I love kissing more than any other guy, and I love the feeling of getting a hickey. But here is something you might not realize if you give a hickey and if you leave a mark, then you are doing it WRONG!
Yes, there is something to be said about the marking your guy, saying This is mine!
But let’s be honest after the first time, hickeys are a pain in the ass! If anything, they make you look like you just fucked for the first time, or have absolutely no idea about what they are doing in bed.
So, let’s have a bit of re-education, and learn how to hickey without leaving your boyfriend embarrassed for the next week, and actually, improve your technique to feel BETTER than it ever did before!
Don’t Suck!
Yes yes, I know that we all have this innate instinct to suck suck suck! But what you are really doing is pulling blood to the surface of the skin and breaking tiny blood vessels leaving behind a purple mark. Yuck.
I know what you are probably thinking, That’s stupid, hickeys mean sucking!, but I want you to remember that names can be misleading just think about blowjobs, where if you actually “blow”, you would actually make a fool of yourself!
Here is no different. So let’s stop this bad habit here and now. Forget every notion you have about sucking and put this bad idea deep into the closet and lock it away!
Find His Sensitive Spot
The reason hickeys feel so good isn’t because of the sucking it is because you are actually stimulating a very sensitive part of your neck. The rush you get from the almost ticklish feeling is actually a protective instinct to protect your essential arteries. When you let someone get this close and this intimate, you are actually showing a level of trust, and this sensitivity is what makes it feel so good.
The key here is to stimulate these same nerves more intensely without damaging the skin.
Use Your Tounge
Your tongue can do magic, so put it to use! To get the effect we are looking for, you want to use your tongue to apply pressure. This means you need to stiffen it, and push in on his neck. The pressure is key don’t let it flop around like a dog.
And speaking of dogs, a little spit is ok, but don’t get him soaking wet (unless that is what he is into). You want to find a nice balance of pressure and movement that is powerful but not painful.
Next, use your tongue and massage the sides of his neck where his arteries run, working up from his clavicle to the lower part of his jaw. Put some passion and work in some kissing. The more energy and excitement you can give, the better and more turned on he will get!
Once you get the right balance you will absolutely drive him up a wall! When done right, it is one of the best feeling foreplay you can possibly give.
And there you go! No more ugly marks or embarrassing next day walks of shame. Best of all, your hickeys will feel better than they ever hid before!
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Showing posts with label Cuddling Kissing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cuddling Kissing. Show all posts
Kissing
Is there really the need for an article about kissing? Apparently yes. And not just because many of you have asked it. Kissing is a vital part of intimacy, and as such it is very important to master its secrets. Because I can tell for sure that I can’t probably list all the people I’ve kissed, but I can immediately remember all of thebad kisser I’ve met along the way.
Kissing is basically about touching or caressing with your lips. As a matter of fact, you can alos simply kiss the screen while you’re reading this…. but it’s not really easy for me to feel something about it:-) Realkisses and especially French Kissing involve a lot more than just opening your lips a bit. There’s a huge involvement needed of all of your body in this act, starting from all the elements of your mouth that are directly involved (lips, teeth, tongue, chin) as well as your other facial elements (nose, eyes) and the rest of your body (hands, feet, legs, arms….).
That’s why kissing is about a real involvement of your whole body.
Well… apparently so. But not really many people do feel this as important. And some of them fail in this vital part of man to man contact.
And a last remark: if you’re among those people that “don’t kiss” while having (casual) sex: sorry to say that you’re missing the most wonderful part of a human connection!
gayspirit.me/post/7486065677/141-kissing
Kissing is basically about touching or caressing with your lips. As a matter of fact, you can alos simply kiss the screen while you’re reading this…. but it’s not really easy for me to feel something about it:-) Realkisses and especially French Kissing involve a lot more than just opening your lips a bit. There’s a huge involvement needed of all of your body in this act, starting from all the elements of your mouth that are directly involved (lips, teeth, tongue, chin) as well as your other facial elements (nose, eyes) and the rest of your body (hands, feet, legs, arms….).
