Acquired Tastes, XXIII: Barebacking / Bareback Sex

Introduction:

I can’t think of another sexual activity that divides the gay male community the way barebacking does.  It is an emotionally charged topic because it comes with some possible serious consequences.  It’s very much related to that old truth: people who learn nothing from history are doomed to repeat it.  Proponents say barebacking (sex without a condom) is the height of hedonistic irresponsibility, puts people at risk for and increases the spread of STDs, and gives ample ammunition to those who take issue with the gay community and the way gay men conduct their lives.  Enthusiasts would argue that it is a matter of personal choice and a natural expression of their sexuality.  In between? People, like me, who see both points of view while frequently struggling with the issue in light of their own personal behavior.



Is either side correct?

Let’s toss aside that condom and dive right into the raw facts about…

Barebacking

Scope of Activity:

Unprotected sex, typically butt sex without a condom. For the sake of this post we will limit our discussion to male on male anal sex.  Also known as ‘raw sex’.

The Official Line:

From Wikipedia

Bareback is a slang term to describe acts of sexual penetration without the use of a condom.  The term comes from the equestrian term bareback, which refers to the practice of riding a horse without a saddle. Barebacking usually refers to a conscious and deliberate choice to forgo condoms.

Initially used for contraceptive purposes, condoms also came to be used to limit or prevent sexually transmitted diseases.  As AIDS emerged and the sexual transmission of HIV became known in the 1980’s, the use of condoms to prevent infection became much more widespread, especially among homosexual men.  At the beginning of the AIDS crisis, in the context of the invention and development of safe sex, the uptake of condoms among Western gay men was so widespread and effective that condom use became established as a norm for gay sex.  From 1995 several high profile HIV positive men declared their refusal to wear condoms with other HIV positive gay men in gay publications, dubbing the practice ‘barebacking’.  While these early articulations of barebacking expressed a concern for HIV prevention in that they generally referred to dispensing with condoms in the context of sex between people of the same HIV status, the moral panic which ensued was so pronounced that barebacking came to be framed as a rebellious and transgressive erotic practice for HIV positive and HIV negative people alike, irrespective of the risks of HIV transmission.

A resurgence of barebacking in first-world gay communities during the 1990s has been a frequent topic for gay columnists and editorialists in The Advocate, Genre magazine and Out magazine.

Varying factors are sited when looking to explain the recent popularity of bare back sex.  Among them:

• Fear of HIV has been minimized due to the development and success of protease inhibitors.  These drugs have changed the status of HIV from ‘untreatable’ and ‘terminal’ to ‘treatable’ and ‘chronic’.  There currently are studies claiming that the likelihood of a non-detectible (>75) HIV positive person passing the virus to others is slim to none.

• Some people only seek out partners with a similar HIV status and therefore don’t see a reason to use condoms.  This practice puts HIV positive men at risk of contracting additional strains of the virus, and has given rise to the concept of the HIV superinfection.  Serosorting (identifying an individual’s strain of HIV) is thought of one way to prevent men from exposing themselves to different strains.

• Condom fatigue: people have heard the message of safe sex for so long now they have stopped responding to it.

• The rise of ParTying: Use of drugs (Crystal Meth in particular) in relation to having sex lowers people’s inhibitions and causes them to become less concerned about their personal safety and well-being resulting in these individuals participating in unsafe activities and associating with people they normally would not.

• The rise of barebacking sites such as BBRTS lend credence to the practice and provides a means for like-minded individuals to find one another.

Precautions:

Well, ummm…. Hmmmm.  This point would seem to be moot, but there are things one can do to help decrease the risks at hand:

• Knowing your partner would be a good start, or at least sharing information regarding each other’s HIV status – otherwise known as ‘the talk’. Discussing sexual history (recent) might also prove helpful.  But keep in mind, people don’t always disclose or tell the truth.  If you are HIV positive and know your serotype, that could prove beneficial, provided your sexual partner also knows his.

• Doing a visual physical examination on one another is always a good idea, but not a guarantee of anything.  

• Practicing good hygiene also a good idea, but, again, not a guarantee of anything.

• Living a healthy lifestyle – eating healthy foods, exercising, getting adequate rest – not only will you look your best, but your immune system will also be firing on all cylinders.

• Avoiding alcohol and drugs.  ParTying can result in you putting your body in riskier situations than you would if you were not under the influence of something and also weaken the immune system.

Psychological Aspects:


What’s the frequency, Kenneth?

This practice has been rationalized a number of ways.

There is a segment of the gay population who feel that fucking ‘raw’ is the way God intended people to fuck. They see this as natural and a natural form of sexual expression.

Then there are those who see it as a form of rebellion against the Safe Sex Police, the medical community, political entities, and those with axes to grind against the gay community.

There are those that simply enjoy it.  Condoms are restrictive by design.  They inhibit sensation and blood flow to the penis.  Some men cannot maintain an erection with a condom.  This can lead to a form of psychological erectile dysfunction – a self-defeating loop of thoughts and fear resulting in a neurotic reaction to condoms or the contemplation of sex.

Bug Chasers: Myth or reality?  From what I have read in personal blogs on the net, I have come to the conclusion that these individuals are not the stuff of fiction.  There is a documentary called “The Gift” (2008) that explores this phenomenon.  Bug Chasers seek out HIV positive partners who engage in barebacking.  The goal of the Bug Chaser is to become infected with the HIV virus.  Their motivations vary.  Some seek inclusion, as they view the HIV community as being an exalted and elite group, while others see that the life of HIV positive individuals as glamorous and normal.


Pig Sex: While there certainly are gay sex pigs whom practice safer sex, they are not the norm.  Surrendering one’s body to the sexual whims of others puts one at all sorts of risk, and part of the mindset of a sex pig is to be exposed to bodily fluids of all kinds, including sperm, from as many partners as possible.  This helps satisfy the primal urge that drives these magical beasts.

The bigger questions remains – why would someone willingly participate in an activity that they know puts them in harms way? It brings a whole new meaning to the term ‘Thrill of the Kill’.  Isn’t there a horror film out there about an HIV positive serial barebacker?  I bet there will be. But in this connotation I think ‘The Kill’ is an action more suicidal than homicidal.   Do we bareback because we hate ourselves enough to want to do harm to ourselves?  Is this self-hate because society reinforces the message that to be gay is to be wrong and bad?   Do we then internalize that message and want to eliminate ourselves?

Is barebacking really a form of biological genocide?

My Experience:


I have never been a hardcore advocate of safer sex or barebacking.  I tend to let the person I’m with decide whether or not condoms are involved. Based on my recent experiences (the past four years), I have seen a major preference for barebacking, but that observation is based on only my own experiences.

