Serious injuries from anal sex are relatively rare; however, if you have internal pain or see blood, you need to see your health care provider. Here are some of the potential complications of anal sex:
The blood you mentioned could have been from a hemorrhoid, which is a swollen vein in the anal area. Hemorrhoids can be fragile and prone to bleeding, although they don’t usually cause the kind of pain you’ve described. You can frequently feel a hemorrhoid as a swollen, tender lump in the anal area. You’ll often notice blood from a bleeding hemorrhoid on toilet paper after a bowel movement, or on the stool itself.
Pain and bleeding can also occur when there’s a small tear in the lining of the anus called an anal fissure. Even small fissures can be pretty painful because they often cause spasms of the opening of the anus. They heal slowly because they’re irritated repeatedly during bowel movements. With anal fissures, you may also see blood on toilet paper or on the stool itself.
A rare, but serious, complication after anal sex is a hole (perforation) in the colon. This dangerous problem requires hospitalization, surgery to repair the hole, and antibiotics to prevent infection. A colonic perforation will usually cause fever and severe pain and pressure in the abdomen. This condition requires immediate medical attention, either through your health care provider or your local hospital emergency department.
If your health care provider isn’t sure what’s causing your pain, you may need to undergo a procedure to look inside your rectum. A small scope called an “anoscope” can allow your provider to check if there’s a fissure. To go deeper, a scope called a “sigmoidoscope” may be used.
If you have either a hemorrhoid or fissure, you’ll probably receive similar recommendations. Treatment for both conditions is sometimes called “WASH.” The letters stand for:
Warm water: Sitz baths involve sitting in a warm pan of water to soak the painful anal area.
Analgesic agents: Various creams and ointments can temporarily numb the anal area to provide relief. Do not use these for more than a few days in a row, however. Your health care provider can tell you exactly how long it is safe to continue using these treatments.
Stool softeners: Taking over-the-counter medications to help keep your stool soft until the hemorrhoid or fissure heals. This can help avoid re-injuring and further irritating the anus while having a bowel movement.
High-fiber diets: A high-fiber diet will keep your stools soft and easy to pass.
Following these recommendations can help the hemorrhoid or fissure heal within a few days.
Very rarely, a hemorrhoid or fissure will become infected, will develop a clot within, or will not heal promptly. If this occurs, your health care provider may recommend that you undergo a surgical procedure or use a newly researched medication to help heal the fissure.
Hold off on more anal sex until your current discomfort and bleeding are completely gone. When you resume anal sex, here are some recommendations to help prevent anal fissures in the future:
Talk with your partner about the need for the inserter to go very slowly and gently, and the absolute requirement that your word is law: if you say stop, s/he stops.
Use lots of water- or silicone-based lube.
If fingers are going to be inserted in your anus, fingernails need to be well trimmed, smooth, and clean.
Some people like to start with a clipped nail finger in the anus, moved very slowly inside. When there’s pain, stop and wait a moment and breathe. This will allow the internal anal sphincter to relax. Once the discomfort stops, continue. If a finger is comfortable, you can proceed with other sex toys or a penis.
If you use a dildo, make sure it’s soft and flexible, not stiff. This will help protect you against colonic perforation.
If you’re still having pain with anal penetration, you may want to see your health care provider about using rectal dilators. These are a set of instruments that get progressively larger. You begin by inserting the smallest-diameter dilator in your anus. When this is completely comfortable, you can move on to the next size, and on through the largest size. Your provider can also help you plan a safe and reasonable schedule of progressing through the different sizes.
Consider receiving anal sex face down; this can decrease anal pressure.
An enema flushes water into and then out of the anus to initiate a bowel movement or clean out any traces of feces and bacteria from the anal cavity.
For some, the enema is pleasurable and erotic, but others find it uncomfortable. In fact, performing enemas too often may cause adverse health consequences.
While water-based enemas can have a helpful role in certain situations, enemas can also disrupt the rectum, bowels, gastrointestinal tract, and frequency of bowel movements. Over time, using enemas too frequently can cause your colon to work improperly as well as increase the risk of injury to your anus and rectum. Frequent enema use could also cause you to become reliant on an enema to pass stool. Should you be irregular or uncomfortable, it could be beneficial to hold off on this act, and figure out other types of sexual pleasure that you and your partner enjoy. In the meantime, here are a few tips for your aqueous anal play:
Temperature: water should be wrist-temperature, or lukewarm. Hot water can cause pain, and cold water can cause cramps.
Water: while you can use tap water, filtered water is less likely to contain chlorine and other chemicals that may cause irritation.
Lubrication: super slick is better when it comes to anal sex! The use of water-based lube may not last long, so stick with a silicon-based lube. Lubricants can be used on the water bottle, anus, fingers, penis, or any other penetrating object. Given that water is a big part of this act, you may want to keep lube handy for frequent reapplication as well.
Communication: speaking with your partner before, during and after this act can make the process more comfortable, build trust, and help each of you relax.
Frequency: how often you and your partner engage in this behavior will play a role in the potential concerns. Occasional use of water in the anus during sex will be less likely to cause problems.
Know how the anus works. Before having anal sex, let’s talk about how the anus works. The anus is the opening at the end of the colon which controls the passage of waste. Waste passes through the small intestines to your colon, then your rectum and finally out the anus. The opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscles when engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure or pain.
Reduce the pain. Pain associated with anal sex can be due to pressure or friction against the sphincter muscles, hemorrhoids or anal fissures. Some pain can be reduced by properly lubricating. Seek a gay-friendly doctor for assistance with hemorrhoids, fissures or other medical conditions.
Get to know your body. The more familiar you are with your body, the more enjoyable anal sex can be. Each person’s sphincter muscles react to penetration differently. Since the muscles control the opening and closing of the anus, you need to learn how yours works. Spend time safely exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter and how it reacts when you are relaxed or tense. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Use a small sex toy, then gradually increase the size. Exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter is an exercise both you and your partner can enjoy prior to penetration. Openly communicate how you feel in certain situations: What makes you tense? What are your limits? Stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or bleeding. The more you both know about your bodies, the better your anal sex experience.
