Kissing is basically about touching or caressing with your lips. As a matter of fact, you can alos simply kiss the screen while you’re reading this…. but it’s not really easy for me to feel something about it:-) Realkisses and especially French Kissing involve a lot more than just opening your lips a bit. There’s a huge involvement needed of all of your body in this act, starting from all the elements of your mouth that are directly involved (lips, teeth, tongue, chin) as well as your other facial elements (nose, eyes) and the rest of your body (hands, feet, legs, arms….).
That’s why kissing is about a real involvement of your whole body.
Ten Tips for the Perfect Make Out
Here a couple of steps to think about but don’t follow these steps as an “how to” guide. There’s nothing worst that a technical kiss. Instead use these tips to reason after, and see what went wrong.- Watch him in his eyes. Eye contact is vital during the approach before kissing. You may well close your eyes during the kiss, but before, while you approach him, look straight into his eyes. It’s the exact moment where your eyes show up your inner emotions and intimacy charge, and thus it is really important to do so.
- Approach him, get nearer, avoid distance during this act, as it could make things more difficult. If it is the first time you kiss, make sure you leave a bit of room between you two initially, as a form of respecting his vital space. But once he left you in, make sure you get in contact with him.
- Prepare your lips, relax them, if they are dry try to moisturize them with the tip of your tongue (but you should always make sure to have a moisturizer lip stick with you). The approach itself to kissing will release a mouthwatering effect. But don’t overdo.
- Connect. There’s something secret in the way two people connect while kissing. Some move their head on one side, some on the other, some close their eyes, some keep them open. There’s no rule set for this, as long as your lips touch each other.Just make sure you don’t lean back, as this can be perceived as a very bad sign!
- Open your lips. When you’ve connected, move your lips slight open. Leave your tongue out of the game for a moment. This is the moment where you exchange your mutual breathe. Many poets have described this moment as the real significance of a kiss. So give your self a bit of time to enjoy this.
- Move on slowly and gently start exploring your partner’s lips with the tip of your tongue. When you feel his tongue against yours, retract it for a second. There’s a discovery pattern in this phase that should be respected.
- Move your body, depending on where you are of course, but as I mentioned kissing is also abouttouching you partner’s body. Move your hands along his body, hug him, move your legs, knees, feet, explore his body while you kiss him.
- Further explore, get in motion. Start exploring his mouth slowly, roll your tongue against his, explore his teeth, bite him gently on his lips. Remember there’s no rush, don’t overdo! Way too many people fail in this phase, as they appear to be willing to invade their partner’s mouth, instead of just kissing it!
- Take a break if you have the time, break your kiss sometime, and open your eyes and look into his eyes. This way you should feel if he’s enjoying it or not. This is especially important if you normally close your eyes while kissing, since the eye contact will further reconnect you.
- Ending the kiss, is a very delicate phase. Slowly disconnect, sort of doing the reverse path you’ve followed, closing slowly your mouth, retracting your tongue, until you can disconnect, and slowly open your eyes. THE GOAL IS TO MAKE SURE YOU BOTH WANT ANOTHER KISS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
Well… apparently so. But not really many people do feel this as important. And some of them fail in this vital part of man to man contact.
The Biggest mistakes in kissing
There are many mistakes that people can do while kissing. Here’s a hit of the 5 most common kiss killers I’ve experience in my life:- Mouth Attack: there’s nothing worst that somebody stacking his wide open mouth on your face with his tongue already out to its full extent. Kissing needs time, as it needs to be an evolving pattern of intimacy development. So take your time, and start slowly!
- The Anaconda Kiss: some people think that kissing is about pulling all of their tongue into your mouth. Even if you go for a slower pattern, you should not exceed in any direction! Also because the most sensitive part of your tongue is the tip, so use that one!
- The Grandma Peck: have to tell this story. I once dated a guy who was really beautiful. He was a model, the kind of man you think “why is he going out with me?”. We had a nice dinner with some other people, then I went at his place. When we entered he approached for a kiss (so it was his initiative), but all what he did was pushing his lips against mine, then slowly open them and have the first two millimeters of his tongue hang outside… It really felt like my Grandma’s kisses on my cheeks when I was a Kid! Put some energy in it!!!
- Bad Breath: if you intend to kiss somebody, brush your teeth, use some mouth polish and take care about what you’re eating! This is especially vital when you meet at first (somehow I believe that “breath” is one of those intimate problems that unite a couple). But again, don’t overdo! A person I met once had to always take a tic-tac before kissing… which may be a bit too much!
- Mouth Bath, as I mentioned is normal when you kiss to produce more saliva. But… please avoid sharing all of it with your partner! Don’t be sloppy!
Summarizing
I hope I was able to give some hints on the (french) kissing part. Of course these are just tips, you need to make sure you find and follow your own way of kissing. As long as you’re able to relax, involve all of your body and dedicate time, any kissing experience can become great! Whether it’s a foreplay or just a “one stand” kiss, make sure you do it as it was your best kiss ever. People will never forget you!And a last remark: if you’re among those people that “don’t kiss” while having (casual) sex: sorry to say that you’re missing the most wonderful part of a human connection!
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