and may result in deep, long-lasting bruises. Spread your strokes around.
Stand to the side and a bit forward of your target, so that the far buttock won’t receive the brunt of the blow. The ideal is an even stripe across both buttocks. Since this is difficult to achieve, you’ll want to move from your forehand to your backhand side periodically, in order to evenly treat both cheeks. The sulcus, or crease between the buttocks and thighs, is extremely sensitive, as are the backs of the thighs, because they lack the natural padding of the butt. If you intend to stimulate these areas, decrease the force of the strokes you direct there.
STROKE VARIATION
There are two main schools of caning technique. English-style traditionalists insist upon power strokes only, with no warm-up, while the West Coast school enjoys inflicting a variety of intensities. Many sources insist that there is no middle ground in caning – that strokes are either wimpy or wicked. Striving to please my partner, Rebecca, who loves to receive the cane but has a low pain threshold, I have proved that moderate strokes are possible with practice and sensitivity to each individual cane’s response.
A cane has a natural rhythm, useful for delivering a massage of rapid pitter-pats. An educated wrist can endlessly vary the intensity, unexpectedly interspersing harder shots to keep the bottom alert. This massaging technique is an excellent way to learn to control the force and to stimulate sensitive but delicate areas where a full stroke would be dangerous, e.g. palms of the hands, soles of the feet (bastinado), insides of the thighs, armpits, belly, breasts, and genitals. The narrow tip of the cane is perfect for tickling those hard-to-reach spots. Such rap-tap-tapping is a great warm-up for power strokes.
Severe strokes demand ceremony, both in giving and receiving. For some, formal ritual is an essential element of caning. The ceremony begins with the commands, “Unbutton. Let down. Assume the position.” Dangling shirttails are “taken up,” tucked or pinned out of the way. The drawers may be slowly, humiliatingly lowered by the chastiser, or left up with a promise to lower them if the culprit proves unruly. A fearsome whistling swipe through the air puts the subject in the proper frame of mind.
The position is usually bent over, so that errant strokes will miss entirely rather than impacting the lower spine. (But aim low to avoid the tailbone.) Bending over tightens the flesh of the buttocks so that the stroke is felt more keenly. Lying prone is a good position for subjects of novice caners because downward strokes are easier to control, and unstretched buttocks are more padded. A pillow may be put on the far side of the target area to harmlessly absorb any wrap-around.
Power strokes must be slowly served and savored. The pain is two-fold: the surface smart at the moment of impact and the delayed internal fire as the compressed nerves spring back. To masochists, the sensation of a perfect stroke is as exquisite as an orgasm, and one has been known to lead to the other. Allow plenty of time for full appreciation of the blooming pain’s slow burn before you deal the next one.
Strokes are awarded in sets of six. Counting by the culprit is key. “One. Thank you Sir May I have another?” Penalty strokes are awarded for miscounting, flinching out of position, or attempting to shield the target area with a hand. Bondage is seldom employed, since voluntary submission is an essential part of the correction ritual.
DECORATIVE RESULTS
It is customary to create a closely spaced grid of parallel stripes, each welt bearing twin red edges, to demonstrate your superb control. An expert caner is capable of producing stripes that will last for hours, days, or weeks, according to the recipient’s pleasure. “Gating” is the fiendish technique of crossing such a pattern with a diagonal stroke, often drawing blood where the stripes intersect. (Obviously, if blood is drawn, the cane must be carefully plastic-bagged and disinfected, but it’s a rare bottom who hasn’t had enough well before this point.) Schoolboys returning to their dormitories after a session with the headmaster, used to rate the severity of their thrashings by having classmates count the number of “stars” on their bottoms, where strokes had crossed.
Afterward, the culprit may be required to hold position and forbidden to rub the afflicted area until permission is granted to rise. It is customary to kiss the cane and express gratitude for the exertions of the chastiser.
“Thank you, Master, for having corrected me. I ask your pardon for the trouble you have taken, and I promise never to steal again.”
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What is the point of the refractory period in men?
We tend to forget that the production of reproductive cells is a costly effort in terms of both resources and energy. Because of this, an event called orgasm appeared and evolved over time as a way to control when semen should be expelled. This trigger, the orgasm, ensured that semen wouldn’t be wasted uselessly.
Despite this, Nature still needs that the male sperm be dispensed easily. Making it too difficult could impede the successful reproduction of species. For this reason, evolutionary selection has insured that males could be easily prodded towards orgasm in order to obtain the precious seeds whenever an un-impregnated female would be around.
The male orgasm thus exist for a purpose, and this purpose is ejaculation. From the reproduction’s purposeful point of view, there is no use for multiple orgasms in the male : once he’s been brought to an orgasm, by design he has also ejaculated. And once this ejaculation has occurred, the male’s storage of seed is (temporarily) depleted. Nature is not interested in promoting useless orgasms because it would decrease the likelihood of successful reproduction. Hence, after ejaculation, there is a period of unavailability that disqualifies the spent male for an immediate fuck. We humans like to give polite names to things, so we call this fact the refractory period.