Practice good hygiene. Many gay men shy away from anal sex because of the possible hygiene problems. Maintaining proper hygiene is not only important for an enjoyable anal sex experience, but your health as well. Cleaning can be overdone, however. Be careful with over the counter internal cleansing products. They contain harsh ingredients not formulated for the anus. Also, avoid over wiping as this can cause irritation and bleeding. Baby wipes also contain perfumes that can irritate the skin. To properly clean, use premoistened adult wipes, like Charmin Fresh Mates or Kleenex Cottonelle Flushable Wipes.
Beware of the dangers of STD’s. The anus is a thin membrane and therefore a hot bed for sexually transmitted diseases.HIV and other STD's can easily enter the bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the anus. Having a thin membrane between your bloodstream and your partner’s bodily fluids is what makes bareback sex so dangerous. Always use a condom and practice safer sex.
Many gay men avoid seeking medical attention because they feel if they’ve had anal sex the doctor can immediately tell. Yes, the anus is stretched after anal sex, but it returns to normal soon after. If you think something may be wrong with your anus, see a gay-affirmative doctor.
Even though being fucked is truly enjoyable, anal stimulation is not usually, in and by itself, erection-inducing. Which does not mean that it isn’t a great feeling. Why is it so ? Because the feeling is unfocused or undefined and, more importantly, does not directly stimulate the penis.
The initial erection process, in response to arousal, does not require direct penile stimulation. You know this already as otherwise most men wouldn’t have boners in their pants ! However, for the erection to remain, direct penile stimulation is required. This is in fact a good idea, since an erection can be really become a nuisance. For instance, running with an erection will only be fun for a few metres ! And this is only one example. (Never forget that our great ancestors didn’t have clothes to hold all this.) As a result, there has to be safeguards that will allow an erection to end the moment it isn’t required. The absence of direct stimulation is one of them.
This explains why the bottom will often completely loose his erection if his penis is left untouched, even though the bottom may enjoy a lot being fucked, even though he may find it very sexually pleasing.
Of course, as you see below, if erection is maintained, you may even cum ! But that is the exception rather than the norm.
Seeing blood after sex can be a very scary thing. Bleeding after anal sex is most commonly due to fissures, or small tears on the inside wall of the colon tissue. These can be very painful and make sex or going to the bathroom and future sex very uncomfortable.
In order to deal with bleeding and minimize pain there are a few simple things you can do to both stop the problem now and make sure it doesn’t happen again in the future.
Keep The Area Clean
The first thing you should do if you do have tearing or bleeding is to clean the affected area. Like with any other injury consistent hygiene is the first step to healing.
I recommend taking a shower with warm water and using clean finger with clipped finger nails to wash away any excess blood or lubricant.
It will hurt, but it is important to prevent more pain in the future. The key is to be gentle. Slowly push outward with your abdominal muscles inner wall of the colon is exposed.
Wash the area well. Do not use soap for the first rinse as this will irritate the area and cause further discomfort.
Warm water works surprisingly well and will help you relax and cause some relief.
It is very important to try and do this everyday until the fissure has healed completely. It will sting, but it will make the process of healing a lot faster.
Also, if you are able to, be sure to clean the fissure after you use the bathroom too. It may seem like a lot of worse, but the best thing you can do is provide as much care as possible early on.
Use an Anal Relaxant
When going to the bathroom, I have found that applying a little lube before can also help make your next few days a lot less painful.
One of my saving graces has been Pour Backdoor. It does a great job lubricating the area and the relaxing feature makes using the bathroom while dealing with fissures much easier.
Also, using anal relaxants are a great way to avoid fissures in the first place if you are extra tight or prone to getting them.
Lastly, make sure to get plenty of sleep. Rest will promote healing and will let your body rest and rejuvenate. If you keep on top of these steps then you should notice a big difference in a few days.
If the bleeding gets worse, or continues for more than three days, you may want to look into using medications such as nitroglycerin cream to help treat the cut.
If it has been almost a week you should contact a doctor, but in most cases you should be healed up before then.
Avoiding Fissures
Fissures occur when too much stress is placed on the colon wall, specifically the inner sphincter muscle when it stretches too much, too quickly.
As I have mentioned time and time again, anal sex should not hurt and if it does, then you are doing something wrong. Discomfort is one thing, but pain is not good. The key to avoiding fissure is to slow down, relax and use plenty of lube.
Eat Right and Keep Hydrated
Eating right and drinking enough water has a big effect on your colon health and can have a big role in how prone you are to fissures and bleeding. The key is to eat lots of fruits and vegetables and to avoid processed and fatty foods.
Foods high in fiber promote good digestive health and help keep inner tissues healthy. The stronger your colon wall, the better prepared you will be for sex. You should be drinking water regularly throughout the day, and do your best to stay properly hydrated.
Be sure to also take your time when using the bathroom. Straining is not good and can weaken your inner tissue or even make small tears even before having sex. Small fissures also have the potential to get worse with time.
You should also avoid drinking a lot of alcohol. Alcohol lowers your body’s ability to repair itself quickly and is generally not good for your digestive system and immune system.
This doesn’t mean you can’t drink, just limit yourself. Also avoid drinking before sex as this will make you less sensitive to pain, and therefore more prone to injury.
Go Slowly
Tearing happens most often when you or your partner rushes while entering. Not being in the right state of my will lead to bad results. Also be sure to communicate with your partner while having sex.
Take it slowly, use plenty of lube and do not rush. Remember, if it hurts, you are probably doing something wrong. Bleeding After Anal Sex: Things to Remember:
Maintain a Healthy Diet
Drink Plenty of Water
Avoid Alcohol
Do Not Strain When Using the Bathroom
Clean the Affected Area Often
During Sex Use Plenty of Lube and Be Sure to Go Slowly
If Bleeding Persists Contact a Doctor
As long as you follow these steps closely you should heal very quickly. Remember that the best way to prevent bleeding after anal sex and treat fissures is to not get them in the first place.
I am here to help make sure you are READY for anal sex and walk you through how to bottom without pain for the first time.
Having sex can be a scary, nerve-racking experience. I can remember bottoming for the first time I had absolutely no idea where to start.
As a result, it was painful, embarrassing and not very fun. But that was because I wasn’t prepared.
Below we have put together a comprehensive guide to make sure that your first time bottoming is the best that it can be!
1. Bottoming Should Not Hurt
Bottoming is a strange and unfamiliar experience, especially if you are a first timer. Remember, bottoming should not hurt.
In fact, it should feel great!