That’s why kissing is about a real involvement of your whole body.
Ten Tips for the Perfect Make Out
Here a couple of steps to think about but don’t follow these steps as an “how to” guide. There’s nothing worst that a technical kiss. Instead use these tips to reason after, and see what went wrong.- Watch him in his eyes. Eye contact is vital during the approach before kissing. You may well close your eyes during the kiss, but before, while you approach him, look straight into his eyes. It’s the exact moment where your eyes show up your inner emotions and intimacy charge, and thus it is really important to do so.
- Approach him, get nearer, avoid distance during this act, as it could make things more difficult. If it is the first time you kiss, make sure you leave a bit of room between you two initially, as a form of respecting his vital space. But once he left you in, make sure you get in contact with him.
- Prepare your lips, relax them, if they are dry try to moisturize them with the tip of your tongue (but you should always make sure to have a moisturizer lip stick with you). The approach itself to kissing will release a mouthwatering effect. But don’t overdo.
- Connect. There’s something secret in the way two people connect while kissing. Some move their head on one side, some on the other, some close their eyes, some keep them open. There’s no rule set for this, as long as your lips touch each other.Just make sure you don’t lean back, as this can be perceived as a very bad sign!
- Open your lips. When you’ve connected, move your lips slight open. Leave your tongue out of the game for a moment. This is the moment where you exchange your mutual breathe. Many poets have described this moment as the real significance of a kiss. So give your self a bit of time to enjoy this.
- Move on slowly and gently start exploring your partner’s lips with the tip of your tongue. When you feel his tongue against yours, retract it for a second. There’s a discovery pattern in this phase that should be respected.
- Move your body, depending on where you are of course, but as I mentioned kissing is also abouttouching you partner’s body. Move your hands along his body, hug him, move your legs, knees, feet, explore his body while you kiss him.
- Further explore, get in motion. Start exploring his mouth slowly, roll your tongue against his, explore his teeth, bite him gently on his lips. Remember there’s no rush, don’t overdo! Way too many people fail in this phase, as they appear to be willing to invade their partner’s mouth, instead of just kissing it!
- Take a break if you have the time, break your kiss sometime, and open your eyes and look into his eyes. This way you should feel if he’s enjoying it or not. This is especially important if you normally close your eyes while kissing, since the eye contact will further reconnect you.
- Ending the kiss, is a very delicate phase. Slowly disconnect, sort of doing the reverse path you’ve followed, closing slowly your mouth, retracting your tongue, until you can disconnect, and slowly open your eyes. THE GOAL IS TO MAKE SURE YOU BOTH WANT ANOTHER KISS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
Well… apparently so. But not really many people do feel this as important. And some of them fail in this vital part of man to man contact.
The Biggest mistakes in kissing
There are many mistakes that people can do while kissing. Here’s a hit of the 5 most common kiss killers I’ve experience in my life:- Mouth Attack: there’s nothing worst that somebody stacking his wide open mouth on your face with his tongue already out to its full extent. Kissing needs time, as it needs to be an evolving pattern of intimacy development. So take your time, and start slowly!
- The Anaconda Kiss: some people think that kissing is about pulling all of their tongue into your mouth. Even if you go for a slower pattern, you should not exceed in any direction! Also because the most sensitive part of your tongue is the tip, so use that one!
- The Grandma Peck: have to tell this story. I once dated a guy who was really beautiful. He was a model, the kind of man you think “why is he going out with me?”. We had a nice dinner with some other people, then I went at his place. When we entered he approached for a kiss (so it was his initiative), but all what he did was pushing his lips against mine, then slowly open them and have the first two millimeters of his tongue hang outside… It really felt like my Grandma’s kisses on my cheeks when I was a Kid! Put some energy in it!!!
- Bad Breath: if you intend to kiss somebody, brush your teeth, use some mouth polish and take care about what you’re eating! This is especially vital when you meet at first (somehow I believe that “breath” is one of those intimate problems that unite a couple). But again, don’t overdo! A person I met once had to always take a tic-tac before kissing… which may be a bit too much!
