Castity

Why is it hot?

Those that enjoy chastity enjoy that feeling that comes from being horned up. There is an energy to that sexual feeling that can be very gratifying. I find that I reach my peek of sexual frustration around two weeks and I become more interested in pleasing another man as it builds. There is some sexual release in physical contact and helping someone else get off. My submission comes to a head when I’m on edge. I reached out to Altairboy from Altairboy’s Chastity Site, an excellent and comprehensive resource on chastity, for his perspective and he agreed by saying:

“Without a willing partner in the chastity "play” the whole exercise would be sorely lacking.  I mean, honestly, where is  the fun in solo play?“

Those Doms reading this should take note, you can keep a boy locked in chastity much longer if you see him from time to time and require more than simply being locked. There is more responsibility to being a key-holder than simply holding the key. Some people seek out "cyber key-holders,” and get their stimulation through web cams or simple lack of access to their “junk,” but it’s never the same as having a key-holder you see regularly. It’s the Dom’s job to torment, stimulate, and ramp up the sexual frustration as high as possible. If the Dom allows the locked boy to serve him/her regularly the sky can be the limit. That service doesn’t need to be physical.  Making the boy keep himself shaved, cut his hair the way you like, do your laundry, clean your house, watch porn, chat with guys on sex sites, or even requiring him to hook up with no release can all be very exciting. The boy is far less likely to cheat and figure out how to get off while in chastity or remove the device without your permission if he knows that you are part of the process.

If you want to go for long term chastity you must keep in mind that occasional prostate milking might be necessary. I’m fortunate in that excess semen comes out when I pee after a while, but the prostate does need to drain itself from time to time. Done correctly, milking isn’t the same as an orgasm, everything just kinda globs out. The chastity device doesn’t even need to be removed first. This does however temporarily reduce the sexual frustration, which makes building it back up all the better.

Choosing a Device

There are three basic types of chastity devices. All devices have their advantages and disadvantages. At the end of the day the wearer and key-holder have to decide what their chastity goal is.

Ball-Capture Devices

These devices work by trapping the penis in a tube and are held in place by holding the balls between a ring and the penis tube. This style was made popular by the cb-2000 and subsequent models from cb-x.com. They can be made of plastic, metal, silicone, or leather. None of these devices are foolproof, but they do have the advantage of long term comfort, easier hygiene  and relative invisibility under clothing. Proper sizing is a necessity when putting one of these devices on. Most have different options with rings and tube size, so measuring is a must.

“Traditional” Metal Belts

Metal belts are the mac daddy of chastity. These devices can be worn indefinitely with fewer comfort concerns. The down side is that they are expensive, difficult to properly adjust to the wearers anatomy, and not conducive to an active lifestyle. Most chastity subs dream of owning one of these devices some day. There are many instances of these devices being worn for months at a time without interruption. Hybrid versions of these devices have merged the metal belt with a plastic device with limited results. Despite the downsides, these devices are the best option for long term chastity.

“Play” Chastity Devices

Possibly the hottest category to look at and try on. These devices come in leather, metal, and rubber. They are rarely functional for long term wear, but great for extended play sessions. Mr. S has an extensive collection of these devices to look at and lust after. Unlike the other two categories, these devices can’t always be worn under clothing, make going to the bathroom difficult or impossible, and can be made of materials that don’t work for daily wear. These limitations don’t diminish how hot these devices can be. Their relative short term comfort make them perfect to play in.

Daily Wear

Chastity Subs develop many systems for keeping their chastity experience as pleasant as possible. Cleanliness and comfort are the biggest issue for wearers of chastity devices. This advice is for wearers of ball-capture devices, as they are what I have the most experience with.

• LUBE, LUBE, LUBE! lubricant is your friend. It allows your penis to move up and down the tube as it tries to get hard and prevents the ring from hurting the underside of your balls. Apply it regularly  especially at night. I’ve always used silicone based lube, but I’ve heard good things about mineral oil. Do not use water based lubes, they won’t last long enough.
• Older cb-3000 models comes with a hinged rings. Thankfully this has been corrected with newer models. If you have a 3000 you’ve never been able to do more than a day or two in, do yourself a favor and get your hands on a set of cb-2000 rings. They will make the whole experience MUCH BETTER.
• Air holes make cleaning easier, but over time they become an issue. Sensitive flesh pops out and gets pinched. Save yourself the hassle and put a small piece of medical tape over the holes each morning. You can easily remove it to clean out and it saves the embarrassment of getting pinched while in public and not being able to address it.
• Q-tips are your friends. Carry some with you all the time. They can help apply more lubricant inside your tube, clean out disgusting dried gunk after your hornyness has resulted in constant pre-cum, and adjust your sensitive bits if things end up where they shouldn’t be.
• Buy a shower shot or something like it. Before I had one of these I used to lie on my back and scooch up to the bath faucet to get water inside my cage to rinse out. Now I can just spray out. It’s much higher pressure and feels amazing, though with no release.

Related Fetishes

Chastity pairs with several other fetishes very well. Some mundane, relatively speaking, and some extreme. I may explore some of these fetishes in more depth in the future, but for now I’m give an overview and send you to some great resources.

• Cuckolding: Do you get jealous? What if you could channel that jealousy into sexual gratification? Cucks or cuckolds get off by watching their partner have sex with someone else, or have their partner tell them about sex with other people. Cuckolding is more popular in strait kinky circles. Sometimes there is a D/s element, sometimes chastity is enforced, but the idea is that they are “less than” the one who is having sexual access to their partner.
• Forced Feminization: Like cuckolding, forced feminization is more popular with strait people. The idea is that a man can be reduced by being “forced” to dress or act like a woman. It’s common to see a man in panties, hose and garters while also locked in chastity. It all plays into a symbolic removal of his manhood and an expectation that he focus on his partner’s sexual needs before his own.
• Castration: Nothing makes a man squirm more than the thought of something happening to his junk. Most would be surprised that castration is a common fetish. Men can be focused on the scene which results in the removal of their testicles or the realities of living life afterwards. The castrated male will see an immediate drop in his sex drive, weight gain, and other physical side effects unless he opts to take replacement hormones. Humiliation and a desire to serve without distraction is often a factor for subs.

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I never knew just how important a male chastity lifestyle was to some people until I had three different relationships end because of it. I call this my Unenlightened Period where there was no way that I was going to be involved in anything that limited my participation in and appreciation of having sex. This was a time in my life where I really thought that the only way to enjoy sex was to, well, have it! To my understanding at that time, living chastely meant that I either wasn’t going to be having sex or that I was going to have to be granted permission before that was going to happen. No way was I going to give into that way of living!



All of that was before the lifestyle was explained to me in a way that I could understand as well as see what the benefits and advantages could be in living that way. Prior to my being enlightened, I was involved in what I believed to be a very loving and amazing relationship with a gorgeous man named Erick. When I say “gorgeous” I do mean that he was so beautiful to look at that sometimes I just watched the man sleep. Weird, I know. But I was on the verge of being obsessed with this man, and naturally, I wanted to have sex with him a lot!

Feeling this way about him in no way prepared me for the day he brought up the idea of adding a chastity element to our relationship. Now, at first I assumed that he was talking about him being the one cavorting about in a chastity cage. While I wasn’t all that thrilled with doing that, I was willing to go along with it if he really wanted to wear one of those things once in a while. However, the more he talked, it became clear that he was of the notion that it would be me who would be wearing these devices and he would be the designated Key Holder. I tried to reason with him because there was just no way that I was interested in having my penis restricted any in way.
As I said before, I loved sex and chastity seemed like it would be taking that away from me. Erick kept trying to explain how it would be really exciting and a lot of other words that I would never have assigned to a chastity lifestyle. Finally, I had to just flatly refuse. He wasn’t hearing me say no in all of those other ways that I was trying to do it politely. So I had no choice. This wasn’t going to happen with me and he needed to understand that. When I did make him understand, Erick got very quiet and then asked me if that was my final say on the matter. I replied that it was.