This is probably the biggest misconception surrounding how to bottom.
Pain is your body telling you that you are doing something wrong!
This is why understanding your body is the best way to prepare yourself. 2. Get Clean with an Anal Enema
This seems like a no-brainer but you must make sure that you clean out your colon before having sex.
Douching is by far the easiest and most thorough way to get the job done. Cleaning up beforehand will make sex more comfortable and remove any worries you might have.
The last thing you want is looming thought of a messy first time.
If you are going to douche then you will need to use an enema. You will want to get something that is safe and easy to use.
For most people, the pros is a great starter Enema. It is made from medical-grade silicone and is simple and safe to use. The majority of people choose the medium size.
3. Practice and Loosen Up
Before actually having sex you should first practice on your own a bit so you can get used to the sensation.
Find a private, comfortable place where you can relax. Make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are cut.
Remember, you want to be as comfortable and clean as possible. Taking a nice, warm bath is also a great idea as it will help you relax which is what you are going for.
4. Relax
There are two major muscles at the entrance of the anal cavity.
The outer sphincter muscle, which for most people is relatively easy to control.
The inner sphincter is located about in inch inside that typically causes pain while bottoming. Learning to control this muscle is the key to making sex more enjoyable.
Sex is complicated. Anal sex is even more so. For those who want to know how to have anal sex, you have come to the right place!
Having anal sex for the first time isn’t easy, I know, but if done right, anal sex can be some of the best sex you will ever have!
This is the next step. A comprehensive, one-stop resource to give you a better idea of how to have anal sex for the first time.
Before we talk about how to have anal sex, let’s start with your body. If you are going to have good sex then first and foremost, you need to be in touch with both your mind and body.
Keeping both in sync and listening to them is the first step to learning how to have anal sex that feels great!
Mental
More than you may realize, sex is all about your state of mind. Your brain is a powerful tool It controls everything from your thoughts, feelings, movements and emotions.
The biggest fear for anyone who has never had anal sex is definitely the pain. This doesn’t help when being nervous or uptight is your absolute worst enemy when bottoming.
If you are not comfortable and mentally ready, it will cause your body to tense up and that is a bad thing.
Put simply, if you are not in the right state of mind, then your body won’t be either.
Sex is not something you should rush into or do on a whim. You need to be comfortable and ready.
Physical
The simple most important piece of advice I can give to anyone starting out is to listen to what your body is telling you. Follow’s its cues and pay attention to what it is trying to tell you.
Before I knew how to have anal sex, I always thought anal sex had to be painful, but this is completely false! The fact is:
Bottoming should not hurt.
In fact, it should be some of the best sex that you have ever had.
To put it simply, pain Is your body’s way of telling you that something is wrong.
This may mean you need to slow down, use more lube, relax. It may be even saying I’m not ready yet.
The most important skill is to learn how to read what your body is telling you and adapt what you are doing accordingly.
Anal Sex Supplies
Before we dive into what to do before and during your first time on the playing field, you need to have the right equipment.
Unlike other types of sex, with anal sex, you need to buy an anal lube.
As you may already know when having anal sex your body does not have a natural lubrication. That means you need to get lubed up beforehand.
How long do you keep a man's spunk inside you after sex?
I have only ever managed to orgasm during intercourse when I feel my partner's cock throbbing as he ejaculates inside me. I love knowing that his spunk pooled against my cervix and his sperm are swimming towards my womb. I often elevate my hips so that gravity helps his spunk stay in place and am happy staying that way for hours.
What do you do with the cum in your ass after a breeding session?
Once you have your ass filled with cum, what do you do with it? Do you like to keep the loads in your ass? or do you pull out and play with it? Do you drink it? Personnally I love when a bottom keeps it inside, and once he knows his ass is leaking cum (or that all tops have empty balls), he pulls all loads out and drinks them while begging for more. i personally like to keep cum in me for as long as possible... sometimes if i get fucked on weekend nights early morning when cruise bars are still full i head for a load or two then go str8 to work.. the cum stays in me until late afternoon when i take my shit) but sometimes i like when a top fingers me and lets me taste it from my hole...
Hey guys, my BF and I have been going out for awhile now and we're both committed to each other, and have barebacked a few times, but never creamed inside of me. I am very interested in trying it out, I've long craved the desire to feel another guy's cum in me. So, I am wondering, what does it feel like to have another guy cum in you? can you feel it?
As a man who has both ejaculated inside another man’s anus, and who has had men ejaculate inside my anus - I must say that I greatly prefer having a man ejaculate inside me. But it’s not just the act of ejaculation alone it’s the poking of my anus with his lubed penis head the relaxing of my sphincter, the gasp moment of insertion the massaging of my p-spot by his thrusting penis, the dripping of seminal fluid from my semi turgid penis, his hands firmly grasping my hips like he owns them (I prefer to be on my knees) his breath getting ragged his thrusting getting more desperate his penis twitching his gasp moment as he releases and I feel his warm seminal fluid inside me, I do! And he falls on me, as his penis softens inside me magical!
Keeping a guy's cum inside you
Who else, when you get fucked bareback, likes to keep the guy's cum inside you for as long as possible?
I've started fucking bare with one of my flatmates lately - sometimes we sleep in each others beds and fuck until midnight before we have to go to sleep for work, and then again when we wake up we have a quickie. He's got a great 8" cock which is the biggest i've ever had, and he shoots *a lot* as well. The thing I love most about fucking with him is that he *always* cums at least twice each time we fuck - when we start fucking, he'll usually cum within the first 30 seconds but stay hard and keep going as if nothing happens - if it wasn't for the face he makes, I wouldn't even know it was happening lol.
So anyway, like I said we usually fuck at night before we sleep and again in the morning - and because he always cums twice each time, I get at least 4 loads of cum from him. I'm not sure why (I'm assuming it's his size or something?), but most of the time when he cums I don't feel the urge to get rid of it like I did with most of my guys in the past. I can feel the loads sitting inside me but they feel comfortable. Maybe because he's planting it deeper then anyone else has in me or something? Sometimes the loads get a bit restless and want to come out, but when that happens - if I have enough time before I have to get up for work - I'll lay in bed and try to relax, maybe have a really shot snooze, while he rubs my gut just above my pubes. That usually helps them work themselves a bit deeper where it's comfortable. Then I'll shower and get ready for work, and despite having cum while he fucks me, I'll still be rock hard all throughout my shower and on the way to work.