Condom use is the primary reason that I am no longer a top.  Up until 1996, I was a hardcore top, bottoming only when in a monogamous relationship.   I don’t recall that condoms became an issue for me until 1996, when, after a few less than spectacular performances, I began to experience a kind of anxiety related to their use.  I think this is rather common, as I have spoken to numerous individuals about barebacking and their experiences dealing with condoms. For me, condoms seemed to kill my boner. And once that started happening, then the anxiety related to boner failure took over and I began to avoid topping altogether.

Men frequently admired my ass – and back in the day it was prime stuff – so, after frottage, jerking off, and oral sex no longer seemed enough, I began to allow dudes to fuck me.  Initially, all the pre-work involved (douching) baffled me, but after a point I got over it, embraced my hole as a living being, and set out to become the best bottom I could.


Age probably also plays a part in my conversion.  I see more and more former hardcore tops becoming seed-seeking bottoms.  And it’s a shame, too, because many of these dudes were blessed with high-quality pieces of meat.

But why have I become a bareback bottom?  I think it has a lot to do with the attitude of the men who bareback.  They are more accepting of others – which critics could frame as: they have lower standards – but I disagree.  They have different standards.  They appreciate real men.  Men with flaws.  Men with body odor and body fluids.

Honestly, what has turned me off of safe sex are those that advocate it so virulently.  Their sanctimonious attitude rubs me the wrong way.  Also, I have found that those who practice safe sex are, well… not that good at it.  I’m sure there are exceptions, and in fact, I know that has not always been my experience, but overall I would have to say that dudes who use condoms seem to lack the kind of primal drive that lights my fire.  Frequently I find that tops that use condoms tend to be incredibly body fluid phobic.  And that makes me uncomfortable.  I don’t want to have to apologize for my spit, my sweat, my cum, my ass juice.  It is part of the experience.  Body fluids are part of what makes sex hot – for me.  If you want closed mouth kisses, hairless bodies, polite sex talk, and hermetically sealed butt sex, look elsewhere.  I revel in my funky self.  So I guess I fall on the side of those that bareback because it feels natural.
(Spoiler Alert: Unrelated, Undocumented, Unfounded Tangent Rant Fast Approaching)  

Of course, and I will cop to having some kind of chip on my shoulder regarding this, I think my aversion to safe sex advocates and practitioners also has to do with my bias against ‘the typical gay’.  I have rarely liked the way gay men are portrayed on television sitcoms or in movies.  I disagree with their portrayal because it does not speak to my experience or what I have witnessed in the gay community.  The typical gay on television has a super career – he’s an architect, a lawyer, an ad agency executive.  They have a sanitized sense of life.  Their homes are perfect and large and don’t appear lived-in.  They drive the perfect car.  They dress impeccably.  They are typically quite white and over-handsomely so. They bore the snot out of me. So I don’t buy it.  With the exception of Max on ABC’s ‘Happy Endings’, I think you will find my assessment to be pretty accurate.  I like Max.  He’s real and flawed.  And yes, there are indeed other portrayals of gay men on television - but they aren’t flattering!  The screaming queens and tired cliché’ gay are ‘funny’ indeed, but they don’t make me laugh and I don’t know anyone who acts like that in real life (except for me, after a couple of martinis and in the company of certain catty friends).

Sadly, those perfect television gays do translate to real life. They attend fundraisers and host them in their large homes.  They make over 100K a year and look down upon and avoid associating with those that don’t.  They spend a lot of time at the gym, the spa, their hairdresser’s salon, being tweezed and buzzed and plucked and waxed and honed and polished and… ugh. Okay… you get the picture? These guys are snobs.  I hate snobs.  These guys are also the practitioners of gay sex.  Yes, there are indeed lots of other kinds of gays practicing safer sex, but these bitches are so sanctimonious about it they make me doubt my love of penis – big, hard, pulsating, body fluid-filled penis (how could I ever doubt that?).   These are the self-righteous cunts that make it their mission to troll sites like A4A so they can rain down their wrath upon the heads of those who are HIV positive or practitioners of unsafe sex.  Yes, I have felt their sting.

And I am not alone. I would ask you to visit ‘Life In The Raw’ mindtrip-lifeintheraw.blogspot.com a blog written by Mindtrip, a man I would characterize as something of a sexual warrior – and read his post on11/28/12. Also, check the side of my blog site to discover the blogs of a number of other sexual warriors willing to share their personal exploits.  Even if you don’t agree with their personal sexual practices and world views, you’re sure to find a post that will have you jerking your gherkin.



Oh, and if you want specific stories related to my personal experiences taking raw dick up the ass, just flip through my past posts.  Yeah… I know – I’m a total butt slut.


These days, I only top bareback.  If that’s an issue, than I don’t wanna fuck ya.  As a bottom, I take it however my top wants to serve it up – and I love it.  I am kind of a modified ass pig.  I can’t seem to take it to the extreme like some dudes do.  I don’t seem to run with the right crowd or live in the right city for that to happen.   And, yes, I frequently regret my behavior.  I omit the truth when talking to my doctor about my sex life (she’s convinced I am a sex addict and wants me to seek ‘help’ – and yes, she has a point).  I have contracted several STDs in my lifetime (nothing life altering, yet).  I struggle with guilt and shame and know in my heart of heart’s that taking raw dick up the ass is simply not a good idea.

But I do. I take raw dick up the ass.  And I can’t really rationalize it, explain it, or justify it.  I just do.

You see, I think that in the world of gay sex, as large and varied a place as that is, it is every man for himself.  You get to do what you like to do, with whomever will do it with you/to you/for you.  I may not understand or share your particular interest, but I applaud you for having the courage to explore your sexual self.  I’m not going to pass judgment on you based on what you do sexually with others.  I do believe in taking responsibility for my actions. I do believe in acting responsibly where others are concerned.  And I do my best to do no harm.


That said, if being a sanctimonious, self-righteous, fluid-phobic, hermetically sealed, snob-ass, internet trolling, safe sex advocate is what gets you off.  Have at it. You have the right. And there is a part of me that sees the good you are trying to do. Yep, I get it.  Yours is the better way.  I’ll even salute you.  But please forgive me if, in that same breath, I also tell you to go fuck yourself.  Not because I don’t see the good you do, but because I just don’t like you.

So, back to that question re: barebacking as genocide.  Am I suicidal?  Probably.  On some deeper level that I am no longer interested in exploring, yes, I would like to see me wiped off the face of the earth. But that living part of me?  That part that I actually feed and exercise and buzz and shave, and care for and nurture and educate?  The real me?

I bareback because I like it.  It feels good.  It makes me feel closer to man I’m with.  I think it’s sexy.  I think it’s dirty… and I like it dirty.