- Mouth Bath, as I mentioned is normal when you kiss to produce more saliva. But… please avoid sharing all of it with your partner! Don’t be sloppy!
Summarizing
I hope I was able to give some hints on the (french) kissing part. Of course these are just tips, you need to make sure you find and follow your own way of kissing. As long as you’re able to relax, involve all of your body and dedicate time, any kissing experience can become great! Whether it’s a foreplay or just a “one stand” kiss, make sure you do it as it was your best kiss ever. People will never forget you!And a last remark: if you’re among those people that “don’t kiss” while having (casual) sex: sorry to say that you’re missing the most wonderful part of a human connection!
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How to Spoon for Gay Men: Ultimate Cuddling Guide
The Art of Gay Spooning
Spoons fit together almost perfectly – particularly if they are gay spoons. This intimate cuddling activity is allows you and that special someone in your life to snuggle in a way that exudes romance while also speaking to something very primal – safety and trust.What is Spooning?
Spooning is basically the art of cuddling. It is the ultimate way a couple can show intimacy towards one another outside of sex. What many people do not know is that spooning also fosters greater intimacy and can be a variation of sensate focus, an approach used in couples intimacy therapy to create closeness.This brief guide for gay spooning has been especially designed for guys who want to love on one another in a way that is fun and comforting while also taking into account the male physique. You don’t have to be partnered to spoon and can in fact be a single gay man if you are looking for an alternative to a hookup.
Spooning should be an activity both parties want to engage in and won’t work well if you are dealing with a narcissistic gay.
Spooning also might not work well for certain personality types who are unable to engage in intimacy.
Some of what follows may seem intuitive while other parts may give you pause to reflect. Read them all so that you are better able to understand how spooning works in tandem.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
Big Spoon + Little Spoon
Part 1: Mastering Spooning Techniques
1. Figure your spooning sizes. For most gay men, the size of our bodies tends to be different than the person we are cuddling with. Here are some considerations:- The small spoon: This would usually be the smaller guy.
- The big soon: This commonly is the bigger guy. Not always but typically.
- A simple test to see who is best as “big spoon” vs. “small spoon” is to see which person is typically hugging on the other guy while laying down. The hugger is the big spoon.
Here are some other considerations:
- Allow enough room for the little spoon to wiggle and maneuver.
- It’s OK for the big spoon to rest his arm on the smaller spoon’s leg instead of the waist area.
- Allow the smaller spoon to position his feet in a way that is perpendicular to the big spoon’s legs.
For this unique position, the bigger spoon lies on his side. The little spoon should get curled up in the fetal position in a way that is facing the stomach of the big spoon. Conversely, the big spoon should hug the smaller spoon with one or both arms.
Other considerations for this approach:
- Interlock one leg between spoons
- Play footsies
- Simply have one spoon’s leg touching the other spoon’s leg. Similar to how a cat or dog might place one paw on his master while he sleeps as a sign of closeness.
All that is necessary here is for the two of you to face one another, laying on your sides. The big spoon and little spoon, with arms extended in the “Statue of Liberty” position will join hands.
If both of you are drastically different in height, make sure the both of you are position at the midsection of the bed so that your extended arms to not get blocked by a wall.
7. Head to Head Spoon. This cute approach to spooning allows both guys to realize maximum comfort. Both spoons should lie flat on their backs. Position the side of each of your heads in a way that touches one another.
8 Trade Spooning Positions. For variety’s sake, try switching positions. In other words, if the big spoon traditionally is doing the cuddling, allow the smaller spoon to assume this position.
The nice thing about gay spooning is that gender roles don’t matter. After all, the both of you are guys!
9. Movie Spoon. Your spooning activities aren’t restricted to sleep time. You can also spoon when you are just chilling, like watching a movie.
Part 2 of 2: Avoid the Uncomfortable
Sometimes, one of the two spooners may need to have a little space. This is particularly true when it comes to sleeping. There are people who don’t like to be held while they asleep because they feel confined. This is normal.If you are looking for some practical tips to get out of your gay spooning situation without hurting your partner, we have some practical tips.