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Despite this, Nature still needs that the male sperm be dispensed easily. Making it too difficult could impede the successful reproduction of species. For this reason, evolutionary selection has insured that males could be easily prodded towards orgasm in order to obtain the precious seeds whenever an un-impregnated female would be around.
The male orgasm thus exist for a purpose, and this purpose is ejaculation. From the reproduction’s purposeful point of view, there is no use for multiple orgasms in the male : once he’s been brought to an orgasm, by design he has also ejaculated. And once this ejaculation has occurred, the male’s storage of seed is (temporarily) depleted. Nature is not interested in promoting useless orgasms because it would decrease the likelihood of successful reproduction. Hence, after ejaculation, there is a period of unavailability that disqualifies the spent male for an immediate fuck. We humans like to give polite names to things, so we call this fact the refractory period.
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Clothespins
Using Clothespins in BDSM Play
Wood versus Plastic Clothespins
Wooden clothespins are a bit kinder, and have less tendency to abrade, so I’d suggest starting with them. Plastic clothespins tend to have much smaller ribbed gripping surfaces, and a ‘feel’ much stronger than the equivalent wooden ones. Extremely small plastic clothespins are very nasty indeed, and many may be used in the same area for greater intensity.
But here’s the kind of clothespin we’re going to be talking about in this article…
But here’s the kind of clothespin we’re going to be talking about in this article…
Wooden clothespins are available in several qualities, with the older, thicker ones being a bit better in my opinion (the thin ones seem to be more likely to splinter or have sharp edges). Since you can purchase fifty of these for a few dollars, these rank among the least expensive of toys, and among the most versatile. Almost anything you can do with fingertip squeezing can be done with clothespins, and several things that can’t be accomplished with your fingers can easily be done with these tiny household beauties. Plus, of course, they leave your hands free for other activities.
Clamping Pressure
Unmodified, most wooden clothespins grip with between four and six pounds of pressure over an area of about one-quarter by one-half inch. This is too much for some, and not enough for others. The grip can be increased by wrapping the clamping end with elastic bands, and decreased in several ways. The simplest is by weakening the springs by clamping something that requires the clothespin to be open to its limit for several days. This will reduce the clamping pressure by several pounds, dependent on the initial strength of the spring, the width of the opening, and the length of time one allows for stretching. Carefully pulling the jaws wider than they would normally travel will stretch the spring quickly, but this is harder to control. Wrapping elastic bands around the legs of the clothespin will resist the tension of the spring and weaken the clamping force without permanently weakening the spring.
If you’re willing to spend a bit more time, drill straight through both legs of each clothespin, about one-third of the way from the end, and thread a bolt through the holes. Tightening a wing nut on the bolt will allow for wonderfully precise changes in clamping pressure, since the bolt-nut combination adjustably limits the travel of the legs. You can drill a larger hole or even a slot in one leg for ease of adjustment. This requires perhaps 2 minutes per clothespin and is well worth the time, as the pressure may be slowly increased as your partner’s ability to enjoy the sensation improves. Weights may be hung off of the clothespin by hooks or cords attached to the holes and hardware.
If you’re willing to spend a bit more time, drill straight through both legs of each clothespin, about one-third of the way from the end, and thread a bolt through the holes. Tightening a wing nut on the bolt will allow for wonderfully precise changes in clamping pressure, since the bolt-nut combination adjustably limits the travel of the legs. You can drill a larger hole or even a slot in one leg for ease of adjustment. This requires perhaps 2 minutes per clothespin and is well worth the time, as the pressure may be slowly increased as your partner’s ability to enjoy the sensation improves. Weights may be hung off of the clothespin by hooks or cords attached to the holes and hardware.
Some Standard Techniques
One classical place to begin with clothespins is the nipple, but there are many possible variations to this alone. The first grip recommended most often is with the clothespin pointing straight onto the nipple, not from the side, gripping the base of the nipple, not the tip, and perhaps a bit of areola as well. This does not have the same sort of 'bite’ as grasping the nipple alone may, and often does wonderful things for sensitivity without causing severe pain. It’s often good to start with a rather weak clamping pressure and work upwards. And if you’re just beginning, try not to leave the pins on for too long. Start with what your partner can endure, and eventually work up to perhaps twenty minutes (I prefer not to leave them on longer than this, YMMV). The longer the clamping time, the more fierce the sensation caused by removing the pressure. The increased sensitivity afterwards may last from minutes to many hours, depending on the person, the clamping force and time. Several things might be done in this period to use that sensitivity to advantage (beating with the proverbial 'wet noodle’ or even a featherduster is quite effective). Ice applied immediately after removing the clothespin may reduce the length and severity of the sensation if that’s what’s desired.
You can also the clothespin on sideways, with the nipple centered in the the hole in the clamping area. If you do this far enough back on the nipple base or areola, the tip of a large nipple will remain exposed for other things, such as ice, nibbling, or smaller clips and clamps.