My Conclusion:


Safe sex is a personal choice.  So is barebacking.  You can’t respect the rights of one without respecting the rights of the other.  And it is possible to respect somebody and validate their right to do with their bodies what they want and still not agree with them or even buy into how they justify their behavior.  Barebacking isn’t for everyone.  It takes special ability to deal with fear of the unknown, anxiety, guilt, shame, self-loathing, and the realities of dealing with an STD.

But then, safe sex is not for everyone either.

Barebacking is sex at its most natural.  There isn’t that stupid awkward moment when the action stops and someone locates the condom, rips open the foil packet, rolls it down his rod, grabs the lube, smears the lube down the length of the sheathed shaft, and then play resumes.  There is no condom-related erectile dysfunction.  There is no ‘I am going to ram and ram and ram, but I am not going to cum until I withdraw, tear of this condom, and then jerk off on you’.  With barebacking the penis slides in, rams and jams and it all happens with a natural sense of fluidity, motion, and progression.

How can that be bad?


So, here are my final recommendations regarding barebacking:

Act responsibly, even with anonymous strangers. Disclose your status when asked.

Do your best to do no harm.

Get tested for all STDs on a regular basis.

Don’t engage in sexual activity with others if you have or suspect you have a communicable STD.

Never pressure others into engaging in unsafe sex.

And stop hating yourself.  (There are plenty in the world doing that for you already.)

Be good to yourself.  Be better to others.

Happy fucking, men!

May we all be happy fucking men.

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Are we 'Generation Bareback'?

BAREBACK SEX IS ON THE RISE IN THE UK AND ELSEWHERE. FROM FS MAGAZINE, STUART HAGGAS REPORTS ON THE POSSIBLE REASONS AND ON WHAT IT ALL MIGHT MEAN FOR HIV PREVENTION

It’s been 35 years since the New York Times reported on a ‘rare cancer seen in 41 homosexuals’ – an article from the summer of 1981 that’s considered the first major news story about HIV/AIDS. A generation of gay men have since grown up with condoms and safer sex campaigns a familiar part of everyday life.

Recent studies show an increase in unprotected sex among HIV-negative gay men. Why are some of us ditching condoms? And in a world of treatment, undetectability and PrEP, is this the start of generation bareback?

SINGLE GAYS

This summer, GMFA surveyed over 1,500 gay and bisexual men about their general sexual health.
One question asked ‘How much sex in the past year was unprotected anal sex?’

• 14% said that they have not had any any anal sex in the last year.
• 22% said that they have not had any unprotected anal sex in the last year.
• 18% said that about one-quarter of the sex they are having is unprotected.
• 7% said about half
• 4% said about three quarters
• 19% said nearly all of the sex they had was unprotected.
• 16% said they only have unprotected anal sex.

To round all the above off, about 36% of gay men did not have unprotected anal sex in the last year. About 25% said they only had unprotected anal sex some of the time. And 39% said that all or nearly all of it was unprotected. So who is not using condoms?
Gay men who are married/civil partnered or dating a regular partner can reach a stage in their relationship when they agree to condom-free sex with each other – indeed 51% of the men who responded to our survey say they’ve had sex with just one partner in the past year. 41% said they were in a monogamous relationship.

But gay men in long-term and monogamous relationships aren’t the only ones choosing not to use condoms. Almost a quarter (24%) of those are single men. Being single gay men, they may be having bareback sex with any number of partners. GMFA’s survey asked these single men how many sexual partners they had unprotected anal sex with in the past year. Their answers are:

• 14%: 1 partner
• 26%: 2-4 partners
• 25%: 5-12 partners
• 15%: 13-29 partners
• 16%: 30-99 partners
• 4%: 100+ partners

Ian Howley of GMFA told us his thoughts on these stats: “We know that the majority of gay and bisexual men use condoms some of the time. There is an idea out there that everyone doesn’t use condoms, and for a lot of people who responded to this survey this is the case. But many of these men are in long term relationships, or are married/civil partnered or said they were in a monogamous relationship. When you look at these stats, it’s only a small percentage of gay men, who are having lots of unprotected anal sex, who are at a high level of risk. So to say everyone barebacks all of the time is untrue”

The survey also asked everyone who took the survey about their HIV status. Of the single men who completed the survey:

• 38% are definitely HIV-negative
• 16% are probably HIV-negative
• 34% are definitely HIV-positive
• 2% are probably HIV-positive
• 10% don’t know

Altogether, 54% of single men who are having bareback sex describe themselves as HIV-negative. We decided to ask these men why they choose not to use condoms.

SINGLE, NEGATIVE AND BAREBACK

Sam is 35 from Brighton. He’s single. He doesn’t worry about picking up STIs or becoming HIV-positive, nor does he ask the status of his casual sex partners.

“I’m not concerned,” he says. “I know I should be, but I don’t use a condom. I presume most who have HIV are on treatment so are safe.”

Lorne is 24 from Cardiff. He’s single, only has bareback sex, and has had condomless anal sex with over 30 guys in the past year. He’s not worried about becoming HIV-positive either. “It’s far from a death sentence,” he says, “I’d prefer to have HIV than diabetes.” He’s also not concerned about having bareback sex with someone who is HIV-positive. “I endeavour not to decline someone based on their HIV status.”

Mike is 30 from Manchester. He’s single, and nearly all of the sex he’s had in the past year was bareback. He doesn’t worry about HIV or other STIs. “I know it can happen but I just don’t think about it. I get tested regularly.”

Joe is 25 from the Isle of Wight. He’s single, nearly all of the sex he has is unprotected, and he has been fucked bareback by over 30 guys in the last year. “As much as I have no desire to catch HIV, I’ve already adjusted to the fact that it may just happen,” he says. “The reality is, I’m in a high risk group, and even without having bareback sex, I could still be at risk. I don’t want it, but I realise that it could happen, safer or not.”

Mike is 32 from London. He’s single and has had unprotected anal sex with over 30 guys in the past year. He doesn’t worry about picking up STIs or becoming HIV-positive, nor does he ask the status of his casual sex partners. “I don’t ask as I don’t care,” he says. “I’m a bareback cumdump. I understand the risks.”

GAY SEX SURVEY STATS

This echoes a pattern identified in the most recent Gay Men’s Sex Survey.

“The data from the Gay Men’s Sex Survey 2014 indicates that condom use among HIV-positive men hasn’t changed much since 2010,” says Cary James of THT, “but it does appear that condom use among HIV-negative men has declined and so has the overall statistic for gay men.”

“In the 2010 survey, 35.9% said they had condomless anal sex with a non-steady partner in the last year,” elaborates Ford Hickson of Sigma, who carried out the research. “In the 2014 survey, 39.2% had.”

Breaking this down by HIV status, these figures were:

• 2.7% in 2010 and 36.6% in 2014 for men without diagnosed HIV (moderate increase).
• 64.3% in 2010 and 63.5% in 2014 for men with diagnosed HIV (no significant change).

