The Art of Gay Spooning
Spoons fit together almost perfectly – particularly if they are gay spoons. This intimate cuddling activity is allows you and that special someone in your life to snuggle in a way that exudes romance while also speaking to something very primal – safety and trust.What is Spooning?
Spooning is basically the art of cuddling. It is the ultimate way a couple can show intimacy towards one another outside of sex. What many people do not know is that spooning also fosters greater intimacy and can be a variation of sensate focus, an approach used in couples intimacy therapy to create closeness.This brief guide for gay spooning has been especially designed for guys who want to love on one another in a way that is fun and comforting while also taking into account the male physique. You don’t have to be partnered to spoon and can in fact be a single gay man if you are looking for an alternative to a hookup.
Spooning should be an activity both parties want to engage in and won’t work well if you are dealing with a narcissistic gay.
Spooning also might not work well for certain personality types who are unable to engage in intimacy.
Some of what follows may seem intuitive while other parts may give you pause to reflect. Read them all so that you are better able to understand how spooning works in tandem.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
Big Spoon + Little Spoon
Part 1: Mastering Spooning Techniques
1. Figure your spooning sizes. For most gay men, the size of our bodies tends to be different than the person we are cuddling with. Here are some considerations:- The small spoon: This would usually be the smaller guy.
- The big soon: This commonly is the bigger guy. Not always but typically.
- A simple test to see who is best as “big spoon” vs. “small spoon” is to see which person is typically hugging on the other guy while laying down. The hugger is the big spoon.
Here are some other considerations:
- Allow enough room for the little spoon to wiggle and maneuver.
- It’s OK for the big spoon to rest his arm on the smaller spoon’s leg instead of the waist area.
- Allow the smaller spoon to position his feet in a way that is perpendicular to the big spoon’s legs.
For this unique position, the bigger spoon lies on his side. The little spoon should get curled up in the fetal position in a way that is facing the stomach of the big spoon. Conversely, the big spoon should hug the smaller spoon with one or both arms.
Other considerations for this approach:
- Interlock one leg between spoons
- Play footsies
- Simply have one spoon’s leg touching the other spoon’s leg. Similar to how a cat or dog might place one paw on his master while he sleeps as a sign of closeness.
All that is necessary here is for the two of you to face one another, laying on your sides. The big spoon and little spoon, with arms extended in the “Statue of Liberty” position will join hands.
If both of you are drastically different in height, make sure the both of you are position at the midsection of the bed so that your extended arms to not get blocked by a wall.
7. Head to Head Spoon. This cute approach to spooning allows both guys to realize maximum comfort. Both spoons should lie flat on their backs. Position the side of each of your heads in a way that touches one another.
8 Trade Spooning Positions. For variety’s sake, try switching positions. In other words, if the big spoon traditionally is doing the cuddling, allow the smaller spoon to assume this position.
The nice thing about gay spooning is that gender roles don’t matter. After all, the both of you are guys!
9. Movie Spoon. Your spooning activities aren’t restricted to sleep time. You can also spoon when you are just chilling, like watching a movie.
Part 2 of 2: Avoid the Uncomfortable
Sometimes, one of the two spooners may need to have a little space. This is particularly true when it comes to sleeping. There are people who don’t like to be held while they asleep because they feel confined. This is normal.If you are looking for some practical tips to get out of your gay spooning situation without hurting your partner, we have some practical tips.
- Gently tell your partner outside of spooning activities that you are one of those guys who needs “space” when sleeping. Give him the greenlight to spoon but also let him know that at some point, you may subconsciously move wiggle yourself to more space and to not get offended.
- Create an escape noise to signify and end to the spooning. A well timed grunt or yawn will be the indicator that you are about to turn over or scoot over to the other side of the bed.
- Roll away. For this maneuver, you simply roll to the other side of the bed. It is suggested that you combine the roll-away with an escape noise to minimize hurt feelings. Do your best to pretend you are asleep so that your partner assumes this was a natural, unintentional move.