Apparently, a male chastity lifestyle was rather important to him because the next day he packed and left. I can’t tell you how much that hurt, not to mention how much I missed having sex with him. At first, I was pretty sure that no one would ever be able to replace Erick. Admittedly, I cried for days on end. There were even times that I was sure I had made a huge mistake by refusing to even consider what he wanted. After all, if I had agreed to wear one of those chastity devices, Erick would still be with me. But I couldn’t help thinking what a waste that would be if I wasn’t able to have sex with him.

Next, there was Jared. I had moved on from the incident and was out with friends at a great club one night. There was a man that I had made eye contact with almost immediately upon walking into the club. He wasn’t as gorgeous as Erick, but he certainly wasn’t too shabby. Finally, he sent a drink over to me by the bartender. I saluted him as a way of thanking him and gave him my most seductive smile. Eventually, we started talking and we became inseparable. That relationship lasted several months and we got along wonderfully. We had so much in common and the sex was amazing.

However, it wasn’t long before the past repeated itself and Jared started talking about practicing chastity. My heart sank as he started the conversation because I already knew where it was going. What I couldn’t figure out is why did these men keep doing this to me? Was I lacking in some way that they just had to have something so diverse thrown in? I had been told that I was pretty good in bed, or anywhere else that sex happened. So why was this whole chastity thing becoming such a big deal? I couldn’t understand it and, of course, Jared was already having visions of being the Key Holder and how he would control me.

I wasn’t going to be controlled through chastity or anything else. That’s what I tried to find a nice way to say to him. In fact, I even offered to go along with his desire as long as I would be the Key Holder. Something else I found out this time around is that these guys that are all amped about playing with chastity items aren’t excited about wearing them. As much as I cared for Jared, I simply couldn’t agree to something that I knew I would hate. So, once more, I offered to play the role of Key Holder if he was totally committed to doing this, but I made it clear that it wouldn’t happen any other way.

Jared exited much the same way that Erick had. If he couldn’t live the lifestyle the way he wanted it, then he would look elsewhere and find someone that was more in tune with his desires. Out the door he went and he never looked back. This one didn’t hurt as much as Erick, but it still bummed me out for a while.

Since I’m a pretty attractive guy, it didn’t take long to find Rob. I really had high hopes for my relationship with him. He was everything that I had always wanted in a man and he seemed to feel the same way about me. It was after we had celebrated our first anniversary together when he sat me down and started talking about male chastity. This time, I totally lost my mind along with my composure.
I demanded to know why so many guys thought that locking up our most precious route to pleasure was a great idea. Most likely, I kind of scared Rob but I really was fed up. To his credit, Rob did try to explain to me what it meant to him but all I could hear was him saying the same things I had already heard twice before. He wanted me to wear a chastity device and he would keep the key and make the decisions of when I would be allowed to have sex. I told him no, no and no!

So once more, the idea of a chastity lifestyle had led to the demise of my relationship. Rob packed up and I was alone once more. I stayed that way for quite a while this time around. I wasn’t excited about risking my heart getting shattered again. Going out with friends was about all I was interested in doing. There were some one night stands in there but I was staying far away from relationships. That’s why it took so long for me to hook up with Cameron. I must give total credit to him because he really pursued me even after I kept brushing him off.

That should give you an idea of just how special Cam is. However, he, too, brought up the idea of chastity. He must have seen the look on my face because immediately he sat down beside me and took my hand. All he wanted was to talk and he was more than willing to explain what he wanted. This time I didn’t feel ambushed. Cam gently explained that he only wanted to experiment and that we could switch off being the Key Holder. He could probably see that I still wasn’t convinced so he got his laptop and turned it on.

I was a little curious as to why he would need his laptop for this discussion but I didn’t say anything. The truth is that I was very happy with Cam and that I didn’t want to lose another man due to disagreeing with a lifestyle choice. He wanted to show me some male chastityitems on a mens specialty websites. At first, I was hesitant, but as he showed me the various chastity devices on this website, I started to become a bit interested in what I was seeing. These were actually rather sexy and hot looking.

I started to relax a little as Cam and I went through the various pages of chastity devices. In fact, we were starting to have fun in just reading the descriptions of what each device did as well as look at the photographs of the hot models that were wearing them. We even started bookmarking the ones we liked the best. Because of his gentleness and understanding, I was able to be more open minded about the whole experience.

Finally, I caved. As long as we were going to be switching off as to who would be the Key Holder, then I could agree to at least give it a shot. The look on Cam’s face when I said that was worth whatever might be coming. I laughed a bit and turned the laptop around so that I could see some more of the chastity items. I told him that he had to help me choose the perfect one for us to try. Then, if the experiment was successful, we would come back to sites and order more chastity devices.

The first device we decided to try was the Caged and Cuffed. This one is a very sexy golden device that not only looks great, but is effective without being painful. When it arrived in the mail, I even volunteered to try it out first. That night, Cam and I took a very sexy shower together in preparation for my time in being locked away. He made sure to pay lots of attention to me and we were both very satisfied by the end of that shower. Then, we got out of the shower and toweled each other dry. He took me by the hand and we walked into our bedroom. It was time.

Cam took the Caged and Cuffed device and fitted it onto my penis. Once it was in place, he took the key and locked me in. He stood up and placed the key around a special chain that we had bought just for that purpose and put it around his neck. Leaning over, he kissed me gently on the mouth and we got into bed. I had to admit that it was a bit different trying to get comfortable laying down wearing the device, but it wasn’t a horrible experience. Cam put his arms around me from behind and we got into our favorite spooning position before going to sleep.

I have to admit to many fun experiences with the Caged and Cuff device. I do feel that it was because Cam knew how to handle things. We actually did switch around with the position of Key Holder and that made it even more fun. Eventually, we returned to the websites and ordered a few more of their chastity items. Sometimes I think that if I had only known what I knew now about the chastity lifestyle, things would have been different. Of course, that meant that those other guys needed to have been more patient with me and not so demanding. That tells me that it all worked out the way it was meant to and that Cam is the man for me.

Anal Challenge

Most men who are flow into male chastity or are pushed into it end up enjoying or again are forced to partake in anal sex. Many Masters who force their men into male chastity are into sex using dildos on their men, many share their man with other master and men for forced femdom sex. Men who are forced into chastity are also forced into having sex with other men in front of their boyfriends and masters. This is not about being gay it is about control and control is what male chastity is about. That said there are many men who either use by choice or are forced to use cages but do not participate in anal sex. Sometimes when a man needs to be trained to enjoy the pleasures of anal sex. The anal challenge hook is a great teaching tool but is also the perfect pleasure device for men skilled in anal sex. This is one of the few items that we offer that can be used by men but by far most of the users are men. We have men who buy them for their own use, men who buy them for their lovers and many Masters who order them for their men. Many of the Master ordering these hooks use them in chastity training and humiliation. This is a very intimidating product to use on a man who does not want any thing stuck up his ass but is going to be forced to take it. Again this in not being mean it is controlling and often times is a very loving experience.

Ring Master

When it comes to cock cages the Ring Master is the king of male chastity devices. It is the number one selling cock cage online. Available in three ring sizes it’s main cock ring can handle men with the smallest cocks all the way up to the big boys and just about everything in between. This cock cage is built to stay on until your master or boyfriend decides it is time for you to feel pleasure. Until that time the Ring Master design will keep you firmly and safely away from any sexual gratification. It style is simply awesome yet completely functional. When I first use this cage I was so excited my shaft was trying so hard to get hard but alas there was solid metal stopping its progress and no where for it to go. The Ring Master takes all your sexual control away from you at least you can still be nailed in the ass like the good little bitch you are.