TREATABLE, BUT STILL TRAUMATIC

“I don’t feel nostalgic for the days when there was no effective treatment for HIV. I lost far too many friends at a young age as a result of HIV, and the effective treatment we now have seems to me little short of miraculous,” says GMFA’s Matthew Hodson.

“But I don’t feel surprised that the motivation to protect yourself against HIV has become less pressing when we have seen a shift from it being a death sentence to a virus that is now very treatable.

“I do know some men who have been diagnosed with HIV and have largely shrugged and taken it in their stride,” Matthew adds. “Far more often I encounter men who have really struggled to come to terms with their diagnosis, at least in the short term. For most, hearing equivalent words to: ‘Your result has come back and you’ve tested positive for HIV’ is still a powerful and traumatic moment.”

WORRIES

Sam, Lorne, Mike, Joe and Mike aren’t unusual in not worrying about STIs including HIV.

Of the single HIV-negative men who mostly or only have bareback sex, 42% said in our survey they’re not worried about HIV, and 43% said they’re not worried about other STIs. However, 47% admit they do worry about becoming HIV-positive, and 48% worry about picking up an STI – but despite these worries, they continue having unprotected sex.

Some accept that becoming HIV-positive is an inevitable consequence of this choice. “I enjoy anonymous unprotected sex,” says David, 27 from Manchester. “It’s bound to happen.”

Others have concerns about the level of honesty and clarity around an HIV diagnosis. “I don’t sleep around and just sleep with guys I’m dating,” says Daniel, 35 from Essex. “The last guy was someone in an open relationship and he said he was negative and free from STIs, but there’s always a slight worry in the back of my mind that they may have something that wasn’t detected in a test, or they may have been dishonest. I prefer to sleep with someone unprotected who has been tested, but I get concerned not everyone is as honest as me.”

And others have deep concerns about the consequences of their preference for bareback. Carlos is 23 and lives in Ireland. He’s bisexual, single, mostly passive, and nearly all of the anal sex he’s had in the past year was unprotected. He worries about picking up STIs and becoming HIV-positive. “Due to my last few instances of engaging in high risk behaviour, against my better judgement,” he explains, “becoming positive is still very much a real danger and it’s a lifelong disease to be stuck with.”

Darius is 26 from Glasgow. He’s single, versatile, and all the anal sex he’s had in the last year has been bareback. He worries about picking up STIs and becoming HIV-positive. “I’m petrified,” he admits. “I think it is the fear of the unknown and fear of the stigma associated with it. I am currently waiting for the results of my latest tests. I’m scared in case I do pick something up – and it could have been easily prevented.”

REASONS TO WORRY

“HIV remains distinct from most other STIs because there is no cure. If left untreated it will kill you, and it is one of the most stigmatised of all medical conditions,” says GMFA’s Matthew Hodson.

“I often hear people condemning others for their sexual choices. It’s easy to judge but it usually isn’t helpful. Somehow because it involves sex (and, what’s more, it involves gay sex) people feel free to get moralistic in a way that they wouldn’t about smoking or drinking alcohol to excess.

“I would want to say to anyone who believes that HIV is inevitable for them, that it’s not,” Matthew adds.

OPEN RELATIONSHIP AND BB

It’s not only single guys, or guys in monogamous relationships, who are having bareback sex. Some guys in open relationships told us they have bareback sex with casual partners outside their relationship

Kevin is 34 from Ireland. He’s versatile, in an open relationship, and much of the sex he’s had in the last year was unprotected. He asks casual partners their HIV status before having sex: “So I could make an informed decision on the risks.” Kevin worries about becoming HIV-positive. “I’d prefer not to have to take a pill for the rest of my life, but it happens sometimes.”

Bruce is 42 from Leeds. He’s in an open relationship, he’s passive, and nearly all of the sex he has is unprotected. He doesn’t ask partners their status. “Although I am HIV-negative I don’t serosort,” he says. “This is partly because I’m on PrEP, partly because most HIV-positive guys are likely to be undetectable (and negative guys who don’t get tested are probably higher risk), and partly because I think sorting guys by HIV status is kinda dehumanising. If a guy tells me he’s positive it doesn’t deter me from letting him fuck me bareback. Most positive guys are undetectable these days.”

Bruce adds that he doesn’t worry about becoming HIV-positive: “I’m on PrEP but also I have several HIV-positive friends who live full healthy lives. I don’t expect to get it, but if I do I don’t think I’ll be too worried about it.” He does however worry about some other STIs. “Many other STIs are treatable, but super gonorrhoea and hep C do worry me.”

PrEP TALK

If condom-free porn is becoming the standard industry practice, does the normality of bareback porn affect gay men’s attitudes towards sex?

“Is really a pragmatic response to my sexual habits as I bareback rather a lot,” Bruce explains. “I do frankly think it should be available on the NHS because the protection it provides should be accessible for all those in high risk groups. I am HIV-negative and on PrEP. I have met poz guys who don’t like barebacking with neg guys, but have changed their mind on hearing I’m on PrEP.”

“I am on PrEP daily,” says Tom, 37 from London. “I always make sure I have bareback sex with other PrEP users or undetectable positive people.”

Mike, 30 from Manchester, would use PrEP if it were available on the NHS. “Better safe than sorry,” he says, “especially when my dick takes over my brain and I do things I know are risky, but I’m too horny to think clearly.”

PrEP WORK

“If you have unprotected sex with lots of sexual partners, the chances are that you will pick up STIs – and unless you are taking PrEP, that includes HIV,” says GMFA’s Matthew Hodson.

“Some people go through periods of their lives when they feel that they are not able to stop having unprotected sex. For many this will just be a phase, for some it’s a long-term choice. For these people PrEP could make a real difference, and the cost of providing PrEP for a period is much cheaper than the cost of HIV treatment and care for life.”

PORN EXPECTATIONS

“Gay men who struggle with their use of chems for sex often say that it’s as a result of wanting to live up to the porn fantasy of sex,” Matthew adds.

“It’s a part of the struggle of modern life that our expectations are often raised far beyond what we are likely to achieve.”

Steven from Eurocreme disagrees, adding: “Gay porn, I believe, doesn’t set the standard for sex. It acts as an access point to find what you’re into. Some people may be disappointed in sex at times – even porn stars get that from time to time – but that’s life. Not every day will be a blast, so why should we expect the same to happen in sex?

“If you feel down in the dumps regularly in life, you should talk about it with someone and inevitably try changing your perception or find what’s bringing you down and change it. The same goes for sex.

“If you watch god-like hardcore action and find yourself unable to orgasm with your husband, boyfriend or latest hookup from Grindr, perhaps it’s not porn that’s the problem. Porn may act as a focus, but it shouldn’t be regarded as an all-out cause.”

NEG OR POZ?