You can clamp the nipple only, or work gradually out from the areola as your partner’s ability to enjoy more increases. Tapping or lightly brushing the tips of attached clothespins is effective, and a light vibrator may also be used if held against or even taped to the legs of the clothespin.
One simple device works nicely for both nipples at once on all but the smallest female breasts. Take two clothespins and glue the outsides of the legs together with a slight overlap like so…
You can also the clothespin on sideways, with the nipple centered in the the hole in the clamping area. If you do this far enough back on the nipple base or areola, the tip of a large nipple will remain exposed for other things, such as ice, nibbling, or smaller clips and clamps.
You can clamp the nipple only, or work gradually out from the areola as your partner’s ability to enjoy more increases. Tapping or lightly brushing the tips of attached clothespins is effective, and a light vibrator may also be used if held against or even taped to the legs of the clothespin.
One simple device works nicely for both nipples at once on all but the smallest female breasts. Take two clothespins and glue the outsides of the legs together with a slight overlap like so…
…then use the clamping ends to grasp both nipples from the sides at once. The pull will vary depending on breast size, but some will be present. Causing your partner to jiggle their breasts gently can be fun, and of course, this is often just the thing to add to tickling. Size differences may require an additional short piece of wood to link the pair together (length best found by experiment).
Pulling off a clothespin is more painful than squeezing the legs to remove it gently, and this is the basis for some devices we’ll mention below. Again, the longer one leaves them attached, the stronger the result. It’s also possible to flick off clothespins with a flogger or some other striking device, and combining the two is an interesting way to add some bright 'explosions’ to the sensations of a 'standard’ flogging without switching instruments or striking harder. When doing this near the front of the body, some form of eye protection is needed, a heavy blindfold will serve nicely.
Pulling off a clothespin is more painful than squeezing the legs to remove it gently, and this is the basis for some devices we’ll mention below. Again, the longer one leaves them attached, the stronger the result. It’s also possible to flick off clothespins with a flogger or some other striking device, and combining the two is an interesting way to add some bright 'explosions’ to the sensations of a 'standard’ flogging without switching instruments or striking harder. When doing this near the front of the body, some form of eye protection is needed, a heavy blindfold will serve nicely.
Other body parts worth clamping
Many areas of the body might do well with a bit of clamping either for sensation or visual appeal. Other parts of the breast, and any portion of the torso and limbs where you can gather a bit of skin come immediately to mind. In view of the tiny expense, you cound use many dozens at one time on someone.
Specific classic variations include but are not limited to:
Specific classic variations include but are not limited to:
- a row, circle (or other sigil of your choice) on the belly or back
- one or more on the labia and surrounding areas
- the inner thigh or arm
- a belt of clothespins round the waist
- small clothespins on the webbing of fingers and toes
- the earlobe (the dangling legs of the clothspin brush the neck nicely)
- behind the knees and inside the elbows
- a circle round the thighs as a reminder to keep them spread
'Zippers’ and other tailoring
Drill a hole through one leg of at least one dozen clothespins, thread them on a thong or cord, knotting them at small intervals, and you have created a zipper. One derivation for the name will become obvious the first time one tugs swiftly on one end of the cord and hears the sound made by the pins pulling off sensitive skin (there may be other sounds as well). The spacing may vary, longer ones may be made, and double rows of 20 or so clothespins are common. The inside of the upper arm or thigh are rather traditional for these, but most areas of the body are available, one of my own favorites being the side of the body normally covered by the arms, after binding the arms over the head. Ticklish and sensitive.
A 'tri-zipper’ is my own name for three of these single zippers with one end of each fastened to a central ring (a keyring will do, but try to find something a bit larger). The ring is centered high on the belly, with the farthest pins attaching to the nipples and labia, perhaps with a bit of spiral towards the center of each region, and the nearest ones fastening to the skin near the center. The look of horrified anticipation as you grasp the ring and begin to pull slowly outwards, each pin popping off in turn as the three zipper lines move towards the most sensitive areas is not to be missed, while pulling faster often causes volumes of high-pitched shrieking.
Another design I haven’t seen elsewhere I’ve dubbed the “Reverse Garter” (reverse in the sense of pulling down rather than up). Two bands of non-stretch material (webbing, fabric or leather will do) with buckles or other adjustable fasteners are put high up around each thigh, perhaps five inches from the pubis, although this dimension will vary. Sewn or riveted onto the band is a close (almost touching) row of four clothespins on the inside of the leg, with the clamping ends pointing upwards. These are first attached to the outer labia, then the band is adjusted to a position to gently stretch the lips and tightened so as not to be pulled further up the thigh. Intriguing in itself, and provides both more pull and an interesting display when she spreads her legs. Delectable. (N.B. There are major sensation differences between the outer lips and the inner lips and tissues, grasping these areas with the same force is likely to cause considerably more pain than anticipated.)