I have to catch a train and a bus to get to work, which takes me about an hour in total, and the whole time I'll have a boner thinking about how 4 big loads of his seed are simmering away inside me. I have one of those bags you strap over your shoulder, which I can use to hide my erection. Usually the loads will stay inside until mid-morning or lunch time, when I have to use the bathroom (they won't stay in this time) to push out what feels like a cup full of cum. I love the feeling of pushing out a guy's cum, especially this much, so I'm forced to have a quick wank before heading back to my desk otherwise I won't be able to concentrate for the rest of the day. Sometimes the loads don't want to come out at lunch, so I keep them in, but then I get gut spasms on the bus home - nothing major, it's not painful or anything, but it's a similar feeling to when you need to use the bathroom but you have to wait (only because it's cum, it makes me horny again, thinking out those loads of jizz that are just begging to be let out lol). It's kinky hearing my guts grumble on the way home.
I usually get home about 30min before he does, and by that time I've emptied myself out, had a shower and cleaned up, and the second he walks through the door he's busy filling me right back up there are only a few hours in the day when I don't have his cum inside me, and even less on weekends
Did you ever bottom for two cocks at the same time?
Explain the circumstances of bottoming for two cocks at the same time.
Did it just happen or was it planned
How did the positioning work?
All three of you.
How much pain were you in?
Did it feel good?
Have you done it again since?
- Just once. They were brothers and willing to indulge my fantasy. I was on my knees, one was on his back and then the other came in behind me. I was so turned on it wasn't anything but great. It hurt more from the first one than when his brother entered me.
- Some men really, really like to have their assholes s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d. Can't say that I've bottomed for two dicks at once, but I have been one of two dicks topping on a few occasions. It's one of the most incredibly wonderful sensations
- fucking and frottage and lots of body contact, all at once. Funny, now that I think of the experiences, ALL of my DP bottoms have identified as "straight."
- First guy on the bed on his back, feet on the floor. Me reverse cowboy, on my back impaled on his cock. His bf lifts my legs on his shoulders and enters my hole too. Felt great. Didn't hurt.
- Yes I did! I picked up these two friends at a "straight" bar that was notorious for having lots of young hustlers and street guys who'd fuck you for a six pack and some smokes.We went to a shabby motel after we partied for a while and me and one of them started getting it on while the other jacked off and watched.After the one who was fucking me obviously was going to be in there for a while,the other one started grumbling that he was taking too long and when the one fucking me said "Jump in too" I about creamed right then and there! Its a very difficult thing to do no matter how easy porn makes it look,but we finally got them both in and it was an amazing and intense experience.I do remember thinking that I was glad they weren't huge!i was quite tipsy so I was loose as a goose,I really don't think one could do it totally sober.They both swore afterwards it was the most intense orgasms of their lives,But I was as limp as a noodle,the pressure I guess. Alas,never experienced that again.
- I don't know why this is so foreign to so many. I did this all the time when I was young. Hell, taking a fist is more difficult than having two guys fuck you at the same time. Taking a fist is certainly a lot easier strategically since there's only the two of us. Never got split or over stretched. Everything was in the same working order after the fact, what's the big deal? This was pre AIDS, but none the less, all body parts snapped back into original shape and was ready for action
1. If we allow you to fuck us with our chest pressed against the bed, we are allowing you to dick us down real good. Many tops get to fuck us in this position and you guys hurry to nut. That’s not the point. Fuck the booty like it was jealous and never gave you something. Make us moan from your nice big dick. Make us feel your dick in us when you are not with us.
2. Eating ass. We can never underestimate how eating ass makes us submissive to you. Use the tongue and write your name on the ass.
If your name is Adam, use your tongue and write Adam on the ass. We will never know you did but something about that tongue will make us return to it.
3. When getting the ass doggy style, give short strokes. Long strokes are for making love. Sometimes, we want to feel those balls crashing into us. Or the feeling of the weight slamming in us. That makes us really bottom hard.
4. For the last fucking time, hold us when you fuck us. It’s a mental thing for us. Please, hold us.
5. If bareback is your kind of fucking, it is ours too.
6. When fucking us doggy style, for a moment, brief moment, slam your dick in us and not the other way around of pulling the ass on the dick. Show me what you are made us.
7. Tongue fuck the booty hole. Enough said.
8. Great ass eaters wipe their face in the booty hole. I won’t say anymore on this matter.
9. Some tops hate this position because the blood flows down out of the dick. However, if you are a top who can stay hard in this position, this position is for BOTTOMS not you. Enjoy the ride. It’s Disney.
10. For crying out loud, can you talk to us while you fuck. let us hear you moan.
11. Spit in the ass. It’s fucking yours. Easy, spit in it….Make the ass wet.
Gay anal intercourse has been called the “LOVE THAT DARE NOT SPEAK ITS NAME.” For too long it has carried negative connotations for both partners, but more so for the receiver.
Through this dialog, I hope to minimize or eliminate the negative associations. Whether you are a Top, a Versatile or like me a Bottom man, I will try to explain the “ins and outs” of ass-fucking and why there is no shame in admitting you partake in this forbidden pleasure.
First, I want to dissect the phrase ANAL INTERCOURSE. Anal: if I must explain this, you need remedial training. INTERCOURSE: its original usage is from the 15th century and meant only “communication to and fro.” The prefix INTER is from Latin and connotes between or among. The suffixCOURSE, (not to be confused with coarse), is also from the Latin,CURSUS, which means path, track, or direction. Putting the two parts together we get “in between path or inner track.” How appropriate.
One could assume that intercourse is instinctual, but there is so much more to butt-fucking than instincts provide. Yes, men have always desired to shove their pricks in any tight, wet hole, but as with many other activities, it’s technique that matters.
Fucking a woman might be instinctual, but screwing a man is an ART FORM. It is an art form which takes some time to master for both Top and Bottom. The virgin Bottom experience often leaves one feeling used and confused. My first time being fucked was unremarkable and unpleasant for me and probably for Conrad. I was 18 and unprepared physically and psychologically. I wasn’t sure what to do, and as I found out later, Conrad probably wasn’t the man to introduce me to bottoming. This may be the reason it took a few years before I allowed another man to fuck me.
