5 Ways Gay Men Stay Single Chasing Bad Boys

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Are you a gay man who finds yourself attracted to bad boys? You know what we’re talking about – the full on stud who doesn’t seem to have a care in the world and lives his life like there’s no tomorrow.

Bad boys are sexy as hell, giving off a cocky vibe this is both seductive and alluring. They are usually built like an Adonis, broadcasting a devilish grin that can be extremely seductive.

What’s more, this type of man never seem to work, yet strangely enough always seem to have money.

Sound familiar?

If so, join the club of gay men who find themselves caught up in the bad boy’s snare. These men are powerfully intoxicating; in part because they’re super laid back and have a “go with the flow” that’s extremely alluring.

When you have sex with the bad boy, it’s always off the chart with few limits. His energy is raw, assertive and often times, passionate.
But is continually chasing after this type of man one of the reasons you still remain single? If you search your feelings, you may find the answer is yes.

What follows are 5 strong reasons why chasing bad boys is a terrible idea. And while we acknowledge hookups with them can be hot, it doesn’t mean they make for good boyfriends.

Let’s jump right in.

1. They project what you are missing

One of the primary reasons bad boys are so alluring is their personality. Carefree and unattached, they carry a certain coolness to them. “I wish I could be like that” is the cry many gay men make when in their presence.

But upon closer inspection – looking beyond their physical presentation – you soon realize they are incapable of romantically attaching to another.

Here is the deal – in order to project that kind of detached confidence, bad boys train themselves to not get too close. To do so means having to be accountable. Yet the more you try to mirror their detachment – in an effort to grab their attention – the more they pull you in.

2. They bore very quickly

Because bad boys struggle with intimacy, they have a tendency to become addicted to the newness of a relationship. This means that after a short period of time, once the sheen of the romance has started to dull, their affection begins to fade.

This is why bad boys struggle with being alone with the same man for extended periods of time. To do so means having to expose vulnerable parts – parts they have not fully reconciled with.

This is why they become more and more emotionally distant when you beg for their affection.

3. They need to be chased

While bad boys may give the appearance of confidence, in truth they are anything but. In fact, when you peel away the layers, you often find a child inside, desperately seeking acceptance.

Bad boys have learned that in order to be validated, they constantly need to be chased by others to feel loved. By definition, this means these men are incapable of truly committing to another in a relationship.

The cruelty here is that once a bad boy has had you, he’s already moved on to the next guy.

4. They live for the next high

Bad boys are all about the high. Sources can come a number of places, including alcohol, drugs – or both. Highs can also come from hooking up with other bad boys who need to be validated through sex.
Bad boys are incapable of spending any time alone. They struggle with the quietness of the moment. As a tool for coping, they have figured out that by moving from one high to the next, they don’t have to think about how dreadful their lives truly are.

5. They make you forget what’s important

The final way that chasing bad boys keeps you single is their ability to make you forget what’s important. This happens when we get caught up in their never ending cycle of chaos, drama and need.

The cruelty here is that deep inside, you know you want a man that can fulfill you on multiple levels and transcend the mere physical.

But their constant pull and tug creates a codependent dynamic, making what was once crystal clear seem like a distant memory.

They will suck you dry emotionally and if you let them, financially – giving you just enough to think they have changed, only to break your heart.

Final Thoughts

Bad boys can be fun to hook up with. And they can certainly be great to party with. But let there be no misunderstanding – they make for terrible partners.

If you have been hopping on and off the bad boy merry-go-round, perhaps it is time to take a step back and ask yourself: Can he really give me what I want?

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