All of that was before the lifestyle was explained to me in a way that I could understand as well as see what the benefits and advantages could be in living that way. Prior to my being enlightened, I was involved in what I believed to be a very loving and amazing relationship with a gorgeous man named Erick. When I say “gorgeous” I do mean that he was so beautiful to look at that sometimes I just watched the man sleep. Weird, I know. But I was on the verge of being obsessed with this man, and naturally, I wanted to have sex with him a lot!
Feeling this way about him in no way prepared me for the day he brought up the idea of adding a chastity element to our relationship. Now, at first I assumed that he was talking about him being the one cavorting about in a chastity cage. While I wasn’t all that thrilled with doing that, I was willing to go along with it if he really wanted to wear one of those things once in a while. However, the more he talked, it became clear that he was of the notion that it would be me who would be wearing these devices and he would be the designated Key Holder. I tried to reason with him because there was just no way that I was interested in having my penis restricted any in way.
As I said before, I loved sex and chastity seemed like it would be taking that away from me. Erick kept trying to explain how it would be really exciting and a lot of other words that I would never have assigned to a chastity lifestyle. Finally, I had to just flatly refuse. He wasn’t hearing me say no in all of those other ways that I was trying to do it politely. So I had no choice. This wasn’t going to happen with me and he needed to understand that. When I did make him understand, Erick got very quiet and then asked me if that was my final say on the matter. I replied that it was.
Apparently, a male chastity lifestyle was rather important to him because the next day he packed and left. I can’t tell you how much that hurt, not to mention how much I missed having sex with him. At first, I was pretty sure that no one would ever be able to replace Erick. Admittedly, I cried for days on end. There were even times that I was sure I had made a huge mistake by refusing to even consider what he wanted. After all, if I had agreed to wear one of those chastity devices, Erick would still be with me. But I couldn’t help thinking what a waste that would be if I wasn’t able to have sex with him.
Next, there was Jared. I had moved on from the incident and was out with friends at a great club one night. There was a man that I had made eye contact with almost immediately upon walking into the club. He wasn’t as gorgeous as Erick, but he certainly wasn’t too shabby. Finally, he sent a drink over to me by the bartender. I saluted him as a way of thanking him and gave him my most seductive smile. Eventually, we started talking and we became inseparable. That relationship lasted several months and we got along wonderfully. We had so much in common and the sex was amazing.
However, it wasn’t long before the past repeated itself and Jared started talking about practicing chastity. My heart sank as he started the conversation because I already knew where it was going. What I couldn’t figure out is why did these men keep doing this to me? Was I lacking in some way that they just had to have something so diverse thrown in? I had been told that I was pretty good in bed, or anywhere else that sex happened. So why was this whole chastity thing becoming such a big deal? I couldn’t understand it and, of course, Jared was already having visions of being the Key Holder and how he would control me.
I wasn’t going to be controlled through chastity or anything else. That’s what I tried to find a nice way to say to him. In fact, I even offered to go along with his desire as long as I would be the Key Holder. Something else I found out this time around is that these guys that are all amped about playing with chastity items aren’t excited about wearing them. As much as I cared for Jared, I simply couldn’t agree to something that I knew I would hate. So, once more, I offered to play the role of Key Holder if he was totally committed to doing this, but I made it clear that it wouldn’t happen any other way.
Jared exited much the same way that Erick had. If he couldn’t live the lifestyle the way he wanted it, then he would look elsewhere and find someone that was more in tune with his desires. Out the door he went and he never looked back. This one didn’t hurt as much as Erick, but it still bummed me out for a while.
Since I’m a pretty attractive guy, it didn’t take long to find Rob. I really had high hopes for my relationship with him. He was everything that I had always wanted in a man and he seemed to feel the same way about me. It was after we had celebrated our first anniversary together when he sat me down and started talking about male chastity. This time, I totally lost my mind along with my composure.
I demanded to know why so many guys thought that locking up our most precious route to pleasure was a great idea. Most likely, I kind of scared Rob but I really was fed up. To his credit, Rob did try to explain to me what it meant to him but all I could hear was him saying the same things I had already heard twice before. He wanted me to wear a chastity device and he would keep the key and make the decisions of when I would be allowed to have sex. I told him no, no and no!