I strongly recommend good anal hygiene for maximum comfort and pleasure for all involved. After that, Tops should always prep their Bottoms.
What do I mean by prepping? As you already know, the perinea tissues of the anus are extremely sensitive due to the concentration of nerves. Stimulating these tissues, either manually or lingually will get your Bottom more eager for your schlong, As a Top, you ought to get your Bottom so fucking revved up that he’ll beg you to ram your hard prick in his man-pussy. You should tease and stimulate his tight hole. The more you tease it, the more he’ll want and NEED your steel rod. Here are two men know how prep their rides.
No one prepared me, nor was I prepared myself, the first time. It wasn’t painful, but it certainly wasn’t enjoyable. I couldn’t wait for him to pull out. It’s more than just a courtesy to tease and prep Bottom’s ass-lips, it is actually very selfish. The hotter you make him, the longer and harder he will ride your cock. If that isn’t incentive enough, I don’t know how else to get you Tops to eat bougina. Men are atomically better suited to accept larger cocks than women. We are superior in all things sexual and certainly more versatile. But size isn’t everything, it can actually be a waste of a few inches, sorry big guy. Our inner anatomy places the prostate gland about 3 inches above the anus. I know how to maneuver my Top’s cock to massage the sweet spot.
A good Top Man will aim for the GLORY GLAND. Massaging the prostate with the penis will send electric pleasure pulses through any Bottom’s body. We will then transfer those sensations into action and ride and squeeze your cock harder and longer. Striking the prostate will make your Bottom never want to get off your jackhammer cock. Still believe prepping isn’t worth your effort?
I know what and why I feel during an amazing fuck, but I cannot verbalize the unbelievable sensations I experience. We all know there are good fucks and then there are AMAZING FUCKS. My Top likes me to tell him how he feels inside. I love hearing his descriptions of my man-cunt. I have always been at a loss to accurately describe the sensation of a masterful Top drilling me to nirvana. JUST LOOK AT HIS FACE.I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT HE FEELS
This confirms my assertion that men are sexually superior to women. As a Power Bottom, I know the best orgasm is when I climax while my Top is pounding my man-pussy. For me the most intense climax is achieved in either side-saddle or dogie position. That’s because I can make his dick hit my glory gland.
We cannot and should not expect the Top do all the work. A phenomenal fuck requires an active and eager Bottom. Our job as Bottoms is make our Tops tool feel so fucking great that he will want to fuck us 24/7.
I want to be very clear, there is nothing passive or submissive about being a BOTTOM. If you want to play a role, who am I to judge. I have no need or desire to be passive. I am aggressive and assertive even when a hard cock is up my man-hole. I do not want Tops or Bottoms to think that getting a dick up your ass is sissy. Getting fucked or fucking a man correctly is one of the most MASCULINE activities you will perform.
I object to the feminizing which sometimes occurs in our gay culture and pornography. I am man, I am attracted to other men. I just happen to be a man who enjoys having a cock in his ass. Do either of these men look submissive to you? Not to me either.
They are just hot couple of men looking to please each other as much as possible.
REMEMBER:
It takes a man to fuck a man. It takes a man to handle a real cock up his ass.
I assume because I am a man and you want to fuck me, you want me to act like a man. I hate wimpy fuckers. If you want to be with a man, act like one.
All good Bottom men will take their lovers to another level of sexual pleasure. A Power Bottom will make him feel invincible. Of course, we are seeking our own pleasure. However, for me, I must bring my Top to the edge of pain to know I’ve satisfied him. What do I mean “edge of pain.” I want his balls to hurt because I won’t let him cum
Just like the Top should prep his bottom, the Bottom should prep his Top. I like to start licking every part of his body. Every man has that one part, not his cock, tit, or ass, that drives him wild when licked or nibbled. My Top has two hot spots. The first is behind his ears, the other his where his leg meets his crotch by his balls. If I lick either of those places he goes crazy. Find that spot. It may take a little exploration, but that’s the fun part.
Suck his cock, deeply and long. Make him thrust deep in your throat as an introduction to what is waiting. Get him to theedge. Keep doing this until he can’t wait to pry open your man-cunt with his wet and hot prick. You will not regret the effort. The longer you tease and taunt him the longer he’ll fuck you.
If I have to initiate a position change keep my Top or me from shooting before I am ready, that’s what I’ll do. If I have “dismount” to give my Top a chance to cool down, so be it. I want to make the fuck session last as long as I need his prick inside me. I want to bring us both to the edge, cool down slightly and start pumping on his cock. I like to do this over and over again. When he finally can’t hold on any longer, I’ll allow us both to shoot our loads. But never before I have been completely and thoroughly satisfied. Still think getting fucked is submissive?
Gentlemen, we have this wonderful organ called the RECTUM. It is the key to your and our Top’s gratification. Get to know it well. there are two ring-like muscles called “sphincters.” Most of us are familiar with the outer sphincter. Get to know the inner one, as well. learn to control them so you can milk your Top’s cock dry. Do your kegel exercises often.
Of course you want to keep your rings in tip-top shape. that’s why Kegels are important. Learning to control them at key moments, (relaxing and contracting), will excite your top to no end. I can clamp my sphincters so tight, he can’t get in or out if I’m not done. I love the look on his face when I grab his cock with my ass muscles and pull him in without him pushing.
feel it is my duty to make my TOPS beg to shoot their loads. I can feel every time his cock throbs inside me. I know when to speed up or slow down. A good Top will also be in tune with his Bottom and stop pumping if he isn’t done yet. Simultaneous orgasm is always the goal. I however, have learned to have what I call ‘WHOLE BODY ORGASMS. These occur only after I’ve been getting fucked for more than 30 or 40 minutes. I get these unbelievable feelings washing over my entire body. It feels like an orgasm to the nth degree, but usually there isn’t an ejaculation. With my Top’s help I can go on like this for hours. He usually is only too happy to oblige my needs.
One tick I’ve learned almost every Top, (even the DRILL MASTERS), is to lightly finger their holes while they’re fucking me. Sometimes I have had to be persistent to get him to allow access to his man-hole. Some Tops are so anal about letting anybody touching their assholes,; but without exception, they will allow a little digital insertion.