A 'tri-zipper’ is my own name for three of these single zippers with one end of each fastened to a central ring (a keyring will do, but try to find something a bit larger). The ring is centered high on the belly, with the farthest pins attaching to the nipples and labia, perhaps with a bit of spiral towards the center of each region, and the nearest ones fastening to the skin near the center. The look of horrified anticipation as you grasp the ring and begin to pull slowly outwards, each pin popping off in turn as the three zipper lines move towards the most sensitive areas is not to be missed, while pulling faster often causes volumes of high-pitched shrieking.
Another design I haven’t seen elsewhere I’ve dubbed the “Reverse Garter” (reverse in the sense of pulling down rather than up). Two bands of non-stretch material (webbing, fabric or leather will do) with buckles or other adjustable fasteners are put high up around each thigh, perhaps five inches from the pubis, although this dimension will vary. Sewn or riveted onto the band is a close (almost touching) row of four clothespins on the inside of the leg, with the clamping ends pointing upwards. These are first attached to the outer labia, then the band is adjusted to a position to gently stretch the lips and tightened so as not to be pulled further up the thigh. Intriguing in itself, and provides both more pull and an interesting display when she spreads her legs. Delectable. (N.B. There are major sensation differences between the outer lips and the inner lips and tissues, grasping these areas with the same force is likely to cause considerably more pain than anticipated.)
Modifying pins for more intense sensations
The simplest method is increasing the clamping force with one or more elastic bands round the clamping end, but there are several others.
Purchase some short one-eighth inch diameter brads or finish nails, and a drill of the same diameter. Drill three holes through the clamping end of two clothespins. Sand, grind, or file the ends of the brads to a smooth *ROUND* tip then push them through so they protrude into the clamping area while the clothespin is held open one-eighth inch. Use a drop of strong glue to hold the brads in place, and saw off the excess length from the outside of the pins after the glue dries.
Purchase some short one-eighth inch diameter brads or finish nails, and a drill of the same diameter. Drill three holes through the clamping end of two clothespins. Sand, grind, or file the ends of the brads to a smooth *ROUND* tip then push them through so they protrude into the clamping area while the clothespin is held open one-eighth inch. Use a drop of strong glue to hold the brads in place, and saw off the excess length from the outside of the pins after the glue dries.
These are exceedingly nasty, as the clamping force now concentrates primarily on three small areas rather than the entire clamping area. Use this carefully, preferably with a fully adjustable clothespin as described above, and make quite sure by testing on yourself first that the ends of the brads are NOT SHARP at all to avoid damage. Useful for those seeking more than a 'regular’ clothespin may provide.
Several less extreme variations on the idea above are possible, all based on disassembling the clothespin, filing several grooves in the wooden clamping area, then reassembling the clothespin. Grooves and blunt 'teeth’ aid in preventing slippage, and feel a bit more harsh than flat wood.
Removing about one-half of the side of the clamping area with a saw or rasp provides two benefits, the same clamping pressure will be applied over a smaller area, and double the number of clothespin tips may fitted to the same bit of anatomy. Remember to round the edges slightly with sandpaper to avoid splinters or other inadvertent injury.
Several less extreme variations on the idea above are possible, all based on disassembling the clothespin, filing several grooves in the wooden clamping area, then reassembling the clothespin. Grooves and blunt 'teeth’ aid in preventing slippage, and feel a bit more harsh than flat wood.
Removing about one-half of the side of the clamping area with a saw or rasp provides two benefits, the same clamping pressure will be applied over a smaller area, and double the number of clothespin tips may fitted to the same bit of anatomy. Remember to round the edges slightly with sandpaper to avoid splinters or other inadvertent injury.
Testing the clamping force of clothespins
Tradition demands testing on the web of your hand. This is well and good for impromptu buying and to get a subjective feel for the actual sensation of a new design, but lacks precision and repeatability, qualities dear to the heart of any engineer. Some thinking and a bit of experimentation resulted in the following frame to directly and accurately measure clamping force in clothespins. (I recognize the source of error from measuring the force at the hole rather than the clamping area, but it is a difference both trivial and consistent, and thus may be ignored for comparative testing.)
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Why your man should do kegels!
Most men know about the Kegel. The exercise isn’t new. The Kegel was discovered by Dr. Arnold Kegel in the 1940s to help women tighten their vaginas after giving birth.
The Kegel was later found to be just as beneficial for men wanting to improve their sex lives. Yet, for one reason or another, most men skip out on the Kegel because it’s the only penile exercise that doesn’t directly enlarge the penis. However, they have a wide range of other benefits, some of which can cure problems or indirectlyenlarge the penis.
Here’s a quick list of what Kegel exercises have done for some men:
So what’s the take-home message? Ditch the bottle of Viagra and start kegeling. Here are two studies that show Kegels work just as well for erectile dysfunction as erection drugs like Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra.
Finding the PC muscle is easy. The next time you’re urinating, stop your pee mid-flow. The muscles used to stop urinating is your PC muscle.
But not to worry, by doing just a few Kegels here and there, you’ll be able to dramatically improve the strength of your PC muscle – and you’ll reap the rewards in the bedroom.