Some men will only have bareback sex with negative guys, while others feel it’s better to bareback with men who are positive, on treatment, and with an undetectable viral load.

Darius explains that he wouldn’t have unprotected sex with someone who told him they were HIV-positive. “I would be too scared to put myself at risk,” he says, “and I understand this is silly as it is safer to have unprotected sex with someone who knows they have HIV and is receiving treatment, rather than someone who doesn’t know their status.”

Max is 41 from London. He’s top only, and nearly all of the sex he’s had in the past year was bareback. He’s not worried about picking up STIs including HIV. “I don’t shag anonymous randoms,” he says. He would consider having sex with someone who is HIV-positive. “Possibly, I suppose. It would depend on their health, viral load, medication, and whether they were undetectable – but I think the sensible option would be to use a condom.”

POSITIVELY BB

And what of HIV-positive single guys who only or mostly have bareback sex?

“I am HIV-positive and undetectable,” says Harrie, 50 from London. “I only play bareback, and usually with other positive guys, or negative on PrEP.”

“I’m HIV-positive and only have sex with other positive guys,” agrees Chris, 36 from Manchester.
“I never do ask,” admits Ben, 31 from Middlesbrough, “and very rarely get asked myself either.”

HEAT OF THE MOMENT

“Asking why someone has unprotected sex is like asking why someone drinks too much,” says GMFA’s Matthew Hodson.
“There are going to be a vast array of reasons why someone might do that. It might be that they’re unaware of the health consequences, that they believe they can personally avoid any harms, that they don’t care or that they know and care but find themselves unable to take control – or a combination of these.”

“Any decrease in condom use is something which we take very seriously,” says Cary from THT, “but it’s important to remember that gay men use condoms more than any other highly affected group, so although gay men’s condom use is not perfect, that fact should be recognised and supported.

“That said, most gay men at some point in their lives have chosen not to use a condom. The moment that we decide to use a condom or not is a very intimate, often emotional, and irrational moment. In the heat of the moment, rationality and logic are often not the first things in our minds. It’s important that HIV prevention recognises that reality. For some men, knowing the facts about HIV prevention will be enough to motivate them to use a condom. But for others a different approach might be needed. It’s important that we work to drive behaviour change on rational, social and emotional levels. In this way we will have the best chance of reaching those who may not have responded to messages in past.”

“We are complex beings and our needs, desires and concerns are complex too,” adds Matthew. “Easy answers tend not to work and what works for some people will not work for others. Which is why HIV prevention and sexual health will be most effective when it can address a variety of needs, relating to an individual’s knowledge, will and power to take control of their health, recognising that there will still be some who will choose not to do so.”

INFORMED CHOICE

“Condom use among gay men went from virtually zero in the early 80s, pre-AIDS, to very high numbers in the late 80s and early 90s’’, says Matthew.

‘‘Condom use has slipped back a little since then, partly because HIV is no longer a death sentence, and partly because we’re not seeing the same investment in sexual health that we saw a decade ago. With resources deployed to promote condoms and sexual health, encourage testing, challenge stigma, ensure that all gay men are well educated about HIV prevention and PrEP provided, we could end HIV within a generation.”

“The field of HIV prevention has changed enormously in recent years,” agrees Cary from THT. “The recent results of the PARTNER study have shown that HIV-positive people with undetectable viral load can’t pass on the virus. And PrEP has given us another powerful tool in stopping more men from becoming infected. All of these things will change the way people view HIV. That is not something to be feared but an opportunity for us to evolve towards our goal of eliminating HIV.”

“GMFA wants all gay men to have a choice,” Matthew adds. “We want the choices that men make to be informed ones, so that they know how to avoid HIV and other STIs, and they know the consequences of having HIV. And we want men to have the will and the power to make choices for themselves.”

What will the next generation be? Will more of us choose generation bareback? And if we do, does that risk derailing the possibility of ending HIV?

For more information on sex, sexual health, STIs and HIV, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.

How risky is fucking without condoms?

Most gay men who have HIV caught it from getting fucked without a condom. As far as gay sex goes, getting fucked without a condom, and having your partner cum inside you, is the riskiest thing you can do. This is because the lining of the arse can absorb liquids directly into your bloodstream. If there’s HIV in his cum, and it goes up your arse, that will be absorbed too. Getting fucked without him cumming inside you is lower risk but, as there is HIV in pre-cum too, there is still a risk of HIV transmission.

In group sex it’s theoretically possible to catch HIV from getting fucked even if your partner is HIV-negative, if he has fucked someone who is HIV-positive and then fucks you immediately afterwards. This is because there could be traces of HIV-infected anal mucus or blood on his cock.

Getting fucked is also high risk for most other STIs, including chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes, syphilis, warts, hepatitis B and it is now thought that you can catch hepatitis C as well. Condoms provide an effective barrier against most STIs, including HIV, although some STIs, such as syphilis and warts, can still be transmitted if the condom does not cover the entire infected area, such as the base of the cock. If you are infected with an STI in your arse, it will increase the chances of you being infected with HIV if you are HIV-negative. If you are HIV-positive and have an STI, it is likely that there will be higher concentrations of HIV in all of your body fluids, including blood and anal mucus, and so you will be more infectious.

If the person doing the fucking is HIV-positive and has an undetectable viral load the risk of transmission will be greatly reduced. A recent study found no cases where HIV was passed on by someone who was undetectable.

What if I fuck without a condom?

Fucking someone without a condom is less risky than getting fucked without a condom, but it is still one of the riskiest sexual practices that gay men do. If you are HIV-negative, fucking someone bareback is more likely to lead to infection than sucking cock. This is because the anal mucus that lines the arse (we all have it) can contain a very high concentration of HIV. The mucous membrane just inside the tip of the penis and the foreskin can absorb liquids, like anal mucus, directly into the bloodstream. HIV experts used to think that infection from the receptive partner (bottom) to the insertive partner (top) was as a result of bleeding in the arse. Although it’s possible that blood is responsible for transmission in some cases, we now think that anal mucus is the body fluid that enables the man doing the fucking to become infected.

Other infections in or around his arse, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes, syphilis, warts and hepatitis B can be passed to the guy fucking through his urethra (the tube you piss through). Condoms can prevent most of the infections that you can get from fucking, although it’s worth remembering that some STIs can be transmitted even if you use condoms.

If the guy getting fucked is HIV-positive and has an undetectable viral load the risk of transmission is greatly reduced.

How risky are fucking and getting fucked with condoms?