My favorite position, to start, is always dogie. I can control the entry. I like to feel him slide in very slowly. It allows me to get used to his man-ness and his body’s heat. I can grab on with my muscles. I bear down and surround his cock with the soft sugar walls of my rectum and colon. I can feel and exploit every contour of his dick. When I hear him sigh, I know I can release him to get as wild as he wants. After that, I’m game for any fucking position. This one always hits the right spot.
I love it when we both reach climax simultaneously. I usually do not require direct penis stimulation to climax but I like when he jerks my cock and plays with my nuts. Sucking my nipples or kissing is always a major turn on. My ass muscles are so well conditioned that I can feel his rod get harder inside me. I can sense the base of his cock throb and veins bulge.I know he is close. I begin to use my sphincters to stimulate his cock to cum. As soon as I feel the first major pulse in his cock, I let mine shoot. He tries to get deeper and I grind my ass on his hips until I feel his the sexual spasms slow down and his breathing get deeper. LOOK AT HIS FACE.PHOTOS ARE ALWAYS HOTTER WHEN THE BOTTOM HAS AHARD-ONTOP’S THIS IS WHY WE GET FUCKEDTO FEEL LIKE HE DOES.
Another valuable trick I learned when I was 20. I was just learning how to bottom. I was in England and met this good-looking man named Nolan. Nolan is 15 years older. He had a beautiful 6" uncut, beer-can dick. One night he was fucking me on my stomach. It was feeling really good, maybe a little too good because I came too fast. I tried to hold on but his cock was hitting my glory gland and I couldn’t control myself. I felt awful because Nolan wasn’t even close.
Nolan just rolled us over on our sides, still hard and inside . He held me tightly. When he sensed I was about to “dismount,” her held me more tightly. He began to kiss my neck. His embrace made us both to lie very, very still. My prostate was excited and my ass lips inflamed. I could feel his dick swell and subside slightly, but he just held me so he wouldn’t slip out of my bougina. Nolan held me, sort of like these 2 men. We just stayed still for about 5 minutes, maybe longer. Nolan kept kissing me, playing with my nipples ad balls. It was very sensual. My cock started started getting hard again. My ass muscles began to clench his still stiff rod. Nolan moved his hips gently, I moaned. I few seconds later we were fucking like jack rabbits. this time I was able to outlast him. He finally shot his first load off about 30 minutes later. But he was a quick “re-load” and just kept screwing me for 2 hours. My ass was sore but I finally knew what a great fuck felt like. It may be Nolan who started on the path to becoming a Power Bottom. thanks, Nole.
If by some chance I cum before my Top, we do the same thing. I have him lie beside me very still. It is important for both of us to be very still. Within a few minutes my cock is rock hard and I can fuck for the rest of the day or night. I recommend this technique to any Bottom who cums before he wants. your first instinct may be to jump off his cock after cumming, but resist. Soon enough you will start enjoying him just be inside your man-cunt. The hard part is convincing your Top to lie still while inside you. Your ass muscles will be very excited and will contract involuntarily. He might confuse these contractions as a signal to start pounding you. Just have him relax.
I have this other little thing I do to get my Top off. It really turns me on but it is nasty too. I’ll do it if I cum or not. I want to make him feel fucking amazing. I like him to fuck me, as long as he wants. Then, I like to suck his cock and have him shoot in my throat. There is something about our two scents mixed together that really gets me hot.
I remember the first time I did this to him. At first he tried to stop me. But I whispered, “You eat my ass and then kiss me. So?” The look on his face as I swallowed his cock, to the base, was priceless. Now he tells me he can’t tell which feels better, cumming in my man-hole or throat. I try to get at least one shot in both holes during our fuck sessions.
I know how careful I am about my anal hygiene so for me it is no big deal. And I meant it, my Top will rim my ass until I beg him to fuck me. So I don’t see a difference. I would not recommend this activity unless you are completely comfortable with your own hygiene and your Top.
My goal is always to get my load off in a way that leaves me completely spent. I never want to remembered as a lazy fuck. I perform to my best every time. I’ll bet, even on an off night, I’m better than 99% of other Bottoms. As a Power Bottom I am a control freak, I cannot be satisfied until my Drill Master collapses in exhaustion, milked dry and breathless. Then and only then do I know I did my job well.
I hope I have given you some insight why I have a passion for ANAL FUCKING. When done properly is truly is an art form. It is a shame when it is performed poorly. If you are going to fuck or be fucked, put everything you’ve got into it.
Tell me your stories, ask me your questions. Happy fucking to all of your and thank you for reading this lengthy post. Look at the Top’s face. I’d say the bottom is doing his job well.
This list of sex positions includes descriptions of various forms of sexual intercourse and other sexual acts between people. Sexual acts are generally described by the positions the participants take in order to perform those acts. Since the number of positions that can be used for sex is essentially limitless, this list is not exhaustive.
Penetrative positions
These positions involve the insertion of a penis or other phallus (such as dildo) into anus.
Penetrating partner on top with front entry
These positions also be used for anal sex. The basic position is called the missionary position. In it, the receiving partner lies on their back with their legs apart. The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, facing them. The following variations are possible:
The penetrating partner stands in front of the receiving partner, whose legs dangle over the edge of a bed or some other platform.
The receiving partner lies on their back. The penetrating partner stands and lifts the receiving partner’s pelvis for penetration. A variant is for the receiving partner to rest their legs on the penetrating partner’s shoulders.
The receiving partner lies on their back, with their legs pulled up straight and their knees near their head. The penetrating partner holds the receiving partner’s legs and penetrates from above.
Similarly to the previous position, but the receiving partner’s legs need not be straight and the penetrating partner wraps their arms around the receiving partner to push their legs as close as possible to their chest.
Like the missionary position, but with the receiving partner’s legs tightly closed and the penetrating partner’s legs spread. In this position, the couple resembles a peace sign (minus the circle) and so this position is sometimes called by that name.
Penetrating from behind
Most of these positions can be used for anal penetration.
The receiving partner is on all fours with their torso horizontal. The penetrating partner inserts from behind. This is called the doggy position.
In a variant on the doggy position, the receiving partner’s torso is angled downwards. The penetrating partner can raise their own hips above those of the receiving partner for maximum penetration.
In another variant of the doggy position, the penetrating partner places their feet on each side of the receiving partner while keeping their knees bent and effectively raising up as high as possible while maintaining penetration. The penetrating partner’s hands usually have to be placed on the receiving partner’s back to keep from falling forward.