The best part about the Kegel is that it doesn’t require any assistance from your hands or legs. You can Kegel anywhere, anytime — whether it’s in a car, at the computer, while running, or even while you’re at work.
Many men report that learning exactly when to Kegel is another hard part of the process. This part can take practice, patience, and a lot of attempts (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing), but is well worth the end result.
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The Kegel was later found to be just as beneficial for men wanting to improve their sex lives. Yet, for one reason or another, most men skip out on the Kegel because it’s the only penile exercise that doesn’t directly enlarge the penis. However, they have a wide range of other benefits, some of which can cure problems or indirectlyenlarge the penis.
KEGEL EXERCISES FOR MEN — WHAT THEY CAN DO
DO YOU WANT TO FIX PREMATURE EJACULATION?
DO YOU WANT TO STOP ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION?
DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A HARD AND HEALTHY PENIS?
THEN KEGEL.
If you’re exercising your penis to improve your sex life, you’ll want to Kegel. Along with providing harder, longer-lasting erections, the Kegel has provided men with a long array of other sexual benefits.Here’s a quick list of what Kegel exercises have done for some men:
- The Kegel builds a harder penis and longer-lasting erections
- The Kegel improves penile blood flow
- The Kegel builds a healthier prostate
- The Kegel increases the angle of erection (For example, one man declared that his penis use to point towards the floor when erect, but practicing Kegels has helped his penis point straight out.)
- The Kegel indirectly enlarges the penis (The Kegel does this by increasing the blood flow to the penis, and making it as hard – and thus as big – as possible.)
- The Kegle increases ejaculation volume
- The Kegel produces stronger orgasms and more intense ejaculations
- The Kegel increases shooting distance of ejaculation (As rumor has it, Peter North — the furthest long-distance shooter in the porn business — kegeled religiously.)
- The Kegel cures post-nucturition dribble (in which urine consistently dribbles from the penis after you go pee)
- The Kegel builds your staying-power — of urine, that is (Several men report that after they started kegeling, they no longer had to get up in the middle of the night to use the restroom as they did before.)
- The Kegel increases control of ejaculation, which leads to greater sexual stamina and even male multiple orgasms
So what’s the take-home message? Ditch the bottle of Viagra and start kegeling. Here are two studies that show Kegels work just as well for erectile dysfunction as erection drugs like Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra.
WHAT EXACTLY IS THE “KEGEL”?
The Kegel is different from all the other penile exercises in that it actually contracts and strengthens real skeletal muscles – your pelvic floor muscles (commonly referred to as the PC muscle or pubococcygeus muscle).FINDING YOUR “PC” MUSCLE
As a side note, the PC muscle is actually a misnomer. When you Kegel, you’re really exercising multiple muscles – along with your PC muscle, the Kegel exercises your IC muscle and BC muscle. For the sake of simplicity, we’ll stick with the norm of calling the pelvic floor muscles by one name: the PC muscle.Finding the PC muscle is easy. The next time you’re urinating, stop your pee mid-flow. The muscles used to stop urinating is your PC muscle.
HOW DO I KEGEL?
To kegel, contract your PC muscle when you’re not urinating. Try holding the contraction for as long as possible. You probably can’t hold it for longer than a few seconds, if that. Many men can’t hold the contraction at all. This just means you have a weak PC muscle.But not to worry, by doing just a few Kegels here and there, you’ll be able to dramatically improve the strength of your PC muscle – and you’ll reap the rewards in the bedroom.
The best part about the Kegel is that it doesn’t require any assistance from your hands or legs. You can Kegel anywhere, anytime — whether it’s in a car, at the computer, while running, or even while you’re at work.
KEGEL EVERY OTHER DAY
Since your PC muscle is actually a skeletal muscle, like your biceps and triceps, you’ll want to give it enough rest to nourish and grow. Just like your other muscles, your PC muscle is easily over-trained. To avoid over-training, don’t Kegel every day. Instead, only Kegel three to four days a week.YOUR KEGEL ROUTINE
- For the first few weeks: Do 50 Kegels every other day. Each Kegel should be contracted for one to five seconds, depending on the strength of your PC muscle. The first time you Kegel, it probably won’t last much longer than a second or two. With more exercise and experience, your PC muscle will become much stronger and your Kegels will last much longer.
- Over time: Gradually incorporate more Kegels into your routine. Work up to five to ten minutes a day, four days a week. This should be fairly easy to do, since you can do Kegels anywhere, anytime. Many penile exercisers do them on their morning commute to work, for example. Eventually, spice it up and try holding your Kegels for as long as possible. You can also find advanced Kegels in our advanced penis enlargement exercise section.
STOP PREMATURE EJACULATIONS & ACHIEVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS
Once your PC muscle is strong, you’ll have the ability to stop yourself from ejaculating. To do this, you’ll need to be able to hold a tight Kegel contraction for at least 10 seconds. Once you can do that, try the following method for delaying ejaculation:- Kegel right before you hit the “point of no return” – the point where semen starts moving through your penis and ejaculation is inevitable.