While it is rare, condoms can break during fucking and this could make it possible for HIV or other STIs to be transmitted. Condom breaks usually occur because condoms are used incorrectly or are used for long sessions without changing them. If you use condoms correctly with plenty of water-based lube, it will greatly reduce the chances of them breaking. If you are having group sex, it’s also important to change condoms for each partner. This is because it’s theoretically possible that traces of HIV-infected anal mucus or blood could remain on a condom after a guy with HIV gets fucked. This is also true for other STIs, including hepatitis C. While condoms offer protection against HIV and most STIs, they cannot prevent them all. Even if you always use condoms for fucking we recommend that you get regular sexual health screens at a GUM clinic and continue to test for HIV on an annual basis.

www.fsmag.org.uk/fs155-are-we-generation-bareback

and

www.positivelite.com/component/zoo/item/are-we-generation-bareback

11 Ways How to Tell you Have Cum Loving Bottom on your Hands - Must Read for Guys who Love Bareback Sex

If you ever had bareback sex you will understand the pure joy of breeding an ass or pulling out to nut all over the hole and eating your babies or kissing with it. How do you tell you have found a guy who is willing to take your nut. I have the signs for you.

1. He likes taking the nut in his mouth or on any part of the body. Cum loving bottoms are liberal to nut. The more, the better they feel.

2. They want the bareback fuck so hard and deep. They revel in feeling the skin tearing up their ass. They know the top’s babies are lining their hole.

3. When they suck your dick, tell them you want to breed the ass. If they moan, look at you in the affirmative, then they are a cum loving bottom.

4. If they want it bareback even in a threesome.

5. You can tell its a cum loving bottom based on how they undress. If they are a big tease - more than often they love the fuck bareback.

6. If they tell you to breed the ass. Please do it nasty.

7. They want to swallow your babies. Worse, if they call you daddy.

8. Bottoms love when they ride the dick. One reason they love riding the dick is because they don’t get the dick as deep as the top wants, so they can carry on wild on the dick. If a bottom rides your dick, don’t be fooled by his wild expressions when fucking, they aren’t feeling that much pain. This is def one way for the top to nut.

9. Pull out and eat the ass, yes, they want it bareback.

10. A great ass eater loves when the bottom is riding the face. If the bottom loves riding the face, another hint they may want it bareback. Virgins don’t ride faces.

11. Observe their response to ass eating. If they act like they are getting a nice massage, chances are they are experienced doing it….doing it bare.

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Just Because I’m a Bareback Top Doesn’t Make Me a Monster!

I like unloading in guys. So what!

I’ve learned in my life that it’s best just to come right out and tell it like it is. Here’s my truth: I like topping guys bareback and unloading my milk deep inside.



You may think that’s wrong. In fact, some reading this might even feel I’m a monster. That’s your right I guess. But if you hear me out, you’ll find I’m not the person you may think I am.

First, let’s get one thing out of the way. When I top a man and shoot deep inside, I do it with his total and complete permission.



Second, I am on PREP. This is not something I hide or reveal later during a connection. To my knowledge, I STD free and regularly visit the doctor for testing.

Third, prior to drilling a guy’s hole out, I let him know in advance that I like it raw. I also let him know that my goal is to deposit my seed into his oven.

Yes, I am using metaphors but you get the drift.

Now that I’ve got that out of the way, I guess it’s best to move on to the motivation for authoring this piece. I’ll tell you straight out. Here it goes.

I’m sick of guys thinking I’m a manwhore monster.

No, not everyone feels this way but a lot of guys do. You should see some of the ridiculous messages I get on the hook up apps because my profile says the words bareback top.

What’s interesting is that even though there are a lot of haters out there, there’s tons of us doing it raw. If you don’t believe me, just check out the research that shows four in ten guys ride the big banana unwrapped.

I can only speak for myself but I know I’m DTF that way.

There’s nothing like feeling my massive squirts go deep inside of a guy’s hole. And yeah, they are massive because I save up over a period of several days. That means no JO. I want it ALL in the guy when it’s time to make my deposit.

Oh man,  the sensation of a hairy opening absorbing my meat and getting it all warm just does it for me.

And eventually, something has to give. That’s usually my nut.

So it’s like this. When I drill, I drill deep. And I don’t stop until I plant my goods. In fact, knowing that I can seed a guy is what gets me going in the first place.

If that isn’t your thing, I completely respect your choice. But don’t judge me just because I like doing it.

We all have choices. You make yours and I’ll make mine. Fair enough?

www.gaypopbuzz.com/bareback-top-monster/

Is There Such a Thing as Bareback Etiquette?

Has this ever happened to you with a guy?

I’ve been dating the same guy for around six-months. His name is Kevin. Ever since we met, we’ve been doing it raw. Because both of us are on pRep, it just makes sense you know?

At any rate, we’re versatile. When I think about our relationship, it’s one of the few I’ve ever been involved with where the guy didn’t gravitate toward one activity over another. Perhaps that will change?



Who the fudge knows.

That’s not the real reason I’m writing this post. Instead, it’s to talk about barebacking etiquette or lack thereof. Maybe the best way to explain is to blurt it right out.

A week ago, Kevin topped me in my living room. It happened organically. A little kissy face here, some stroking there, and before I knew it, I was bouncing on him like a pogo stick.

It’s probably not the most interesting position but it works for me. I’m one of those guys who really can’t bottom unless the top dude is lying on his back. I know boring. But it is what it is.

So, here is what happened.

I’m sitting on him, sniffing on liquid gold and riding his pony. As time when on, he became super aggressive (which was sort of hot). But then out of nowhere, I felt a squirt.

It’s hard to describe in writing because words can’t really communicate the sensation. Let’s just say it’s a cross between an icy pinprick and a dart.

Don’t ask me why but instinctively, I knew he had released in me.

There’s an urban myth floating around gaydom that suggests you can’t feel such things. I’m here to tell you that’s a bunch of BS because you absolutely can. Anyone who has ever been bred knows what I am saying is true.

But here is the thing Kevin didn’t ask if it was OK. He also didn’t warn me that he was about to bust. He simply tightened his body up and juiced out.

Again, I want to say that my riding him raw was completely consensual. Nothing was forced. But I do think he should have told me what he was about to do, ya know?

After we were done messing around, I gently approached the topic. While I don’t remember my exact words, I think I said something like, Why did you do that?

He knew EXACTLY what I was talking about.

Because I wanted to. Next time you can do it to me. Did you like it? he asked with a grin.

If truth be told, part of me DID. There’s just something hot about knowing your man’s milk is deep inside. But there is a part of me who thought his behavior rude and piggish.

I won’t belabor the point. No harm, no foul I guess. But I am curious to know  is it OK to breed your boyfriend when barebacking? Shouldn’t there be an agreement in advance or a warning?

Oh, in case you are wondering. Neither of us have any STI’s that we know of. But it’s not about that for me. It’s more about etiquette.

www.gaypopbuzz.com/bareback-etiquette/

5 Reasons Why I Bareback That I’m Not Ashamed Of

Choosing to bareback doesn’t mean I’m a monster

I’m just going to come right out and say it. I like to bareback. In other words, I prefer riding a guy who is not wearing a condom. You may think that is irresponsible – perhaps even stupid. But in order for me to write this article, I want to be completely honest.