In a variant on the doggy position, the receiving partner kneels upright. The penetrating partner may gently pull the receiving partner’s arms backwards at the wrists towards them.
In the spoons position both partners lie on their same side facing in the same direction.
The receiving partner lies on their side. The penetrating partner kneels and penetrates from behind. Alternatively, the penetrating partner can stand if the receiving partner is on a raised surface.
The receiving partner lies facing down, possibly with their legs spread. The penetrating partner lies on top of them. The placement of a pillow beneath the receiving partner’s hips can help increase stimulation in this position.
The receiving partner lies face down, knees together. The penetrating partner lies on top with spread legs.
The receiving partner lies on their side with their uppermost leg forward. The penetrating partner kneels astride the receiver’s lowermost leg.
Receiving partner on top
Most of these positions can be used for anal penetration.
The penetrating partner lies on their back. The receiving partner kneels on top of the penetrator facing them. Sometimes called the cowboy or cowboy position.
As above, but the receiving partner sits on top of the penetrator facing away from them.
As above, but the receiving partner arches their back with their hands on the ground.
As above, but the receiving partner squats (instead of kneeling) on top of the penetrator facing toward them.
The penetrating partner is on their back with the receiving partner lying down on top with their knees brought forward against the ground.
The penetrating partner lies with their upper back on a low table, couch, chair or edge of bed, keeping their feet flat on the floor and back parallel to floor. The receiving partner straddles them, also keeping their feet on the floor. Receiving partner can assume any of various positions.
The lateral coital position was recommended by Masters and Johnson. The position involves the top man on his back, with the bottm rolled slightly to the side so that his anus is atop his, but his weight is beside him.
Sitting and kneeling
Most of these positions can be used for anal penetration.
The penetrating partner sits on a flat surface, legs outstretched. The receiving partner sits on top and wraps their legs around the penetrating partner. Called pounding on the spot. If the penetrator crosses their legs instead, it is called the lotus position.
The penetrating partner sits in a chair. The receiving partner straddles penetrating partner and sits, facing the penetrating partner, feet on floor. This is sometimes known as the lap dance. Other receiver-on-top variants can be adapted in this way as well.
The penetrating partner sits on a couch or in a chair that has armrests. The receiving partner sits in the penetrating partner’s lap, perpendicular to penetrating partner, with their back against the armrest.
The penetrating partner kneels while the receiving partner lies on their back, ankles on each side of penetrating partner’s shoulders.
Standing
Most of these positions can be used for anal penetration. In the basic standing position, both partners stand facing each other. The following variations are possible:
The penetrating partner stands, holding the receiving partner off the ground. The receiving partner wraps their legs around the penetrator’s waist and their arms around their shoulders.
As above, but the receiving partner’s back is pressed against a wall as a frictional support. This is called the supported congress in the Kama Sutra.
As above, but the penetrating partner’s back is pressed against a wall for stability. This is called the suspended congress in the Kama Sutra.
Both stand, the receiving partner facing away from the penetrating partner. This position is varied by having the receiving partner assume different semi-standing positions. For instance, they may bend at the waist, resting their hands or elbows on a table.
Anal-specific positions
Other sexual practices involving the anus, such as fingering, can also be adapted anally. However, some positions are not directly adaptable because of the different angles required for anal entry. Here are listed positions that work well for anal sex. The penetrator can either be a man witg a dildo (or similar).
Doggy style – see above. This position maximizes the depth of penetration, which may be desirable by either or both partners, but can pose the risk of pushing against the sigmoid colon. If the receiving partner is male, this increases the chances of stimulating the prostate. This position allows for vigorous thrusting. A variation is the leapfrog position, in which the receiving partner angles their torso downward. The receiving partner may also lie flat and face down, with the penetrating partner straddling their thighs.
Missionary – see above. In order to achieve optimal alignment, the receiving partner’s legs should be in the air with the knees drawn towards their chest. Some sort of support (such as a pillow) under the receiving partner’s hips can also be useful. The penetrating partner positions themselves between the receiving partner’s legs. This position is often cited as good for beginners, because it allows them to relax more fully than is usual in the “doggy” position.
Spoons – see above. This allows the receiving partner to greatly control initial entry and the depth, speed and force of subsequent thrusting.
Receiving partner on top – see above section. These are sometimes cited as a good beginning positions, as they allow the receptive partner more control over the depth, rhythm and speed of penetration. More specifically, the receptive partner can slowly push their anus down on the penetrator, allowing time for their muscles to relax.
Less common positions
These positions are more innovative, and perhaps not as widely known or practiced as the ones listed above.
The receiving partner is on bottom. The penetrating partner lies on top perpendicularly to them.
The penetrating partner lies on their back, legs spread. The receiving partner is on their back on top of the penetrator, legs spread, facing the opposite direction.
The penetrator and the receiver lie on their backs, heads pointed away from one another. Each places one leg on the other’s shoulder (as a brace) and the other leg out somewhat to the side.
The receiving partner lies on their back with knees up and legs apart. The penetrating partner lies on their side perpendicular to the receiver, with the penetrating partner’s hips under the arch formed by receiver’s legs. Sometimes called the T-square.
The receiving partner lies on their back with the penetrating partner lying perpendicular. The receiving partner bends the knee closest to the penetrating partner’s head enough so that there is room for the penetrating partner’s waist to fit beneath it, while the penetrating partner’s legs straddle the receiving partner’s other leg. The in-and-out thrusting action will move more along a side-to-side rather than top-to-bottom axis. This position allows for breast stimulation during sex, for partners to maintain eye contact if they wish, and for a good view of both partners as they reach orgasm.
The penetrating partner sits on edge of a bed or chair with feet spread wide on floor. The receiving partner lays on their back on the floor and drapes their legs and thighs over the legs of the penetrating partner. The penetrating partner holds the knees of the receiving partner and controls thrusts.
The Seventh Posture of Burton’s translation of The Perfumed Garden is an unusual position not described in other classical sex manuals. The receiving partner lies on their side. The penetrating partner faces the receiver, straddling the receiver’s lower leg, and lifts the receiver’s upper leg on either side of the body onto the crook of penetrating partner’s elbow or onto the shoulder. While some references describe this position as being “for acrobats and not to be taken seriously,” others have found it very comfortable.
The penetrator straddles one of the legs of the receiver, who is lying on their side. Sometimes known as the Gupta Straddle.