- Hold the contraction for roughly 10 seconds or more.
- After the urge to ejaculate has gone away, release the Kegel.
Many men report that learning exactly when to Kegel is another hard part of the process. This part can take practice, patience, and a lot of attempts (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing), but is well worth the end result.
OTHER USEFUL KEGEL KNOWLEDGE
- Kegels and penis enlargement: Kegeling while doing Jelqs, stretches, or any penile exercise promotes more blood flow to the penis. In turn, this often enhances the effectiveness of each exercise. So once you get the hang of kegeling, combine Kegels with your other exercises.
- Kegels exercises aren’t just for men: Kegels can be done by both men and women. Teach your partner to do Kegels and greatly add pleasure to your sexual experience. If a woman squeezes her PC muscle (i.e, kegels) during intercourse, her vagina tightens — increasing the pleasure for everyone involved!
- The Kegel and premature ejaculation: “Uh-Oh, I am coming too quickly… What did I do?” Some men find themselves ejaculating quicker than normal when they first start kegeling. If this happens to you, be sure that you’re relaxing your PC muscle while having sex. Many penile exercisers find that once they learn how to Kegel, they’re unconsciously kegeling during sex. This quickly drains the strength of the PC muscle.
www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1696090/Why_your_man_should_do_kegels
Personal lubricant
Personal lubricants (colloquially termed lube) are specialized lubricants used during human sexual activity to reduce friction between body parts, or between body parts and other objects. They are used during sexual acts such as intercourse and masturbation, to reduce friction to or between the penis and vagina, anus, or other body parts, or applied to sex toys to reduce friction or ease in penetration. Surgical or medical lubricants or gels, which are similar but not usually referred to or labelled as “personal” lubricants, may be used for medical purposes such as speculum insertion or introduction of a catheter.
Typical water-based lubricants may be incompatible with sex acts that occur in water (such as in a bathtub, pool, or hot tub) as they can be dissolved or dispersed in water.
A 2011 study by the Population Council found that many commercially-available water-based sexual lubricants tested damaged human rectal cells and that some of them - those containing polyquaternium-15 - appeared to actively increase HIV replication in cell cultures and therefore could raise one’s risk of HIV transmission. Water-based ‘lubes’ have been recommended for use in safer sex because they do not weaken condoms like oil-based lubricants do. The researchers concluded: “Since it is the condom that is protecting users from HIV rather than the lube, condom users should still be encouraged to use water-based lubes because condoms are also more likely to break, and trauma to the rectal lining occur, with no lube”. They also cited silicone-based lubricants as a potential alternative, although they did not test any silicone lubes in their study. Lubricants and creams containing the spermicide nonoxynol-9 are known to be cytotoxic, as studies have shown the compound damages cells and makes users more vulnerable to HIV.
A latter study Dezzutti CS, Brown ER, Moncla B, Russo J, Cost M, et al. (2012) PLoS ONE 7(11): e48328. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0048328 has validated the findings of the Population Council for some water based product’s hyper-osmolality causing some human’s cells damage and better biocompatibility with low osmolality water based products and silicone-based products but failed to corroborate polyquaternium 15 having a role that binds HIV to rectal cells or increase HIV replication.
Oil-based
Oil-based lubricants, for example petroleum-based lubricants (such as petroleum jelly), can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex condoms due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants.[4] Oil may also create tiny holes in the latex. Oil-based lubricants may be considered desirable for people who are in relationships not requiring condom use and who wish to avoid certain additives and preservatives often found in other lubricants.
ANSI and NSF have partnered with organic certifiers around the country in order to provide a definitive set of compliance guidelines for organic lubricants and other personal care products. NSF/ANSI 305 organic standards for body care are modeled off of the USDA organic standards for foods. Their certification process calls for transparency in the ingredients used and the processes utilized to turn those ingredients into finished products.
In December 2011, Aloe Cadabra, manufactured by Seven Oaks Farms in Ventura, California, became the first personal lubricant certified to the new NSF/ANSI 305 Organic Body Care Standards.
Silicone-based
Silicone-based lubricants are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. Silicone-based lubricants are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.
Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. Silicone-based lubricant is also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.
Specialty lubricants
Warming lubricants contain specific ingredients to cause a sensation of warmth. Breathing on these types of lubricants may increase the effect. “Cooling” or “tingling” lubricants may contain ingredients such as peppermint. Some lubricants are sold together, such as “hot and cold”, or are marketed for a specific use or effect. Flavored lubricants contain flavorings, such as fruit flavors, to enhance oral contact. “Edible” lubricants may be flavored and/or may not contain any ingredients that are not advisable to eat.
Anal-specific
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specifically marketed or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often, this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid. This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place. Some lubricants contain benzocaine, an anesthetic. However, the use of any numbing agent for anal penetration is not recommended as a lack of sensation makes accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-Aminobenzoic acid). Some lubricants are conveniently packaged for ease of application. Many of these products such as Astroglide Shooters have been pulled from the market recently due to FDA Medical Device Requirements. Products containing benzocaine can numb all body parts with which they come in contact.