In recent years, gay men who bareback have gotten a bad rap. There are probably a number of reasons for this, including societal taboos, ongoing homophobia and the aftermath of the HIV/AIDS epidemic.

But here is what I know. Most of the guys I hookup with are into raw sex too. And the vast majority of them don’t fit the stereotypes that spread around gaydom.

In fact, there’s some research to suggest that four in ten men ride other guys raw – and are taking loads in the process. I’m not saying that is right or wrong. But I am saying it happens and guys are doing it a lot more thank some might think.

What follows are 5 reasons why I bareback that I’m not ashamed of. Some of these may strike you as silly. Others might cause you to pause and think. I encourage you to read them all to fully absorb their deeper meaning.

1. I like the way it feels

Some people don’t mind latex. I’m not one of them. There’s just something about a guy wearing a rubber that makes me go soft. Maybe I’ve got a sensitive butthole or something but condoms kill the experience for me. I know that’s note the case for all guys who bottom. I can only speak for myself.

Ever since I went on PREP in 2012, I’ve been riding guys latex free. Yes – I am aware that I am opening myself up to possible STI’s but I still prefer feeling the guy inside of me without a barrier.

And yes, I visit my doctor regular for different forms of testing. Knock on wood, I’ve never caught anything. But I’m also aware that it could happen.

2. I feel closer to the guy

Perhaps a shabby excuse but one that I’m going to throw out there. I’ve played the bottom role with men who are wrapped and those who are not. In every instance, I have found that I feel closer to my partner when the folks at Trojan aren’t present.
And let me tell you something. If you are a total bottom or a power bottom, you can absolutely tell when a guy has one on. Even though the inside of your rectum doesn’t have nerve endings, you still know.

3. More opportunity

Before PREP came out, most gay men were all about asking one another their HIV status. Now a-days, with the proliferation of PREP, it seems like nobody cares anymore. I’m not judging this or saying people should care more. It is what it is.

But here is what I know. When a hot guy messages me on Grindr and asks if I like it wrapped or raw, I automatically know that he wants to bareback. I’ve learned from experience that if you respond with “condoms only”, the guy will disappear.

Come on – you know that is totally, 100% true!

4. More honesty

Another thing I’ve discovered since going bareback is that the guys I hookup with are more open and honest about their situation. In other words, when you tell them you are on PREP and ride raw, they are more apt to respond with: I am too or I’m undetectable.

Compare that to the liars you meet on the hookup apps who play games and say crap like: I’m negative and play safe only but would top you BB.

I always think when I hear this: How many guys have you f*cked and unloaded into with this nonsense?! You know full well this same guy hasn’t been tested in years and has no earthly idea of his status.

At least guys who like to ride raw like me are honest. We don’t need to romanticize BB action like some people do.

5. I feel empowered

My final reason for preferring to bareback as a gay man is simply this. I feel more empowered. What do I mean by this? It’s pretty straight forward.

Related: Gay man breaks up with barebacking boyfriend because of PREP

By choosing to go unwrapped, I get to call the shots. You either want to top me without a rubber or you don’t. And if you are not into it, that’s fine by me. But at least I don’t have to deal with condom Nazis trying to force their will on me.

Final Thoughts

I’m not trying to advocate for bareback sex. But there are a lot of people who seem to wonder why so many guys do it condom-free.
At least now you have the unvarnished truth from someone who is telling it like it is.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

www.gaypopbuzz.com/gay-bareback/

Barebacking with HIV+ Person on Meds: Near Zero Risk of HIV Transmission (Study)

In the July edition of the Journal of the American Medical Association, a Landmark Partner Study reported findings that will have important ramifications regarding HIV testing, prevention and treatment.

The study monitored more than 58,000 instances of condomless sex among the couples (548 heterosexual,340 gay) over a several year period.

The researchers found zero cases of HIV transmission from one partner to the other.

A quote from the research:

“This study provides the first estimate to our knowledge of HIV transmission risk through condomless anal sex in which the HIV-positive partner is taking ART with suppressed plasma HIV viral load and also provides an estimate of the absolute rate of HIV transmission through condomless heterosexual sex.

The estimate of the overall transmission rate, and the transmission rate for anal sex, was zero.

However, 95% confidence limits suggest that with eligible couple-years accrued so far, appreciable levels of risk cannot be excluded, particularly for anal sex and when considered from the perspective of a cumulative risk over several years.”

Human Rights Campaign’s Mary Beth Maxwell; Senior Vice President for Programs, Research and Training said the following as reported in Pink News:

“The results of this important study provide further proof that people living with HIV are not a threat to anyone.
It is clear that getting tested, knowing your status, and accessing HIV treatment can help end this epidemic by reducing the spread of HIV.

Not only do these findings underscore the continued need for universal access to affordable medications, but they also cast further doubt on the utility of HIV criminalization laws.”

Scott Schoettes, HIV Project Director for Lambda Legal stated the following, when contact by Gay Pop Buzz: “The results of the PARTNER study underscore the importance of creating meaningful access to care for everyone living with or at higher risk for HIV.

Right now, only about 40% of people living with HIV in the U.S. are engaged in care. We know ‘treatment as prevention’ and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) both work; now we need to get them to everyone who needs them.”

Perhaps the most important part of the study is towards the end under conclusions:

“Among serodifferent heterosexual and MSM couples in which the HIV-positive partner was using suppressive ART and who reported condomless sex, during median follow-up of 1.3 years per couple, there were no documented cases of within-couple HIV transmission (upper 95% confidence limit, 0.30/100 couple-years of follow-up).

Additional longer-term follow-up is necessary to provide more precise estimates of risk.”

On a related front, it is important to note that taking antiretroviral (ART) therapy for the treatment of HIV ortaking PREP for HIV prevention does not stop the spread of other viruses commonly spread through sex, including gonorrhea, syphilis or Human papillomavirus (HPV).

www.gaypopbuzz.com/condomless-sex-hiv-transmission-meds/

Four in Ten Gay Men Going Bareback: Unprotected Taking Loads (Study)

Bareback with load dumping the in thing?

A new study out of the UK has been released revealed four out of ten men are having unprotected anal sex.  In a survey of sexual health across Britain, it found while more guys are worrying about becoming HIV+, that doesn’t mean those concerns correlates with more people using rubbers.