So once more, the idea of a chastity lifestyle had led to the demise of my relationship. Rob packed up and I was alone once more. I stayed that way for quite a while this time around. I wasn’t excited about risking my heart getting shattered again. Going out with friends was about all I was interested in doing. There were some one night stands in there but I was staying far away from relationships. That’s why it took so long for me to hook up with Cameron. I must give total credit to him because he really pursued me even after I kept brushing him off.
That should give you an idea of just how special Cam is. However, he, too, brought up the idea of chastity. He must have seen the look on my face because immediately he sat down beside me and took my hand. All he wanted was to talk and he was more than willing to explain what he wanted. This time I didn’t feel ambushed. Cam gently explained that he only wanted to experiment and that we could switch off being the Key Holder. He could probably see that I still wasn’t convinced so he got his laptop and turned it on.
I was a little curious as to why he would need his laptop for this discussion but I didn’t say anything. The truth is that I was very happy with Cam and that I didn’t want to lose another man due to disagreeing with a lifestyle choice. He wanted to show me some male chastityitems on a mens specialty websites. At first, I was hesitant, but as he showed me the various chastity devices on this website, I started to become a bit interested in what I was seeing. These were actually rather sexy and hot looking.
I started to relax a little as Cam and I went through the various pages of chastity devices. In fact, we were starting to have fun in just reading the descriptions of what each device did as well as look at the photographs of the hot models that were wearing them. We even started bookmarking the ones we liked the best. Because of his gentleness and understanding, I was able to be more open minded about the whole experience.
Finally, I caved. As long as we were going to be switching off as to who would be the Key Holder, then I could agree to at least give it a shot. The look on Cam’s face when I said that was worth whatever might be coming. I laughed a bit and turned the laptop around so that I could see some more of the chastity items. I told him that he had to help me choose the perfect one for us to try. Then, if the experiment was successful, we would come back to sites and order more chastity devices.
The first device we decided to try was the Caged and Cuffed. This one is a very sexy golden device that not only looks great, but is effective without being painful. When it arrived in the mail, I even volunteered to try it out first. That night, Cam and I took a very sexy shower together in preparation for my time in being locked away. He made sure to pay lots of attention to me and we were both very satisfied by the end of that shower. Then, we got out of the shower and toweled each other dry. He took me by the hand and we walked into our bedroom. It was time.
Cam took the Caged and Cuffed device and fitted it onto my penis. Once it was in place, he took the key and locked me in. He stood up and placed the key around a special chain that we had bought just for that purpose and put it around his neck. Leaning over, he kissed me gently on the mouth and we got into bed. I had to admit that it was a bit different trying to get comfortable laying down wearing the device, but it wasn’t a horrible experience. Cam put his arms around me from behind and we got into our favorite spooning position before going to sleep.
I have to admit to many fun experiences with the Caged and Cuff device. I do feel that it was because Cam knew how to handle things. We actually did switch around with the position of Key Holder and that made it even more fun. Eventually, we returned to the websites and ordered a few more of their chastity items. Sometimes I think that if I had only known what I knew now about the chastity lifestyle, things would have been different. Of course, that meant that those other guys needed to have been more patient with me and not so demanding. That tells me that it all worked out the way it was meant to and that Cam is the man for me.
Anal Challenge
Most men who are flow into male chastity or are pushed into it end up enjoying or again are forced to partake in anal sex. Many Masters who force their men into male chastity are into sex using dildos on their men, many share their man with other master and men for forced femdom sex. Men who are forced into chastity are also forced into having sex with other men in front of their boyfriends and masters. This is not about being gay it is about control and control is what male chastity is about. That said there are many men who either use by choice or are forced to use cages but do not participate in anal sex. Sometimes when a man needs to be trained to enjoy the pleasures of anal sex. The anal challenge hook is a great teaching tool but is also the perfect pleasure device for men skilled in anal sex. This is one of the few items that we offer that can be used by men but by far most of the users are men. We have men who buy them for their own use, men who buy them for their lovers and many Masters who order them for their men. Many of the Master ordering these hooks use them in chastity training and humiliation. This is a very intimidating product to use on a man who does not want any thing stuck up his ass but is going to be forced to take it. Again this in not being mean it is controlling and often times is a very loving experience.Ring Master
When it comes to cock cages the Ring Master is the king of male chastity devices. It is the number one selling cock cage online. Available in three ring sizes it’s main cock ring can handle men with the smallest cocks all the way up to the big boys and just about everything in between. This cock cage is built to stay on until your master or boyfriend decides it is time for you to feel pleasure. Until that time the Ring Master design will keep you firmly and safely away from any sexual gratification. It style is simply awesome yet completely functional. When I first use this cage I was so excited my shaft was trying so hard to get hard but alas there was solid metal stopping its progress and no where for it to go. The Ring Master takes all your sexual control away from you at least you can still be nailed in the ass like the good little bitch you are.Man Cave