Man Cave

This is a very extreme male chastity cage. It is a convertible unit allowing the end to be left open or closed up completely. Beautifully finished and once on there is no way to get it off without a key to the lock. The fit is snug and it is a unit designed to show at all times who is in control and who is being subject to strict chastity rules.

Ass Spark cock ring combo butt plug

There are interesting aspects to male chastity that are rarely talked about. One of the major issue of chastity is that the man who is subjected to it often becomes a poor lover. When the device is removed so he ca have sex there are issues of performance. Sometimes the man is so eager to be stimulated that premature ejaculation is a large problem for male chastity men. The Ass Spark combo cock ring anal plug is one of the most popular products short of medications to answer this problem. When using the Ass Spark the cock cage is removed and the shaft balls and anus  are lightly lubed, many times the penis will get instantly hard the moment it is touched as most people would understand once a cage is removed like any animal in the zoo remove the cage and it will run. Once the penis is lubed but no longer hard the balls are pulled through the ring one at a time then the shaft is forced through the ring. Effect the penis gets super hard but it also gives the man much more control over a premature ejaculation.

Then the large ball end is inserted into the lubed anus. For most men it is a very tight fit and for men who have never had anal sex you must go slow but be firm. For the Ass Spark to work properly it must be firmly pushed in all the way. With the pressure of the cock ring and the pressure of the anal plug even a man who has been ion a male chastity cage for a long period of time can control his erection. The major benefit s of using an Ass Spark are the Master gets a much more satisfying experience, the man has much more control and best of all the orgasm once reached by the male is the most intense ever there fore needing fewer sexual encounters and forcing the man to stay longer periods of time in his cock cage. The other point is that it is a great tool to teach men about anal sex. Use this devices a number of times and your man should be able to handle an average sized penis or strap on dildo.

Half Pipe

The Half Pipe is one of my personal favorite cock cage designs.

Why are Chastity Products such a Turn On?

The main attraction of chastity products is the unique thrill that comes from restraining sexual urges, which can lead to a heightened sense of anticipation, pleasure and sexual desire. Chastity products are widely used in domination and light bondage play, as the cravings for sexual contact and release can be restrained or bound, and the ‘key’ to the chastity product can be given to a trusted lover or playmate who then has the power to release the restrained user to the completion of their pleasure only when they choose to. Chastity products can introduce a bit of extra spice to bedroom games, and is particularly arousing for those that have had a history of self denial and sexual repression, and there is a great sense of relief for many as their sexual cravings are effectively taken out of their hands when involved in games with chastity products, as their key master is calling the shots, and so this relieves them of any responsibility for their own actions during the game (greatly reducing any feelings guilt or shame at what they may perceive to be wild, promiscuous or perverse sexual gratification). For those that have spent a lifetime repressing their same sex attractions chastity products can be very sexually fulfilling and can also help many people to work through the psychological barriers they have imposed over their own sexuality. Chastity products can also be an incredible turn on for those with all kinds of sexual desires, and can be a fun and satisfying way to really boost the sex life of many couples.

Where Can I Buy Chastity Products?

There are many different kinds of chastity products for sale both in regular bricks and mortar sex shops and also from specialist online suppliers, and some chastity products are even customizable, so you can make sure you get the right fit and design to suit your individual shape and sexual needs. The key to chastity devices is that they restrain and bind the genitals, and for the most intense sexual play chastity belts and cages that have lockable systems are very popular, as you can literally hand over the key to your pleasure and gratification to your partner or playmate, for them to control at their own leisure. Chastity cages make great presents for that special lusty person in your life, and there are many excellent designs available for under $50 and some great deals online, so you can be sure to find something to suit any requirements or game play you have in mind.

Many chastity products are designed to be worn without regular clothing and visually and very graphically display your bound genitals, so are perfect for bedroom games or wearing out to some of the more extreme fetish and bondage nights that you may be interested in exploring. Some great chastity products that combine visual gratification with intense security include the Manless Ultra which is just $59.99 and is a completely secure device that will effectively prevent any sexual contact with your genitals. The Manless Ultra has a clear plastic design and includes fully adjustable parts so that you can get the perfect fit whatever size you are, and if you are interested in playing sex denial games or just simply want to enjoy the complete restraint of a fully secure chastity system then this is the perfect product for you at a very affordable price.

Sites has a number of other seriously hot chastity products that can take you and your partner to new heights of pleasure including:

• Man Slave, $34.00 – this intricate ringed suit can be a bit tricky to put on, but the pleasure you will receive from binding you or your partner’s genitals securely will more than make up for all the effort. The man slave is a system of rings that will bind and separate your penis and testicles, and your shaft is pulled through three rings so that only the head is free, and the main ring secures firmly around the base to hold your manhood in place. Each testicle is held tight by its own separate ring, leaving your genitals securely bound until you or your playmate decides its time to release you.

• Prison Break, $36 – another cleverly designed ring suit which effectively restrains and binds your manhood, the Prison Break has small metal rings that encircle the head of your shaft, firmly applying pressure as your erection grows creating an unbelievably sensual feeling of repression and orgasm denial. Two sets of rings are attached to straps that can be carefully wrapped around the rest of the shaft to create a stunningly erotic package for you and your playmate to enjoy.

• Testosterone Pouch, $24 – the great thing about this pouch is that it can be worn under clothes or as an eye catching swim and tanning suit, and the adjustable base strap not only holds your genitals tightly in place, creating that sense of restraint that all the best chastity products provide, but it also lifts and pushes forward your manhood, so that your package looks huge and just about ready to explode out of the fabric. The testosterone pouch is a seriously sexy item of swimwear that will certainly get a lot of attention around the pool or down on the beach.

• Penile Colony, $33 – this hugely erotic metal ring suit is designed to display your shaft to the ultimate level of pleasure/pain and has five separate rings that bind and restrain your equipment, whilst an adjustable strap can be cinched as tightly as you can bear down on your testicles to create that truly arousing sensation of complete restraint and sexual domination.

• Fetish Whore, $34 – fetish and bondage attractions link closely with chastity products, and this erotic design combines a visual feast of a stunning g-string suit with the secure restraint of metal rings and Lycra straps to bind and constrain your manhood and repress release.

• Fantasy Feast, $34 – this total penis and testicle display suit combines the erotic sensation of rings and Lycra straps, which encompass your shaft and head and separate each ball, cinching tightly to create incredible feelings of constraint and also creating a visual feast for your partner or playmate.

• Micro Bitch Bikini, $33 – the secret of this seriously hot bikini is that it features a unique front to rear cock ring, which pulls your shaft down and under, restraining it firmly between your legs for an intense feeling of binding and denial. The Micro Bitch Bikini is one of the smallest bikini fronts on the market, so a full wax is certainly recommended, and also works and an anal spreader for those brave enough to put all of their wares on display.

• Plugged Up, $44 – this amazing product combines a number of sexual desires from bondage to chastity and is not for the faint hearted as it includes an incredibly erotic thong design that is held in place by a special butt plug (choose from the beginner 3 inch design or more experienced 6 inch model). Plugged Up can be worn as sexy underwear or swimwear, and as you parade your tight butt down on the beach or around the pool only you will know that you are experiencing full penetration from the rear plug holding your thong in place, and the erotic sensations that can arise from denying yourself from touching your genitals whilst in public, but at the same time being sensually penetrated from behind by the plug can be truly mind blowing. Plugged Up is the ultimate word in erotic swimwear design and if you have the courage to try it out you could be in for one of the most intensively erotic experiences of your life.