Using furniture or special apparatus
Most sex acts are typically performed on a bed or other simple platform. As the range of supports available increases, so does the range of positions that are possible. Ordinary furniture can be used for this purpose. Also, various forms of erotic furniture and other apparatus such as fisting slings and trapezes have been used to facilitate even more exotic sexual positions.
Non-penetrative genital-genital positions
Frot is rubbing erect penis against erect penis, especially the mutual rubbing of the frenula. A variety of sexual positions are possible. For instance, the partners may both be reclining, sitting, kneeling, or standing. In one more complicated position similar to the “double Y”, both partners recline on their backs, one partner’s legs over the other. Males may also engage in anal sex with eachother. During frot, a man can masturbate his and his partner’s penises simultaneously with one hand. He can also masturbate their penises with the foreskin of one penis over the glans of the other in a position called docking. Circumcised men can also use a sex toy called a “docking sleeve,” a tube-shaped device made of silicone, rubber or Cyberskin which takes the place of the foreskin.
Oral sex positions
Oral sex involves contact between the genitals and/or anus of one person (the passive partner) and the mouth of another (theactive partner).
Fellatio
Fellatio is oral sex involving a man’s genitals. Possible positions include:
The man lies on his back while his partner kneels between his legs.
The man lies on his back while his partner lies off to the side of his legs.
The man sits in a chair and partner kneels in front of him between his legs.
The man stands while his partner either kneels in front of him or sits (in a chair or on the edge of a bed, etc.) and bends forward.
While the active partner lies on their back, the man assumes the missionary position but adjusted forward so as to insert his penis in his partner’s mouth.
The man stands or crouches at the edge of the bed, facing the bed. The active partner lies on the bed with their head hanging over the edge of the bed backward. The man inserts his penis into his partner’s mouth, usually to achieve deep throat penetration.
The glory hole – the man inserts his penis into a hole in the wall or fence while someone (usually a complete stranger unseen by him) gives him fellatio from the other side of the wall. This act is vaguely reminiscent of the tale of Pyramus and Thisbe, but these two mythical lovers merely passed notes through a hole in the wall, rather than inserting body parts.
Anilingus
Positions for anilingus, also known as “rimming” or “anal-oral sex”, are often variants on those for genital-oral sex. Rimming-specific positions include:
The passive partner is on all fours as in the “doggy style” position. The active partner is behind them.
The passive partner is in the missionary position with their legs up.
Simultaneous oral sex
Simultaneous oral sex between two people is called 69. It is called the congress of the crow in theKama Sutra. Each partner may be male or female. They can be lying side-by-side, lying one on top of the other, or standing with one partner holding the other upside down.
Other positions
Non-penetrative
Fingering of the anus.
Frottage – rubbing one’s genitals on one’s partner. This is commonly done against the buttocks or their genitals.
Dry humping – frottage while clothed. This act is common, although not essential, in the dance style known as “grinding”.
Humping – thrusting one’s genitals against the surface of non-sexual objects, clothed or unclothed. This word is also used in the UK as slang for penetrative sex.
Handjob – grasping the penis and moving the hands up and down along its length.
Footjob – using the feet to stimulate the penis.
Penetrative
Fingering of the anus.
Shocker – simultaneously fingering a man’s anus with one’s thumb while stimulating his scrotum with the other fingers. This is done by making a shape with the hands as though one were holding the bowl of a wine glass.
Fisting – inserting the entire hand into the anus. This usually requires large amounts of lubricant and relaxation. The hand is usually not actually made into a fist, but instead the thumb is placed between the middle and ring fingers, hence the alternate name “duck-billing”.
Using dildos – using inanimate objects to penetrate the anus.
Group sex
Various assemblages of people may participate in group sex. While group sex does not imply that all participants must be in sexual contact with all others simultaneously, some positions are only possible with three or more people.
As with the positions listed above, more group sex positions become practical if erotic furniture is used.
With three participants
When three people have sex with each other, it is called a threesome. Possible ways of having all partners in sexual contact with each other include:
One person performs oral sex on either of the other two partners, while they engage in anusintercourse.
One person is on all fours while being penetrated from behind, simultaneously giving oral sex to a male. This is sometimes called fingercuffing. Anal variations exist.
Three partners lie or stand in parallel, with one between the other two. Sometimes called a sandwich. This term may specifically refer to the double penetration of a vers, with one penis in his anus, and the other in other anus.
A man has anal sex with a bottom and both give oral sex to a third person.
Three people perform oral sex in a triangular configuration.
Multiple penetrations
“Multiple penetration” refers to one person being sexually penetrated by several objects simultaneously. It generally involves between three and five participants. Penetration may be accomplished by fingers, sex toys, or penises. Attempting to accommodate multiple penis-sized objects in the anus can easily be painful, so it is not something that is likely to be done casually. These positions are popular in pornography, but it is difficult to say whether they enjoy any significant popularity outside of it. Positions that are limited to one penetrator per orifice are less challenging.
If one person is penetrated by two objects, it is generically called double penetration. Given the anus and mouth, there are six ways in which this can be done. These include
If one person is penetrated by three objects, it is generically called triple penetration. Possibilities include
Penetration by larger numbers of objects is rarer and generally not named, although it is clear how to extend the nomenclature given above. There is one well known exception:
Simultaneous penetration of the anus by two penises or other objects. This is commonly called double anal.
Simultaneous penetration of the mouth and anus. This is sometimes called the spit roast.
Three penises penetrating either the anus simultaneously.
Double anal penetration (DAP) – simultaneous penetration of anus by two penises. The term gained popularity after its inclusion in the movie Orgazmo by South Park co-creator Trey Parker, and is also the name of Parker’s and Matt Stone’s band.
These variations of multiple penetration are commonly seen in pornography aimed at straight men. Some of these positions put two men in intimate contact with each other, either directly or indirectly.
With many participants
These positions can be expanded to accommodate any number of participants.
A group of males masturbating one another in turn is called a circle jerk or bukkake in Japan. This term is also used to describe other male group masturbation activities.
A group of men each performing oral sex on the next, is called a daisy chain. This term is also sometimes means a group of men simultaneously penetrating and being penetrated by each other anally in a chain formation.
A group of men in a line, coupled to each other through anal or oral sex. This can form a full circle.