- Gently tell your partner outside of spooning activities that you are one of those guys who needs “space” when sleeping. Give him the greenlight to spoon but also let him know that at some point, you may subconsciously move wiggle yourself to more space and to not get offended.
- Create an escape noise to signify and end to the spooning. A well timed grunt or yawn will be the indicator that you are about to turn over or scoot over to the other side of the bed.
- Roll away. For this maneuver, you simply roll to the other side of the bed. It is suggested that you combine the roll-away with an escape noise to minimize hurt feelings. Do your best to pretend you are asleep so that your partner assumes this was a natural, unintentional move.
Gay Spoon Poll
Just for fun, we are publishing a gay spoon poll for you to vote in. Read each choice carefully so that you can make the best choice for your situation. Remember – no two spoons are alike!
Straight College Jocks Love to Spoon: Don’t Care About Erections (Study)
Not only do they like to spoon, they also could care less if they pop wood when cuddling. Some even grab.
A somewhat recent study out of the UK reveals that straight college jocks really love to snuggle, spoon and cuddle with one another. Not only that – many don’t care if are erect when it happens.Behavioral researchers from the University of Winchester and Durham University set out to find out how young, heterosexual athletes felt about tactile interactions with other men.
Using a small sample size of 40 students between the ages of 18-19 years old, the investigators conducted in-depth, structured, qualitative interviews to get to the answers.
Highlights from the Straight Boys Cuddling Study:
- 39 of the 40 male athletes revealed they had slept in the same bed at least once with another male student.
- A majority suggested they hopped into the sack with a buddy when they were “piss drunk” per the research narrative.
- All 40 participants said sharing a bed with another man was “normal” to them.
- 37 of the athletes shared the two main locations they spoon and cuddle is in the bed and on the couch.
- Most of the cuddling occurred with nothing on but underwear.
Spooning, Straight Men and Erections
Perhaps more revealing in this study is the information pertaining to spooning, cuddling and getting an erection.Because many of the athletes stripped down to their skivvies before pulling one of their jock buddies close, researchers wanted to know what their attitudes were if someone popped wood.
One participant named Sam said the following: “No. There are no worries about boners. I mean, of course you get them every morning, [but] it’s not a problem.”
Another jock named Jarrett said, ‘‘I’ve woken up with one before. We all have. If we’re fully awake, then we’ll banter about it.”
The researchers also wanted to know if there were any limitations to the touching – were there things that went too far?
Here is what Stephen had to say: ‘‘Never! Sometimes you grab his c*ck, sort of as a joke, particularly if he’s got a semi going.”
The study’s investigators, Eric Anderson and Mark McCormack from University of Winchester and Durham University respectively point out:
“It is also noticeable how several participants use their hangover, and thus high alcohol consumption, when discussing their erection.”
The observations from Anderson and McCormack are in line with a newer phenomenon on the cultural front called heteroflexibility,
which is the phenomenon whereby an otherwise “straight” man will engage in something deemed homosexual and base the behavior on substance use.
www.gaypopbuzz.com/straight-guys-spoon-cuddle/
How to Spoon for Gay Men: Ultimate Cuddling Guide with Pictures!
The Art of Gay Spooning
Spoons fit together almost perfectly – particularly if they are gay spoons. This intimate cuddling activity is allows you and that special someone in your life to snuggle in a way that exudes romance while also speaking to something very primal – safety and trust.What is Spooning?
Spooning is basically the art of cuddling. It is the ultimate way a couple can show intimacy towards one another outside of sex. What many people do not know is that spooning also fosters greater intimacy and can be a variation of sensate focus, an approach used in couples intimacy therapy to create closeness.This brief guide for gay spooning has been especially designed for guys who want to love on one another in a way that is fun and comforting while also taking into account the male physique. You don’t have to be partnered to spoon and can in fact be a single gay man if you are looking for an alternative to a hookup.
Spooning should be an activity both parties want to engage in and won’t work well if you are dealing with a narcissistic gay.