It is easy to order cock cages and other devices and payment and delivery is guaranteed to be discreet, so that all of your purchases are kept confidential until you want to show them off. Sites also provides a regular newsletter, so that you can find out about all of the latest sexy swimwear and erotic fetish and chastity products that are available on the website.

Turn up the Heat with Male Chastity Products

There can be many reasons why the denial of sexual release is a real turn on for lots of people, and chastity products for men are an essential part of the erotic toys and accessories market, being designed not only to effectively repress sexual gratification, but also to look and feel highly arousing when worn. Male chastity products are particularly inventive and there are a whole host of chastity cages, sleeves and ring suits that bind the penis and balls creating an intense feeling of servitude and control, which can be a very erotic turn on when combined with sexual play and domination games. For example many men’s chastity cages come complete with lockable sections, and the key can be given to a key master for the evening, and only they can decide if and when the wearer is allowed to at last have their sexual release, or maybe not at all!

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Tutorial Tuesday: Chastity Guide

Have you been wanting to lock your sub in chastity, but not sure where to start? This guide should help.  Chastity may sound like a simple concept and something that you can dive into with your sub/slave, Dom/Master, or just a kinky friend. But there are many things to consider, especially if you want it to last and don’t want your sub running for the hills next time you mention the word “chastity”.

Safety:

As always, make sure bdsm/kink play is safe, sane, and consensual. Never leave your sub alone during bdsm play. Prepare everything needed before restraining your sub so there’s no need to step away until after you’ve released him. When using rope or any tightly fitting cuffs, always periodically feel your sub’s hands/feet/balls (whatever is tied) to ensure they aren’t cold. Cold is a sign of circulation loss which needs to be addressed immediately by removing the restraints in that area before your sub gets hurt.
Specific to chastity, ALWAYS make sure your sub has at least 2 to 3 ways to contact you while you have his dick locked. An emergency may be rare, but if/when it happens, you don’t want to look like an irresponsible Dom. It could turn out to be a very bad thing if your app notifications are turned off when your sub sends you a message on an app to tell you that his skin is chafed and looking pretty bad, if that’s the ONLY way he has to contact you. You can make an app message the primary method of contact if you prefer, but give him your phone number to text you and setup guidelines for such cases. For example, “If you need me and it’s a non-emergency, contact me on ABC app or send me an e-mail and I will reply with 24 hours. If it’s urgent but not an emergency that jeopardizes your health in any way, text me. If it’s an emergency that is or could jeopardize your health, call me immediately.”
Also, set you sub up to win, not lose. If he’s never been locked in chastity before, not even to try on a device, understand that the first device he tries may not work for him. Start his chastity term short and see how it goes. Be aware and cautious with devices that have potential pinch points, and monitor new chastity subs frequently for the first few days. You could require your sub send you a close-up photo twice per day, primarily for the purpose of checking for any issues that he may not have noticed (and to make sure he’s still locked, of course). ;)

Parts list:

1. One or more chastity devices (obviously one at a time, but you may want/need to try a few to find the best fit for long term chastity). See below for different devices, some pros and cons of each, and links to them. Click the name of the device at the top of each section for more details, or to purchase that device. This is by no means an all inclusive list. This is just a sampling of several devices and my own opinions of the pros and cons of each.
2. A small padlock that fits the chastity cage. Most devices will include this.
3. Optional, but highly recommended: A tissue, for uncut subs (see “A few additional tips and ideas” near the end of this post)
4. Optional, but very handy: Water based lube. It definitely helps to use lube when trying to slide a sub’s dick into a chastity cage. I prefer to use water based lube, and it may help avoid issues with metal corrosion or similar effects reacting to something in lube, especially on cheaper devices.

Implementation:

1. Make sure your sub has at least 2-3 ways to contact you, and at least one way to ALWAYS reach you regardless of whether you’re at work, at home, or anywhere else.
2. Agree on the term of chastity, rules, etc. For example, “One week chastity term. If the sub whines or asks to be released early, one day gets added to the chastity term each time he asks.” Obviously an emergency or anything that negatively affects the sub’s health overrides this.
3. Lock your sub in chastity, making sure the device fits him well and doesn’t pinch.
4. You should always try to reserve some time to spend with your sub after he’s locked, to ensure he can move around without the device pinching him, to make sure he can use the bathroom while wearing the device, and to make sure it doesn’t feel horrible after an hour or two of being locked.

Chastity Devices:

CB-6000

This device is great for subs that are new to chastity. Many subs use this device to try out chastity and get comfortable with the idea of being locked. Depending on where you buy it, it normally includes several different sized rings to go around the dick and balls, spacers of various lengths, a padlock, and several numbered plastic padlock tags to allow a sub to release himself with the Dom knowing he did so.

Sizing of original device:

3 ¼" length 1 3/8" inside diameter of cage

5 ring sizes - 1 ½", 1 5/8", 1 ¾", 1 7/8", 2" inside diameter

Pros:

Very adjustable for different sized subs with all of the parts that are typically included with this device.

You can find plenty of knock-offs similar to this device which can be a pretty inexpensive way to try chastity. Just be careful, as many knock-offs will split much more easily. I wouldn’t recommend a cheap imitation for long term chastity. I would only recommend it to get used to the idea, understanding you may be spending $20 instead of $150, but you may also be wasting $20 on a device that cracks open in a week or so.

Cons:

With so many parts, there tends to be just as many potential pinch points.

This device has a tendencey to split right down the middle with a lot of pressure (just because your sub is locked doesn’t mean he won’t get hard).

Very low security. Escape is as easy as grabbing a pair of scissors and cutting a plastic pin behind the padlock.

CB-6000s

This device is the same as the CB-6000, but the cage length is shorter.

Sizing of original device:

2 ½" length 1 3/8" inside diameter of cage

5 ring sizes - 1 ½", 1 5/8", 1 ¾", 1 7/8", 2" inside diameter

Plastic knock-off chastity device (unknown name)

This device was given to me by a sub. Despite my efforts to identify it, I wasn’t able to find a name for it. However, I wouldn’t personally recommend this device anyway for a few reasons, so I’m including it here as more of a warning for things to be aware of.

Pros:

May be a good device, if obtained inexpensively, to get a feel for chastity and see if it’s for you.

Cons:

A lot of pinch points due to the design of this device. The two halves (upper and lower parts of the cage) touch together all around the edges. This makes for a very large potential pinching area. Also, there are several plastic rings that are somehow used as spacers (I’m still not sure I was able to piece it together properly since no matter what I tried, it didn’t make much sense to me). In any case, the more parts that are pushed together, the more potential pinch points.

Two padlocks. On some devices this could be viewed as extra security, especially if it only required one lock to keep your sub’s dick locked, and you use two padlocks with different keys. However, on this device, I see no simple way of securing the padlocks down so they don’t jingle. This makes for a chastity device that’s more noisy and obvious to people when you’re trying to keep it private.

No “air holes”. Most devices have slots in the cage for breathing points, which also help for cleaning as water can flow through them.

This device is pretty solid plastic without many areas for soap and water to enter in the shower (just a hole for the balls to fit through, and a small hole to piss through).

Holy Trainer V2

The Holy Trainer V2 is a great device, in my opinion. It’s pretty comfortable for most subs, and it’s made of a resin material that actually molds to the sub’s body over time, making it even more comfortable than it is to begin with. The molding to the sub happens in a hot shower or bathtub as the device heats up. Also, I’ve read several reports (including on the Holy Trainer web site) of this device getting through airport security without setting the detectors off, which is another perk for long term chastity.

Sizing of original device:

(with this device, you must specify sizing when you place your order)

Standard: 60mm (2.35") length, 35mm (1.4") inside diameter

Small: 48mm (1.9") length, 34mm (1.3") inside diameter

4 ring sizes – 36mm (1.41"), 40mm (1.55"), 45mm (1.75"), 50mm (1.95")

Pros:

Comfortable, and molds to the sub’s body.