This is a very extreme male chastity cage. It is a convertible unit allowing the end to be left open or closed up completely. Beautifully finished and once on there is no way to get it off without a key to the lock. The fit is snug and it is a unit designed to show at all times who is in control and who is being subject to strict chastity rules.Ass Spark cock ring combo butt plug
There are interesting aspects to male chastity that are rarely talked about. One of the major issue of chastity is that the man who is subjected to it often becomes a poor lover. When the device is removed so he ca have sex there are issues of performance. Sometimes the man is so eager to be stimulated that premature ejaculation is a large problem for male chastity men. The Ass Spark combo cock ring anal plug is one of the most popular products short of medications to answer this problem. When using the Ass Spark the cock cage is removed and the shaft balls and anus are lightly lubed, many times the penis will get instantly hard the moment it is touched as most people would understand once a cage is removed like any animal in the zoo remove the cage and it will run. Once the penis is lubed but no longer hard the balls are pulled through the ring one at a time then the shaft is forced through the ring. Effect the penis gets super hard but it also gives the man much more control over a premature ejaculation.Then the large ball end is inserted into the lubed anus. For most men it is a very tight fit and for men who have never had anal sex you must go slow but be firm. For the Ass Spark to work properly it must be firmly pushed in all the way. With the pressure of the cock ring and the pressure of the anal plug even a man who has been ion a male chastity cage for a long period of time can control his erection. The major benefit s of using an Ass Spark are the Master gets a much more satisfying experience, the man has much more control and best of all the orgasm once reached by the male is the most intense ever there fore needing fewer sexual encounters and forcing the man to stay longer periods of time in his cock cage. The other point is that it is a great tool to teach men about anal sex. Use this devices a number of times and your man should be able to handle an average sized penis or strap on dildo.
Half Pipe
The Half Pipe is one of my personal favorite cock cage designs.Why are Chastity Products such a Turn On?
The main attraction of chastity products is the unique thrill that comes from restraining sexual urges, which can lead to a heightened sense of anticipation, pleasure and sexual desire. Chastity products are widely used in domination and light bondage play, as the cravings for sexual contact and release can be restrained or bound, and the ‘key’ to the chastity product can be given to a trusted lover or playmate who then has the power to release the restrained user to the completion of their pleasure only when they choose to. Chastity products can introduce a bit of extra spice to bedroom games, and is particularly arousing for those that have had a history of self denial and sexual repression, and there is a great sense of relief for many as their sexual cravings are effectively taken out of their hands when involved in games with chastity products, as their key master is calling the shots, and so this relieves them of any responsibility for their own actions during the game (greatly reducing any feelings guilt or shame at what they may perceive to be wild, promiscuous or perverse sexual gratification). For those that have spent a lifetime repressing their same sex attractions chastity products can be very sexually fulfilling and can also help many people to work through the psychological barriers they have imposed over their own sexuality. Chastity products can also be an incredible turn on for those with all kinds of sexual desires, and can be a fun and satisfying way to really boost the sex life of many couples.Where Can I Buy Chastity Products?
There are many different kinds of chastity products for sale both in regular bricks and mortar sex shops and also from specialist online suppliers, and some chastity products are even customizable, so you can make sure you get the right fit and design to suit your individual shape and sexual needs. The key to chastity devices is that they restrain and bind the genitals, and for the most intense sexual play chastity belts and cages that have lockable systems are very popular, as you can literally hand over the key to your pleasure and gratification to your partner or playmate, for them to control at their own leisure. Chastity cages make great presents for that special lusty person in your life, and there are many excellent designs available for under $50 and some great deals online, so you can be sure to find something to suit any requirements or game play you have in mind.Many chastity products are designed to be worn without regular clothing and visually and very graphically display your bound genitals, so are perfect for bedroom games or wearing out to some of the more extreme fetish and bondage nights that you may be interested in exploring. Some great chastity products that combine visual gratification with intense security include the Manless Ultra which is just $59.99 and is a completely secure device that will effectively prevent any sexual contact with your genitals. The Manless Ultra has a clear plastic design and includes fully adjustable parts so that you can get the perfect fit whatever size you are, and if you are interested in playing sex denial games or just simply want to enjoy the complete restraint of a fully secure chastity system then this is the perfect product for you at a very affordable price.