Spooning also might not work well for certain personality types who are unable to engage in intimacy.
Some of what follows may seem intuitive while other parts may give you pause to reflect. Read them all so that you are better able to understand how spooning works in tandem.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
Big Spoon + Little Spoon
Part 1: Mastering Spooning Techniques
1. Figure your spooning sizes. For most gay men, the size of our bodies tends to be different than the person we are cuddling with. Here are some considerations:- The small spoon: This would usually be the smaller guy.
- The big soon: This commonly is the bigger guy. Not always but typically.
- A simple test to see who is best as “big spoon” vs. “small spoon” is to see which person is typically hugging on the other guy while laying down. The hugger is the big spoon.
2. Try the Traditional Spoon. For this position, the big spoon guy lies on his side and the little spoon guy puts his back to the stomach of the big spoon. In many cases, the two of you will take on a cuddly fetal position. For experienced gay-spooners, it is well accepted that the big spoon should wrap his arm around the midsection of the little spoon.
Here are some other considerations:
- Allow enough room for the little spoon to wiggle and maneuver.
- It’s OK for the big spoon to rest his arm on the smaller spoon’s leg instead of the waist area.
- Allow the smaller spoon to position his feet in a way that is perpendicular to the big spoon’s legs.
3. Try the Ball and Spoon. In this position, the big spoon lies on his or her side, and the little spoon should then curl into a fetal position facing the stomach of the big spoon. The big spoon should then hug the little or Baby Spoon with both arms.
For this unique position, the bigger spoon lies on his side. The little spoon should get curled up in the fetal position in a way that is facing the stomach of the big spoon. Conversely, the big spoon should hug the smaller spoon with one or both arms.
4. Try the Stomach Spoon. For this fun move, the bigger spoon will lie on his back, preferably with his head propped by a pillow for greater comfort. The smaller spoon should lie on top of the bigger spoon’s chest, shoulder or midsection, with the face down. To increase intimacy and cuteness, hug on one another.
5. Try the Back to Back Spoon. What’s nice about this approach to spooning is the ability to move freely. Both the bigger and littler spoon should position their backs against one another. One or both legs of each person can be rested upon one another. You can also do this one face to face.
Other considerations for this approach:
- Interlock one leg between spoons
- Play footsies
- Simply have one spoon’s leg touching the other spoon’s leg. Similar to how a cat or dog might place one paw on his master while he sleeps as a sign of closeness.
All that is necessary here is for the two of you to face one another, laying on your sides. The big spoon and little spoon, with arms extended in the “Statue of Liberty” position will join hands.
If both of you are drastically different in height, make sure the both of you are position at the midsection of the bed so that your extended arms to not get blocked by a wall.
7. Head to Head Spoon. This cute approach to spooning allows both guys to realize maximum comfort. Both spoons should lie flat on their backs. Position the side of each of your heads in a way that touches one another.
8 Trade Spooning Positions. For variety’s sake, try switching positions. In other words, if the big spoon traditionally is doing the cuddling, allow the smaller spoon to assume this position.
The nice thing about gay spooning is that gender roles don’t matter. After all, the both of you are guys!
9. Movie Spoon. Your spooning activities aren’t restricted to sleep time. You can also spoon when you are just chilling, like watching a movie.
Part 2: Avoid the Uncomfortable
Sometimes, one of the two spooners may need to have a little space. This is particularly true when it comes to sleeping. There are people who don’t like to be held while they asleep because they feel confined. This is normal.If you are looking for some practical tips to get out of your gay spooning situation without hurting your partner, we have some practical tips.Gently tell your partner outside of spooning activities that you are one of those guys who needs “space” when sleeping. Give him the greenlight to spoon but also let him know that at some point, you may subconsciously move wiggle yourself to more space and to not get offended.Create an escape noise to signify and end to the spooning. A well timed grunt or yawn will be the indicator that you are about to turn over or scoot over to the other side of the bed.Roll away. For this maneuver, you simply roll to the other side of the bed. It is suggested that you combine the roll-away with an escape noise to minimize hurt feelings. Do your best to pretend you are asleep so that your partner assumes this was a natural, unintentional move.