Good security overall. Although I don’t consider most non-steel chastity devices to be high security, this device is different. Between of the fact that the device has no flimsy plastic pins that can be cut, it’s pretty solid without being likely to crack or split down the middle. The built-in lock means escape isn’t as easy as cutting through a padlock with bolt cutters when your sub is incredibly horny.
Available in a few different sizes.

Only two pieces which are strategically placed and greatly minimizes the chance of pinching.

Cons:

A bit more expensive than some devices, but you get what you pay for.

Electro Lockdown E-stim Chastity Cage

If you want to lock your sub in chastity and stimulate his dick using e-stim, this is the cage for you. I wouldn’t recommend this cage for long term wear, but it’s great for a session with the intent of unlocking the sub before he heads home.

Sizing of original device:

82mm length 34-47 mm inside diameter cage (at smallest and widest points)

Adjustable ring

Pros:

Adjustable ring and multiple spacers are included, which allows for many sizes.

E-stim pins (cable included) attach to the sides of the cage to allow you to stimulate your sub’s dick after locking it up.
Cons:

Many parts, which means many potential pinch points. Since I wouldn’t recommend this cage for long term wear, I don’t see this as much of an issue. Just be careful during play and try to avoid pinching, and with the e-stim feature, your sub will have a lot more to focus on anyway.

This device is plastic with some thinner parts, so it’s pretty easy to cut (low security). But again, if only used during a session, security isn’t an issue since you’ll probably have your sub restrained anyway. ;)

Jail House

The Jail House is a very solid device which most subs find to be pretty comfortable. There are only two pieces, which minimizes potential pinch points. It doesn’t swivel or move much once locked, which also adds to its comfort.

Sizing of original device:

3.25" length, 1.5" inside diameter of cage, 4.5" circumference

3 ring sizes – 1.5", 1.75", 2" inside diameter

Pros:

Very solid, not much movement when locked.

Two pieces which minimizes pinch points, and the solid ring helps as well since there is no hinge and no extra pieces sliding together.
Cons:

Uses a solid ring around the sub’s dick and balls. This may be difficult to get on some subs, or frustrating for the Dom if one ball slips back through the ring before getting both balls and dick through the ring.

Bird Cage

The Bird Cage is a device I haven’t used often, since I prefer a few others.  However, it’s a great go-to device for subs with larger dicks, and it’s less expensive than many steel devices.

Sizing of original device:

6" length (but it curved downward), 5.5" circumference

Ring size – 2" inside diameter

Pros:

Steel device without the typical high cost.

Only two pieces which minimizes pinch points.

Cons:

Solid ring, which is sometimes more difficult to get your sub’s dick and balls through.

Large ring and cage, which is typically only suitable for more hung subs.

May show under the sub’s clothes more easily than smaller cages.

Master Series Extreme Urethral Chastity Cage

This a nice, high security cage, made of brushed stainless steel. It’s heavier than most other chastity devices,  so some subs might not like that. On the other hand, it’s a constant reminder that you own your sub’s cock. ;)

Sizing of original device:

4.25" length, 1.5" width of cage, 5" circumference
4 ring sizes – 1.5", 1.75", 1.85", 2" inside diameter
The urethral insert is 2.75" in length

Pros:

Highly secure device which uses a proprietary bit and tool for locking/unlocking.

Optional urethral insert (you can easily add or remove it from the device), for even higher security.  (removed in photos below)
Weight (if you prefer a heavier device).

Cons:

Rings are hinged, which normally add pinch points (but does make it easier to put the device on). However, this device includes rubber coverings around the hinges. I recommend sliding the rubber over a bit more so it covers both sides of the hinge to prevent pinching.
Weight (if you prefer a lighter device).

Larger than usual gap between cage and ring which means more chance of pulling dick out.

Mature Metal Jail Bird

This is a very nice custom device. It’s pricey, so you probably won’t want to start with this device since you may have no clue what size you need, and around $340+ is a lot to pay for a device you may get no use out of. But once you know that chastity is for you (or your sub) and you know the perfect size, this device is great.

Sizing is custom from a wide variety of options. You can customize the cage length, the cage diameter, the ring size and shape, and even add options for added security.

Pros:

Nice, solid device.

Custom made to the sizing the sub requests.

Highly secure device, if you order it that way. You can order it with a security screw and anti-pullout pins, for an extra cost.
Cons:

This device starts at $340.00 (at the time of this posting). Options such as extra rings in the cage, security screw, and anti-pullout pins can quickly add to the price.  For example, 3 punishment pins, a security screw, and no other options added brings the price tag up to $485.00. I’d still say it’s worth the cost if you have tested chastity with other devices are decide that you’re in it for the long haul. Otherwise, this device may break the bank for a short term “toy”.

Full Chastity Belts

There are several of these belts out there, and many knock-offs. These belts offer a lot of extra security and control over your sub. The downside of most regular chastity cages out there is that preventing your sub from pulling his dick out the back of the cage is virtually impossible. You can make it challenging with things like Mature Metal punishment pins, and/or difficult to get his dick back in the cage so you may find out about the pull out. However, there’s no really good way to prevent it entirely. Except…with a full chastity belt!

(For long term chastity in one of these, just make sure your sub is able to use the bathroom without too much trouble.)

Sizing varies from one device to another, but most of these belts will accomodate a small range of waist sizes with a single belt.
Pros:

Higher security than most cages.

Preventspull outs if the device is fitted properly.

Cons:

Full chastity belts are typically pretty expensive.

Hygiene can be more difficult since full belts usually don’t have much of an open design (open slots that you’d find in most cages).

You’ll need to check up on your sub more often. If he has chaffing on his skin or anything similar, he may never know it until you unlock him to check.

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Get Ready For The Chastity Showdown

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Male Chastity

Why do men want to have their cock controlled and locked out of reach?

• To be controlled by another person (maybe as part of a wider sub/dom relationship)
• To reduce their wanking so they have more energy and interest in playing with others
• To increase quality of orgasms
• To maintain a level of horniness and arousal that isn’t dissipated by cumming
• Because It gives them sexual or emotional pleasure
• To be “emasculated”
• As a sign of commitment/fidelity

Why do tops/doms want to lock others?

• As part of a sub/dom control situation
• So the locked guy has more energy and interest in playing with them
• As a service (there’s always more subs around than keyholders)
• As a punishment
• As a sign of commitment/fidelity
• Because It gives them sexual or emotional pleasure
• Self control

What’s the best way of achieving this?

• A well-fitting robust chastity device that can be left in place for extended periods without the need for removal
• A device he can’t cum in
• Keeping the keys well out of reach

The ins and outs of being a keyholder

• Keyholder responsibilities
  • Agree the terms of the lock-up In terms of duration etc in advance and stick to it
  • Maintain regular contact with your locked guys
  • Appreciate he may have other constraints (job, partner, travel)
  • Always be safe, sane and consensual
• Making sure the locked guy really is locked
  • Take the key away completely (but think about emergencies)
  • Combination key safes (not combination locks)
  • Numbered tags (but preferably not on the device)
  • Keys in tamper-evident packages
  • Regular evidence on cam/in person
  • Anti-pull out devices
• Keeping him aroused and on edge so it doesn’t get boring for either of you
• Chat to him and tell him how much sexual pleasure you are having, tease him
• Get him to watch porn or read stories
• Play with him and/or have him play with others
• Edging and other self-play while locked (maybe on cam) with tit and arse toys for example

How to be a good locked guy

• Take care of your body and your device
• Be honest about any lapses
• Stick to the agreement
• Keep in contact with your keyholder and give them feedback

Practical considerations

• Hygiene
  • General cleaning, urine flow, foreskins
  • Anal hygiene for full belts
• Problems
  • Irritation, chafing, sores
• Travel and security screening

True or false?