Other
Other products that have been used as personal lubricants include vegetable shortening, which is durable and inexpensive but damaging to latex. In a controversial scene in the movie Last Tango in Paris, the character Paul, played by Marlon Brando, uses butter during anal sex with the character Jeanne played by Maria Schneider. The jelly-like substance made from grating Dioscorea opposita, tororojiru (Japanese: とろろ汁), is often served in, or alongside, a number of other dishes. However, during the Edo period,tororojiru was also widely used as a personal lubricant for sexual activities, and it was thus considered improper for it to be eaten by a woman. This aversion also derives from the loud slurping sound one makes when eating it, which was considered to be un-ladylike.
Uses
Sexual activity
A personal lubricant can be used to increase pleasure and reduce pain during sexual intercourse or other activities and may be used for lubricating the penis, vagina, anus ordildo or other sex toy before or during activity. Lubricant may be applied to any body part desired, to the inside and/or outside of condoms, or to the hands or fingers. Personal lubricants are particularly useful for intercourse when a partner experiences dryness or excessive contraction (tightness) of the vagina or anus. Anal sex generally requires more generous application of lubricant since the anus does not have natural lubrication sufficient for most sexual activity.
Medicine
In medicine, lubricants can be used for gynecological examinations, digital rectal examinations, the insertion of catheters, and the use of enema nozzles and rectal thermometers. The class of lubricants now known as “personal” derives from surgical lubricants; K-Y Jelly was originally introduced in 1904 for this purpose.
Masturbation
While most males and females both produce varying amounts of their own lubrication, it is often desirable to add extra lubrication. There are specific lubricants which may be used in male masturbation but are not suitable for vaginal or anal use or for use with condoms. Lubricant that is safe for sexual intercourse is also safe for masturbation.
Masturbation cream is specially formulated to enhance male masturbation.
Risks
Care is recommended in choosing a personal lubricant. Some women may experience irritation from the use of certain lubricants. Some lubricants (as mentioned above under ‘Water-based’) have been found to damage cells or even increase the replication of the HIV virus. Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide contained in some lubricants, is an irritant and can cause micro-tears which may increase the rate of HIV transmission and HPV infection. Spermicidally lubricated condoms do not contain enough spermicide to increase contraceptive effectiveness, but application of separate spermicide is thought to reduce pregnancy rates significantly.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personal_lubricant
Water-based
Water-based personal lubricants are water-soluble and are the most widely used personal lubricants. The earliest water-based lubricants were cellulose ether or glycerinsolutions. Products available today may have various agents added for even dispersal, moisture retention, and resistance to contamination. The viscosity of these products can be altered by adjusting their water content and concentration of cellulose or other gel-forming hydrophilic ingredient. Because water-based personal lubricants absorb into the skin and evaporate, most water-based lubricants have a tendency to dry out during use, but reapplication of the lubricant or application of water or saliva is usually sufficient to reactivate them. When the lubricant eventually dries out, it may leave behind a residue derived from the other ingredients in the formulation. This may require reapplication during sex, and/or removal of the residue with water. Some newer water-based lubricants are formulated with natural skin moisturizers, such as carrageenan, and may not leave a sticky residue after evaporation. Carrageenan has also been shown to be a potent inhibitor of human papillomavirus infection. Carraguard, an aqueous gel containing carrageenan developed as a microbicide, has been shown in some preliminary studies to inhibit HIV transmission, although results have been mixed. Scientists are testing whether anti-retrovirallubricants or gels can be applied to aid in the prevention of transmission of HIV.Typical water-based lubricants may be incompatible with sex acts that occur in water (such as in a bathtub, pool, or hot tub) as they can be dissolved or dispersed in water.
A 2011 study by the Population Council found that many commercially-available water-based sexual lubricants tested damaged human rectal cells and that some of them - those containing polyquaternium-15 - appeared to actively increase HIV replication in cell cultures and therefore could raise one’s risk of HIV transmission. Water-based ‘lubes’ have been recommended for use in safer sex because they do not weaken condoms like oil-based lubricants do. The researchers concluded: “Since it is the condom that is protecting users from HIV rather than the lube, condom users should still be encouraged to use water-based lubes because condoms are also more likely to break, and trauma to the rectal lining occur, with no lube”. They also cited silicone-based lubricants as a potential alternative, although they did not test any silicone lubes in their study. Lubricants and creams containing the spermicide nonoxynol-9 are known to be cytotoxic, as studies have shown the compound damages cells and makes users more vulnerable to HIV.
A latter study Dezzutti CS, Brown ER, Moncla B, Russo J, Cost M, et al. (2012) PLoS ONE 7(11): e48328. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0048328 has validated the findings of the Population Council for some water based product’s hyper-osmolality causing some human’s cells damage and better biocompatibility with low osmolality water based products and silicone-based products but failed to corroborate polyquaternium 15 having a role that binds HIV to rectal cells or increase HIV replication.