www.gaypopbuzz.com/how-to-spoon-for-gay-men-ultimate-cuddling-guide-with-pictures/
10 Types of Gay Kisses Decoded: Learn What His Kiss REALLY Means!
Gay kisses and meanings
There are probably more ways to kiss a guy than there are stars in the sky. How you kiss and what it means says something different about your feelings, be it during sex or on a casual date.The problem is when you are on the receiving end of a kiss, it can be hard to figure out his intent. This is particularly true if you are crushing on a man and getting your signals messed up.
Well don’t worry – here’s a handy field guide to the major types of gay kisses, plus how to read his smooch like a pro!
1. Quick peck on lips
This common type of kiss is often misread. The main reason a guy will give you this type of lip action is because he’s got stuff on his mind or is busy. But behind that peck, he’s basically saying, “I want to do more soon and maybe make out.”If you are just getting to know one another, a peck can also communicate “We aren’t there yet but let’s continue to feel each other out.”
2. Long peck
When you get a long peck, it’s an indication he’s got real interest in you. This type of kiss means he’s testing the waters so see your reaction.Pay special attention if he looks into your eyes. He’s signaling that he’s really into you and wants more than a roll in the sack.
3. Woodpecker
If you get a rapid series of quick kisses, don’t read it the wrong way. When a man gives you a woodpecker kiss, he’s basically saying he doesn’t have time in that moment to take it to the next level.Plus, if it’s morning, he might need to rinse out his mouth and take care of “morning breath”.
4. French Kiss (Basic)
When you get the standard French kiss, this means you may be on the way to something substantive. French kisses involve tongue action and communicate, “I want to do a lot more with you.”5. French Kiss (Lizard)
If the man you are with is darting his tongue in and out of your mouth in rapid succession, it’s called a lizard kiss. Yep, if it conjures up mental imagery of a gecko, you are on the right track.In almost all instances, this is an indication that he wants to mess around and looking to top you! After all, he’s aggressively darting in and out.
6. Eating your face French Kiss
If you ever get a kiss when a man is basically sucking in your entire face, it’s an obvious sign he’s looking to get it on.But this type of kiss – sometimes referred to as a saliva beard – is a strong signal that he wants to bottom.
Think about it.
Why do you think he’s opening up his mouth hole so much? The symbolism is pretty obvious.
7. Long passionate kiss
Out of all of the kisses mentioned here, the long passionate kiss is the most desired. In almost all instances, he will pull you close and slowly seduce your mouth with his lips and tongue.Like the long peck, look for eye contact. If he’s giving you a serious, romantic kiss, while gazing directly into your eyes and isn’t trying to touch your junk, he has very strong feelings for you.
8. Kiss and lick
Have you ever been kissed by a guy who licks on your ears and gently pushes his tongue around your face? This is a strong indication that he’s looking to spoon and cuddle.Take this as a sign that he wants to get his romance on. And yes, he’s looking to make love to you!
8. Kiss and Grr
When a man kisses you and makes a “grr” or growling sign, he’s sending you strong alpha wolf signals that he wants to mess around in a versatile way.Wolves usually telegraph their intent in advance by looking intently at you while making this type of noise. Get ready because he’s going to rock your world!
9. Kiss and bite
This type of kiss is intended to be playful. Gay otters and bears enjoy this nibble like approach to smooching because of their playful nature.FYI: The bites are almost always gentle and send the message, “I want some foreplay”. Your best bet is to go along with it as a build up to heavier action.
10. Forehead or cheek kiss
One type of kiss you don’t want to get is the forehead or cheek kiss. That’s because it’s a fairly strong indication he’s not into you.But you have to put this one in context.
If you’ve been together for a while, it’s normal. However, if this is how he kisses you right off the bat and seems reluctant to touch his lips to yours, move on – quickly!
www.gaypopbuzz.com/gay-kisses-meaning/
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