• There’s no such thing as a device which is guaranteed to prevent orgasms
• Lack of orgasms increases the risk of prostate disease

Learning about chastity

• Learn about chastity devices. It always helps if a keyholder has tried on chastity devices
• Get advice and support (for both keyholders and locked guys) from others with experience
• www.lockedmen.net is a large online community of locked guys and male keyholders. It has links to an extensive list of suppliers, a busy forum full of advice and experiences, live chat and galleries of profiles with photos
• Self-locking is very common

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FAQ, Links & Glossary of Terms For beginner male chastity device wearers

Q: What’s a good chastity device for me?

• There is no easy answer to this question because every wearer is different. All types of chastity devices balance two primary needs: security and wearability. What is the best chastity device for you may vary greatly, depending on those and other personal needs. Things such as your: lifestyle, physical dimensions, duration of chastity play, finances, physical sensitivity, metal allergies, piercings, etc., will all impact what is the best device for you.

Q: What’s types of chastity devices are available?

• There are two main types of chastity devices: belts & cages. Most refer to all styles as “belts” although that isn’t very accurate. A cage is a device which covers the genitals but does not incorporate anything that loops around the waist. There are literally dozens (a hundred?) of different devices out there. They’re made of all types of materials, and range in cost from just over $100 USD to well over $1,000 USD for custom made metal devices with custom locking systems, etc.

By far, the most common style of chastity devices that people get introduced to are cages. The most common introductory chastity designs are produced by A.L. Enterprises, Inc. or Novamedia. AL Enterprises started with the CB-2000 design around the same year, and have since added 3 other variations. They each come with 5 base rings of various sizes and are reasonably adjustable to fit most men. They however have limitations and many more serious chastity players consider them to only be starter chastity devices. The 4 designs will fit most men and are an affordable introduction to chastity play. They are the: 2000 (easier to clean, wider but shorter) - 3000 (more natural shape, medium sized) - Curve (larger size, bigger profile under clothing) and the 6000 (latest design, similar to the 3000 with some design alterations.) Novamedia began producing the Birdlocked device in late 2008, it’s made of silicon and comes in one general size - they do make a version that is shorter than the other but all other dimensions are identical. Though these two companies are the most well known in the community, there are new chastity devices showing up on the market every few months. You can find a variety of places to buy them online, and most of the better fetish/BDSM stores often have them in stock so you can see them in person.

Q: What’s are the parts and differences to each of the Miller’s cages?

• Each of the Miller’s chastity cages is made of 3 main parts.

1. The lock pin & spacers- which is standard to all 3. It fits through the ring into the shaft, and is where the lock goes to keep the cage on. The spacers are used to determine how far the ring and the cage are from each other.

2. The base “ring” which fits around the base of penis and testicles identically to a cock ring. The 2000 comes with a solid ring which requires more patience to get on, but works wonderfully as a cock ring when the cage portion is removed. The 3000 & Curve come with a hinged ring, which is easier to get on, but often considered not as comfortable to wear longer term as the solid ring. You can order hinged or solids separately - though they are a little more expensive that way.

3. The cage is the portion which fits the shaft of the penis. For measuring, the size of the penis when flaccid is what matters, since erections are strictly limited by the device anyway (that’s part of the idea right?) The Curve design is the longest, and also has the most noticeable profile under clothing. Some folks like to switch to the Curve’s cage for sleeping. The 3000 & 6000 are both considered the middle size, and are the most recent designs. The 6000 is the latest, and is slightly varied shape to the 3000. A little longer in the cage, but a little thinner as well. The way that the pin and base ring design changes helps it to be a more stable belt (less rattle) which many prefer. The 6000 ring is also easier for most to wear than the hinged 3000 ring, though it is trickier to put on. The 3000 fits the average sized man well, and is considered the many to be the most comfortable for long term wear. The 2000 is the original design, while it is shorter than the 3K/6K, is also a little wider, and is most “cage” like of the three - which can make it the easiest to keep clean. All of the types have openings “holes” in them to facilitate cleaning & lubrication of the penis while it’s being worn. Though many find that they fill the holes on the cages as skin can get into the slots and become uncomfortable.

Q: Any suggestions on getting a comfortable and secure fit?

• Comfort: First, I would like to encourage you to take your time getting used to whatever device you choose. It can take quite a while to find the right size, so don’t rush it. Experiences of wearers putting the belt on and mailing away the key without significant time in figuring out the fit, often end disappointingly. Just to wear the device through the night can take quite a while getting used to for some men, and finding the exact balance of ring size & spacers can be a real trial. Your body, particularly the testicle sack will adjust as it becomes more accustomed to wearing the device. Some people wear just the ring for a while without the cage to get the testicles used to the sensation. Over time it is common that your body will changes in what works best for you, so keep that in mind as you get used to wearing the device.
• Security: What is “secure” will vary from man to man. Obviously there has to be a certain level of understanding between partners when incorporating a chastity device into their relationship. There is no device that is 100% secure for all men. This level of security required for the chastity to be reasonably inescapable varies a great deal from man to man. So please read the section on security below for more information on this topic.
• Each cage has 2 guide pins, which extend from the cage and go into the ring. These are plastic and when the right size is found can be easily sanded/filed down to fit better. They should stop at the end of the ring, and not protrude into the body (unless that’s fun for you) for maximum comfort. Finding the right size can take time. Some people find a very short distance between the cage & ring work well, others might prefer more room. Note: If you plan on using any of the add-ons, you will need to keep at least some room between the ring & cage, so be careful about filing the guide pins too far.
Additional Notes:
• Sand it down! - Be sure to take some very fine sand paper and smooth out every single edge on the devices, the rings, etc. the devices are generally very well made and quite smooth, but by sanding and rounding all edges of it most people find that the device is significantly more comfortable. The only exception to this is the hinge of the 3000/curve style rings, which can become sharper by over sanding, so be wary of finding the sweet spot with it.
• Putting on a chastity device takes a bit of time (though it gets much easier over time) but ultimately you really need a willing person to be chastised. The stories about being physically “forced” into a chastity device are the stuff of fantasy.

Q: My scrotal sac is getting sore on the bottom. Any suggestions?

• Are you using the hinged rings that come with the 3000? Some people find they have an allergic reaction to the hinge itself, some have also found that the actual plastic area of the hinge can irritate. Some men use a Band-Aid for to cover the hinge area - the sleeves type Band-Aids that are used to protect toe corns are recommended by many. Many wearers end up ordering a solid ring and find it significantly more comfortable for wearing. You can order the solid rings individually straight from the manufacturer.

Remarks by a another wearer: “As a point of clarification, when you say the skin between the ring and your anus are your referring to the perineum? That’s the strip that runs from the bottom of the testicles to the opening of the rectum. If that’s the case, your body might be simply adjusting to the weight of the cage. However if it’s rubbing against the area that might also be simply a friction problem. Some users have found that less lube is better, as it helps prevent it from moving as much so they don’t get chafed - though some adjustment about the way my sac hangs (every couple of hours perhaps) is good to help prevent any sores from the lack of movement. Different types of underwear can also support the cage differently. Some users prefer very tight briefs which hold the cage close to the body, others prefer no underwear to allow the cage to move more freely. It simply varies from person to person.”

Q: What does it feel like to become aroused in a chastity device?

• In short, it depends on a lot of circumstances for each wearer, and what exactly is being worn. Generally for most people the feeling is mildly pleasant rather like a gentle squeeze. If it is significantly painful, then the wearer should try to modify their fit by using a different A ring or changing the spacers.