Oil-based
Oil-based lubricants, for example petroleum-based lubricants (such as petroleum jelly), can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex condoms due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants.[4] Oil may also create tiny holes in the latex. Oil-based lubricants may be considered desirable for people who are in relationships not requiring condom use and who wish to avoid certain additives and preservatives often found in other lubricants.Organic or natural
In the United States, the first certified organic personal lubricant labeled with the USDA organic seal was Nude Personal Lubricant, which was created in 2004 by Applied Organics. The US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) regulates lubricant as a medical device rather than as a cosmetic. Because of strict FDA guidelines for medical devices, organic personal lubricants were no longer allowed to carry a USDA seal for Nude Personal Lubricant, and that it should be very careful about using the term organic anywhere on its label. Many of these types of lubricants also market themselves as “natural” and do not contain paraben, glycerin, DEA or animal-based ingredients. Some contain botanicals such as aloe vera or plant extracts.ANSI and NSF have partnered with organic certifiers around the country in order to provide a definitive set of compliance guidelines for organic lubricants and other personal care products. NSF/ANSI 305 organic standards for body care are modeled off of the USDA organic standards for foods. Their certification process calls for transparency in the ingredients used and the processes utilized to turn those ingredients into finished products.
In December 2011, Aloe Cadabra, manufactured by Seven Oaks Farms in Ventura, California, became the first personal lubricant certified to the new NSF/ANSI 305 Organic Body Care Standards.
Silicone-based
Silicone-based lubricants are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. Silicone-based lubricants are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. Silicone-based lubricant is also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.
Specialty lubricants
Warming lubricants contain specific ingredients to cause a sensation of warmth. Breathing on these types of lubricants may increase the effect. “Cooling” or “tingling” lubricants may contain ingredients such as peppermint. Some lubricants are sold together, such as “hot and cold”, or are marketed for a specific use or effect. Flavored lubricants contain flavorings, such as fruit flavors, to enhance oral contact. “Edible” lubricants may be flavored and/or may not contain any ingredients that are not advisable to eat.
Anal-specific
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specifically marketed or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often, this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid. This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place. Some lubricants contain benzocaine, an anesthetic. However, the use of any numbing agent for anal penetration is not recommended as a lack of sensation makes accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-Aminobenzoic acid). Some lubricants are conveniently packaged for ease of application. Many of these products such as Astroglide Shooters have been pulled from the market recently due to FDA Medical Device Requirements. Products containing benzocaine can numb all body parts with which they come in contact.
Other
Other products that have been used as personal lubricants include vegetable shortening, which is durable and inexpensive but damaging to latex. In a controversial scene in the movie Last Tango in Paris, the character Paul, played by Marlon Brando, uses butter during anal sex with the character Jeanne played by Maria Schneider. The jelly-like substance made from grating Dioscorea opposita, tororojiru (Japanese: とろろ汁), is often served in, or alongside, a number of other dishes. However, during the Edo period,tororojiru was also widely used as a personal lubricant for sexual activities, and it was thus considered improper for it to be eaten by a woman. This aversion also derives from the loud slurping sound one makes when eating it, which was considered to be un-ladylike.
Uses
Sexual activity
A personal lubricant can be used to increase pleasure and reduce pain during sexual intercourse or other activities and may be used for lubricating the penis, vagina, anus ordildo or other sex toy before or during activity. Lubricant may be applied to any body part desired, to the inside and/or outside of condoms, or to the hands or fingers. Personal lubricants are particularly useful for intercourse when a partner experiences dryness or excessive contraction (tightness) of the vagina or anus. Anal sex generally requires more generous application of lubricant since the anus does not have natural lubrication sufficient for most sexual activity.
Medicine
In medicine, lubricants can be used for gynecological examinations, digital rectal examinations, the insertion of catheters, and the use of enema nozzles and rectal thermometers. The class of lubricants now known as “personal” derives from surgical lubricants; K-Y Jelly was originally introduced in 1904 for this purpose.
Masturbation
While most males and females both produce varying amounts of their own lubrication, it is often desirable to add extra lubrication. There are specific lubricants which may be used in male masturbation but are not suitable for vaginal or anal use or for use with condoms. Lubricant that is safe for sexual intercourse is also safe for masturbation.Masturbation cream is specially formulated to enhance male masturbation.
Risks
Care is recommended in choosing a personal lubricant. Some women may experience irritation from the use of certain lubricants. Some lubricants (as mentioned above under ‘Water-based’) have been found to damage cells or even increase the replication of the HIV virus. Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide contained in some lubricants, is an irritant and can cause micro-tears which may increase the rate of HIV transmission and HPV infection. Spermicidally lubricated condoms do not contain enough spermicide to increase contraceptive effectiveness, but application of separate spermicide is thought to reduce pregnancy rates significantly.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personal_lubricant
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