As reported by Gay Star News: “Sexual health charity GMFA found 39% of gay men said the majority of sex they had in the last year was unprotected. 25% said they only had unprotected anal sex some of the time, while 35% said they don’t have any unprotected sex.”
Single HIV-negative men who mostly or only have bareback sex said:

42% are not worried about HIV
43% are not worried about other STDs
47% do worry about HIV positive
48% do worry about picking up other STDs
Up to 51% of gay men believe current HIV campaigns do not speak to them.
Lorne, 24 from Cardiff, is single and said he had bareback sex with 30 guys in the past year.
‘It’s far from a death sentence,’ he said. ‘I’d prefer to have HIV than diabetes.’ He added: ‘I endeavor not to decline someone based on their HIV status’.

Here is more reporting from Gay Star News:

“Mike, 32 from London, does not worry about picking up STIs or becoming HIV positive and does not ask the status of casual sex partners.

‘I don’t ask as I don’t care,’ he said. ‘I’m a bareback cumdump. I understand the risks’.

Ian Howley, the incoming interim CEO of GMFA, said: ‘HIV prevention is about so much more than telling someone to wear a condom, to test, to take PrEP. It’s also about self-esteem, self worth, mental health and empowerment.

‘If you don’t care about yourself, why would you care about remaining HIV-negative? And this is where HIV prevention has to change. We need to step back and think about how do we approach this.

‘This is so much more to gay men’s health than HIV and we need to address this. The game has changed and we need to change tactics. If we are to finally win the fight against HIV it’s not going to be down to just PrEP or condoms or testing.

‘It’s going to be when we, as a community, start to value our own lives and see our self worth. It will be when we work on our self-esteem and make sure we look after the issues we face in our day-to-day lives. Remaining HIV-negative is just one part of the battle to be healthy.’

He added: ‘We’re in a new era when it comes to HIV, and we all need to work together to make sure that we supply the information gay and bisexual men are looking for. But unfortunately we are in a time where spending on HIV prevention has been cut year-on-year, donations in the sector as a whole are down and we are seeing charities close. Something needs to be done.’ “

www.gaypopbuzz.com/four-ten-gay-men-going-bareback-go-unprotected-taking-loads-study/

Majority of Americans are Barebacking (Study)

They’re also not too worried about STI’s

A new report has been released that sheds light on the sexual practices of men and women in the United States. According to a report released by the folks at Superdrug Online Doctor, a whopping 65% of Americans are barebacking each other like jackrabbits!
In case you don’t know what that means – they’re not using condoms.

“While we can’t really speculate back and forth, it was kind of surprising with it being 2017, we thought sex ed might be more prevalent,” Krista Bowman, a spokeswoman for the creative team at Superdrug Online Doctor, a company that provides mail order prescriptions and services including contraceptives and treatments for some STI’s, told USA TODAY College.
“It looks to be, overall, that the majority of people are having unprotected sex.”

The study, which was conducted online with 1,000 Americans and Europeans, also revealed that of the people who would be upset by an unplanned pregnancy, 19% still had sex without a rubber “every single time,” with another 15% saying they had sex without a condom “almost every time.”

If you thought our European friends were more likely to wrap it up, think again. What’s more, the survey suggests many aren’t all that concerned about getting a STI from a partner.

• Over 68% of survey respondents reported that they “never” asked their partners to get tested for STI’s before having sex.
• Women were about 8% more likely to say they’d ask their partner to get tested before having sex.

The results apparently shocked Missy Ronan, Towson University’s Student Government Association Director of Health and Wellness at Towson University. Upon hearing the results of the study, she shared:

“People know what sex does, right?” Ronan said. “I guess it’s hard because STI’s still have the connotation of being dirty, or unclean. But, really, it’s just like any other kind of testing, it’s just another test you need to have a clean bill of health.”

The study does not appear to break down condom use by sexual orientation or activity. But it does offer clues about how society may view condom use in general.

According to a CDC report from 2014 that specifically speaks to the sexual practices of MSM, nearly two thirds of the guys surveyed messed around with each other without using condoms.

college.usatoday.com/2017/03/21/most-americans-have-sex-without-condoms-survey-finds/

and

www.gaypopbuzz.com/most-americans-condoms-study/

Bareback Monster Cocks

In gay sex, how can a 8 inch penis go all the way into an anus?

The anus is actually only about an inch deep. Further inside than that, and you're in the rectum.

Any anal sex -- gay or heterosexual -- is primarily about the nerve tissues in the anus (there are no sensory nerves in the rectum), though a feeling of "fullness" is reported by those receiving anal sex that puts something into the rectum.

Further, for men, there is also the prostate gland. That gland is located inside the body, but pressure can be applied to it through the rectum. The prostate is only about two inches inside, however, so a six-inch penis would have no trouble reaching it.

Lower intestine is a huge cavity. You may have heard of fisting fetish, which is activity of inserting a person’s entire hand, wrist, and arm into another person’s rectal opening. If you are squeamish, you should not research this.

However, I should tell you, that when done properly, this activity is save, deeply pleasurable, deeply satisfying, and very intense. To do it properly it requires, preparation, lubrication, time, patience, practice, and experience.

If lower intestine can accommodate a human fist up to the elbow, it can definitely fit a 8 inch penis as well. The trick is to relax sufficiently to where the sigmoid colon straightens out and accommodates the penis, or dildo or arm

likeahornyboy.blogspot.com/2018/08/bareback-monster-cocks-oups-ca-cest-des.html





What''s the biggest cock you''ve taken up your ass? 

- This one Argentine guy who was fucking me regularly when I lived in Buenos Aires. 6 foot 3 or so, body like a rugby player. Deep masculine voice, aggressive, rough, and completely in charge. His cock was at least eight inches long and THICK. I was only barely able to bring my thumb and index finger together when I was sucking his cock and that was me putting it in a virtual death grip. God, the way he used to hold me down and fuck me with that long thick tool, his big pendulous balls slapping against me as he'd slam in and out... I'd be sore and walking a little funny afterwards but it was so worth it. He loved giving it rough and loved knowing his big fat cock gave me so much pleasure but also a good amount of pain at the same time. And I loved knowing that it was me and only me getting him off. It's been almost a year since I last saw him. We still keep in contact with an occasional e-mail and I still think about him whenever I beat off. They don't make men like that here in America...

How deep can the penis go into the anus in anal sex? 

 - One of the many things I like about anal sex is that a guy’s penis can go much deeper. Sometimes during vaginal sex, if a guy has a very large or long penis, he’ll bottom out against my cervix, which is not always a pleasant sensation. I’ve never had that experience with anal sex. I can take the full length of the largest penis into my rectum until the guy is balls deep.

- Guys who are over 7.5" or so will hit up against a bend at the colon, once you can push past that the sky is the limit. getting past it can seem impossible at first, but you can continually push up against it, hold for a few seconds, and just slowly push more and more, it's a mind-blowing feeling to get fucked that deep.

likeahornyboy.blogspot.com/2018/05/how-deep-can-your-ass-get-penetrated.html

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