. Remarks by a another wearer: “I have several different "add-ons” for my CB 3000 that my g/f likes me to wear. It can range from an enjoyable pressure (similar to having the shaft of my penis squeezed when it’s somewhat hard) to very unpleasant. The more pleasant is when I’ve not worn the belt for a longer period (less than 24 hrs) and it’s just the belt as is. The longer I’ve worn it for the tougher it is as I start to develop blue balls after about 48 hrs and the dull ache can go be anything but dull after a certain point - the longest I’ve worn the belt at this point is 5 days btw. Most wearers report that after two weeks in the belt the body adjusts significantly and any blue ball ache goes away. The add-ons I have tried are the Kept4Her ring - but it was too tight and restricted normal fluid flow - especially at night. I enlarged it to hopefully make it a bit more forgiving, but it just didn’t work for me. The other add on is the Points of Intrigue. Which I’ve only experienced the shortest ones and only for about 20 minutes and they were simply brutal for me - though there are some guys who claim to wear the POI 24/7, I guess it depends on how large their shaft is and their pain tolerance. I do suspect that the more elaborate steel belts are quite different. One side note, over the last 20 months of chastity play I have become more used to wearing the belt and relax a lot more so that I don’t seem to fight the sensation as much - which has made it more comfortable, and creates a very unique and powerful emotional response. It’s quite amazing really. It seems to take the more animalistic feeling of lust and replace them with a deeper more emotional (even spiritual) feeling that is more loving. That feeling is definitely a big part of the appeal of chastity play for me.“

Q: What are some issues to consider when wearing the chastity device on a daily basis?

• Airports - The devices come with plastic numbered locks that can be substituted for the regular metal lock when traveling. It has been reported repeatedly that the hinge on the 3000 ring does not set off the security. You can also buy additional plastic locks from the manufacturers, or plain ones at your local Target. Additionally, wearing a chastity device, or transporting a chastity device is not against TSA regulations.

• Belt Duration - What is long term is something that everyone defines for themselves. For most purposes I consider 2 weeks or more to be "longer term” - though some people have supposedly worn a device without being allowed to ejaculate for over a year. Others go for a month, or months at a time. Others weeks, and some days, or even just hours. Wearing the device for longer periods obviously can produce a different emotional response and usually will require some different ways to deal with normal physical health and functioning (such as prostate milking) to help keep the everything healthy. If you plan on longer term play we want to encourage you to do a good deal of research about all the various emotional and physical results that wearing a device for longer periods might result in.

• Birdlocked Device - As much of this FAQ was written prior to the introduction of this device, I wanted to include a link to Tom Allen’s in depth review he wrote after wearing the device for a few weeks - here is a link to his review: “La Cage au Coq”

• Blue Balls - Blue balls is described as a cramp like ache caused by extended arousal without release. It is different from actually having blue/purple testicles which is caused by loss of blood flow by a too tight base ring. While some temporary discoloration is not an issue - (especially if it occurs only during a period of particular arousal) - extended loss of blood flow can be extremely unhealthy. Just as with any extremity, blood needs to move in and out of the area regularly - so if blood flow is restricted remove the device immediately (or do your best to reduce the swelling - ice is usually the best option.) While I’ve never heard of anyone suffering permanent damage from a too tight chastity device, it could happen. So be sure to get things sized correctly before you attempt to wear the belt for extended periods of time.

As to “blue balls” - what is the best options and the urgency for dealing with this can vary for each person. There has been much discussion regarding the value and importance of ejaculation through some form of release (such as prostate milking and long term prostate health) but nothing that seems significantly verified by reliable sources. If you plan to incorporate longer term chastity play, then I highly recommend doing your research. For some just massaging the perineum can help relieve some of the discomfort. Others find that wearing more supportive underwear resolves it, and others find that only releasing ejaculate resolves the discomfort - and I’m sure there are those even enjoy the discomfort. So, your mileage may vary.

Additional note: Pain (not mild discomfort) is an indication that your body is saying something is wrong. Please respect your body’s limits and needs.

• Cage Splits - A small percentage of wearers have reported that their cage split at some point during normal use. The Millers offer a one year replacement warranty on any parts, so we encourage you to contact them (or wherever you purchased the cage) for a replacement. Others have used special acrylic cements, such as “Weld-on 3” to re-seal the cage which works well as long as everything is thoroughly cleaned prior to trying to seal it.

• Cleaning - All devices come with openings for cleaning and lubrication. Some folks use a squirt bottle to get water & soap inside the cage, others squeeze a finger tip in there, or use a q-tip and liquid soap. Others prefer to soak in a tub. Some find they need to remove the cage entirely (under supervision) to get it cleaned to their satisfaction.

• Clicking Locks - Unless it is modified the lock will generally “click” against the cage when worn. Some folks use a rubber band around the lock, others put the band around the lock & chastity cage. Others use Velcro (outdoor waterproof kind is recommended) to stick the lock to the cage, others still use small rubber “dots” on the cage to silence it. Some people have sealed their lock in a plastic or rubber dip as well. While there are others who like to make the chastised male “click” while he’s walking around.

• Clothes - Most folks find it perfectly comfortable to wear jeans, slacks or shorts with the device on. But this can vary depending on what you need. Your clothing needs for working in an office will likely differ dramatically than if you drive a tractor trailer, or ride a bicycle 50 miles a day (yes, I know chastity wearers who fit all those descriptions. I suggest that if you find your regular clothing doesn’t fit particularly well - do what I did. I went shopping while wearing my chastity belt and purchased a few pairs of pants and shorts that fit a bit better and allow for a little more room so there’s not so much of a profile. I found that sitting long term (driving) can be difficult for some, so keep that in mind while trying to find a comfortable fit. I find that being able to make a slight adjustment to my testicle sack every hour or so makes wearing it much easier. A few hours in the car can get things out of position. Underwear preferences vary. Try out different styles & sizes to find what’s best for you. Many wearers have specific underwear which they find works best for them by either holding the device in position more securely or by allowing for more room - preferences vary from person to person.

• Emergency Keys - Many wearers report that their key holders allow them to keep an “emergency” key available for use in genuine emergency cases. What the best method for each couple varies, though most use a piece of paper with the key firmly taped to it, with the paper and signed by the keyholder. That way the key can be reached by pushing it through the paper, but removing the key will destroy the signature and the KH will know that the key has been removed. Some people talk about freezing the key in an ice block, however access to a key in that situation wouldn’t be fast and if the key is there for emergencies - waiting while you boil a key out of a block of ice doesn’t seem wise. Some get sophisticated lock boxes and put a spare key in there. Others simply hide a key within a reasonable distance and if it’s needed, the keyholder can tell the wearer how to find it.

• Exercise - Most folks have found that exercising (aside from anything that requires lying on your belly) is relatively easy & painless in a device. So feel free to work out. There are joggers & bikers who report no problems with the device (once they’re accustomed to it.) If it is a greater concern for you, many have reported that the birdcage style device is particularly compatible because of it’s flexible silicone design - so you might want to consider that over the CB-#### styles if you think it might be an issue.

Additional note: Swimsuits can be a bit of an exception. The cage can produce a pretty good bulge in swim trunks, so keep that in mind - you might want to pickup some baggier ones, and “straighten out” prior to getting out of the pool. Some men wear a Speedo underneath more traditional swim trunks, as this smoothes the profile out. The Curve has by far the largest profile of the introductory devices, and the CB-2000 & Birdcage have the least noticeable.

• Guide Pins Breaking - Sometimes if the Miller’s style cage is dropped you can break the guide pins off. Fortunately they screw in and out, and you can buy replacement pins directly from the manufacturer.

. Remarks by a another wearer: “I dropped a cage on the floor and the pin broke off right at the base when it hit the ground squarely.”