Sites has a number of other seriously hot chastity products that can take you and your partner to new heights of pleasure including:
• Man Slave, $34.00 – this intricate ringed suit can be a bit tricky to put on, but the pleasure you will receive from binding you or your partner’s genitals securely will more than make up for all the effort. The man slave is a system of rings that will bind and separate your penis and testicles, and your shaft is pulled through three rings so that only the head is free, and the main ring secures firmly around the base to hold your manhood in place. Each testicle is held tight by its own separate ring, leaving your genitals securely bound until you or your playmate decides its time to release you.
• Prison Break, $36 – another cleverly designed ring suit which effectively restrains and binds your manhood, the Prison Break has small metal rings that encircle the head of your shaft, firmly applying pressure as your erection grows creating an unbelievably sensual feeling of repression and orgasm denial. Two sets of rings are attached to straps that can be carefully wrapped around the rest of the shaft to create a stunningly erotic package for you and your playmate to enjoy.
• Testosterone Pouch, $24 – the great thing about this pouch is that it can be worn under clothes or as an eye catching swim and tanning suit, and the adjustable base strap not only holds your genitals tightly in place, creating that sense of restraint that all the best chastity products provide, but it also lifts and pushes forward your manhood, so that your package looks huge and just about ready to explode out of the fabric. The testosterone pouch is a seriously sexy item of swimwear that will certainly get a lot of attention around the pool or down on the beach.
• Penile Colony, $33 – this hugely erotic metal ring suit is designed to display your shaft to the ultimate level of pleasure/pain and has five separate rings that bind and restrain your equipment, whilst an adjustable strap can be cinched as tightly as you can bear down on your testicles to create that truly arousing sensation of complete restraint and sexual domination.
• Fetish Whore, $34 – fetish and bondage attractions link closely with chastity products, and this erotic design combines a visual feast of a stunning g-string suit with the secure restraint of metal rings and Lycra straps to bind and constrain your manhood and repress release.
• Fantasy Feast, $34 – this total penis and testicle display suit combines the erotic sensation of rings and Lycra straps, which encompass your shaft and head and separate each ball, cinching tightly to create incredible feelings of constraint and also creating a visual feast for your partner or playmate.
• Micro Bitch Bikini, $33 – the secret of this seriously hot bikini is that it features a unique front to rear cock ring, which pulls your shaft down and under, restraining it firmly between your legs for an intense feeling of binding and denial. The Micro Bitch Bikini is one of the smallest bikini fronts on the market, so a full wax is certainly recommended, and also works and an anal spreader for those brave enough to put all of their wares on display.
• Plugged Up, $44 – this amazing product combines a number of sexual desires from bondage to chastity and is not for the faint hearted as it includes an incredibly erotic thong design that is held in place by a special butt plug (choose from the beginner 3 inch design or more experienced 6 inch model). Plugged Up can be worn as sexy underwear or swimwear, and as you parade your tight butt down on the beach or around the pool only you will know that you are experiencing full penetration from the rear plug holding your thong in place, and the erotic sensations that can arise from denying yourself from touching your genitals whilst in public, but at the same time being sensually penetrated from behind by the plug can be truly mind blowing. Plugged Up is the ultimate word in erotic swimwear design and if you have the courage to try it out you could be in for one of the most intensively erotic experiences of your life.
It is easy to order cock cages and other devices and payment and delivery is guaranteed to be discreet, so that all of your purchases are kept confidential until you want to show them off. Sites also provides a regular newsletter, so that you can find out about all of the latest sexy swimwear and erotic fetish and chastity products that are available on the website.
Turn up the Heat with Male Chastity Products
There can be many reasons why the denial of sexual release is a real turn on for lots of people, and chastity products for men are an essential part of the erotic toys and accessories market, being designed not only to effectively repress sexual gratification, but also to look and feel highly arousing when worn. Male chastity products are particularly inventive and there are a whole host of chastity cages, sleeves and ring suits that bind the penis and balls creating an intense feeling of servitude and control, which can be a very erotic turn on when combined with sexual play and domination games. For example many men’s chastity cages come complete with lockable sections, and the key can be given to a key master for the evening, and only they can decide if and when the wearer is allowed to at last have their sexual release, or maybe not at all!