• Health - There are two primary concerns with health - skin dryness/irritation and edema. Concerns about losing size from the penis have been repeatedly discarded by all long term members of the chastity community. There is also the more secondary concern of “blue balls” pain and general prostate health. For skin dryness, wearers find that different lotions work well for them. Some prefer gold bond medicated, others prefer a milder lotion. Many find that using a different lubricant (or none) while wearing the belt helps their skin. Either way, if you plan to wear a belt for an extended period of time that is something you will have to experiment with to find what works well for you. Edema is when fluid becomes trapped within the skin. This can happen because the base ring is too small, an add-on device (such as the KSD) is too small, or perhaps skin has escaped through a slot in the belt and fluid has become trapped in it. Almost always, edema can be resolved by adjusting the fit of the device. In any case, if things become swollen with fluid - of any type, or the genitals become dark and cold (poor blood circulation) then you should adjust things to achieve a better fit. While most people have reported no problem, some wearers have had issue with the slightly rougher nature of the fabric on the birdcage device causing their skin to rub. There are also others who have reported issues with cleaning because general design of the birdcage. So please be extra mindful of these when adjusting the device. Please read the section above “blue balls” for further information about that type of issue.

Additional note: Pain (not mild discomfort) is an indication that your body is saying something is wrong. Please respect your body’s limits and needs.

• Locks - The device comes with a plain black or gold master lock. Most chastity devices use the standard size lock of most luggage locks, and many folks buy different locks that look more appealing to them. Some folks also enjoy coating the plastic lock or modifying it so that it can’t be tampered with. More sophisticated chastity belts sometimes have custom locks and keys that are unique to their design.

• Lubrication - The best solution for each person varies dramatically on this. Some people prefer no lubrication, and use a woman’s stocking leg over the penis to help slide it into the device. Others prefer a water based lubes, as it washes out easily and is considered more sanitary. Others still prefer an oil based or even baby oil gel, as it lasts longer. Some folks use a water based to get the device on, then wash it out immediately and using a hair dryer (don’t burn yourself!) to dry it out so that there’s no lube left. Try different things. Others also use skin lotions (of all different types) to prevent dryness and irritation to the skin after more than a couple days of wear. Diaper rash lotions are regarded highly by some wearers. Again, it is a very personal thing, try different options until you see what works best for you.

. Remarks by a another wearer: “For myself, some lube is needed. I’ve also found that the of the shaft & testicle sack requires skin lotion since it’s not getting as much air and freedom of movement and will dry out a bit for me. Test all different kinds for yourself to see what works. using a q-tip to apply it inside the shaft is the best method. I’ve gotten used to carrying a Q-tip for a myriad of reasons while locked up.

• Prostate Milking - Opinions on the importance and value of this act varies within the chastity community. In short, prostate milking (or massage) is intentionally causing a man to release his ejaculate by massaging his prostate. This can be done manually with fingers or with most g-spot massagers, or other devices (such as the Aneros or rudeboy) that are specifically designed to manipulate the prostate. Please note, this is not something that can be done easily for all people, and often takes trial and error and can take upwards of 30 or even 60 minutes when you try it the first time. I have been told that as people become more accustomed to the sensations it becomes easier to accomplish. And the sensation is similar to urinating. Most men to not realize that they are being successfully milked when it happens (though they will definitely know when their prostate is being massaged) so the actual release of fluid is definitely not as satisfying as an orgasm. Some men can be massaged while still locked in their chastity device, other’s can’t. Again, it simply varies from person to person. For the prostate to be sufficiently full to have any success with this, usually requires at least 7 days of abstinence for most men. And those who incorporate this into their chastity lifestyle typically will milk the man somewhere between every 2 to 4 weeks.

• Ring Hinge Irritation - please see the section above regarding scrotal sac irritation.

• Security - This varies greatly for folks, just how secure the chastity device has to be for each person for the experience to be "just right” can vary dramatically. The Miller devices are “medium” security at best. They are made of hard poly-carbonate (similar to plastic) and ultimately can be cut off with a good pair of clippers (which might be best in case of emergencies anyway.) If you want something much more inescapable, these aren’t for you. However, just how secure the device needs to be for your idea of fun might vary, and as a result there are many ways to modify the experience, with add-ons, different locks, piercings, etc. Experiences vary to the extremes. Ultimately, if it’s important for your enjoyment that the device is 100% secure, you might want to look into some of the modifications listed below, or perhaps getting a genital piercing and using multiple locks. Many of the more expensive cages, or full chastity belt options (usually made of steel) are also another way to seek out a more secure chastity experience.

• Security : Pullouts - Some wearers report that they can’t pull out of the back of the belt at all, while others report that they can slip out entirely by accident. If a wearer is able to extract their penis (and perhaps testicles as well) then obviously masturbation is still possible. One company “Kept for Her” produces add-on devices specifically for the Miller brand chastity cages, and they work well for approximately 50% of men who try them.

• Security : Cheat Orgasms - Some have reported (and posted videos as proof) that they can shake the chastity cage enough to bring themselves to an unsatisfying orgasm. Other men are able to reach an orgasm within a chastity device by using a vibrator against it. How long until a man can cheat this way varies on a man’s physical sensitivity, the device type and duration of chastity. Some KHs recommend incorporating prostate milking for longer term chastity play (more than 2 weeks) as a way to keep a man’s libido more reasonable and controllable.

• Shaving - this varies from person to person. Some people like to be as smooth as possible, others find longer hair doesn’t get caught as much in the device as stubble does. Do whatever works for you. Obviously it’s tough to shave while in the device, so many have “supervised” shaving every few days or so to keep the areas clean. What works best for shaving varies too. Bikini line shavers work best for some, straight razors, waxing, depilatories and electrolysis are all options.

• Sleeping - For many, this is the toughest part of wearing the device. First, sleeping on your stomach is not recommended. Either sleeping on your back (ideal) or side with a pillow under your leg will help you to have room to be comfortable. Some helpful suggestions - Urinate as much as possible prior to sleep. Try not drink too much fluid before bed, hydrate more in the morning and day if you can. If you wake at night, do your best to relax and urinate again. Some folks use ice to reduce swelling to help things relax as much as possible. Lastly, give it time. Opinions vary about how much pain you should put up with in order to training your body to become accustomed to sleeping the night in the belt. If you can’t make it through a night at first, take the device off, try again the next day or so. You’ll get more and more used to it if you follow suggestions.

. Remarks by a another wearer: “When I first started wearing the device I couldn’t sleep for more than 2 hrs without waking from a painful straining erection. Now after practicing for a year, and taking some of their suggestions such as sleeping on my side, not drinking a lot of water before bed, and being patient with it and removing it after sincerely trying to sleep through the night - I am now able to make it 6-8 hrs without any real issue.”

. Remarks by a another wearer: “In my case the erections were getting less in two months and i don’t have to suffer the pain anymore. Your penis have to get used to the new thing. But never release yourself if you have enormous pain, then you will never get used to it. I’m wearing the cb now for 5 months and my G/F is delighted about it.”

. Remarks by a another wearer: “I’ve heard folks recommend not drinking water before bed. I couldn’t disagree more strongly with this, as the body needs to hydrate and not drinking water will not prevent or reduce the pressure from nocturnal erections in my experience. You just have to learn to sleep through it, you’ll get used to it - so stop whining.”

• Urination - some men can urinate at the urinal in their device. Most need to sit down. Experience varies depending on your shape and size, if you wear an add on or not, etc. Ultimately it’s something that I found for me takes a bit of practice (I definitely can’t stand and pee safely) and is another reason why I keep q-tips around to help with aiming. Some wear a tissue over the end of the device to prevent any possible “messy drip” - I guess it’s all just a personal and practice thing. It’s important that you are able to easily urinate when relaxed in the belt - if this is not the case then the belt is very likely restricting blood flow as well and could be unhealthy.

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