Many men encounter the desire of a young looking partner. But Ephebic in its pure form doesn’t mean only younger, but also thinner, without highly developed muscles, and especially an hairless body. Not just young, but teenage looking.
Some people are afraid of these feelings, as they feel they’re attracted to underage people. Which is not necessarily the case. Many people keep an ephebic look even after their young years.
Note: some people believe that that this kind of attraction is somehow related to pedophilia. This is not true. We’re talking here of a fully normal homosexual attraction for a sexually formed and grown up adult male, which often simply keeps his body in a younger shape. So please don’t make confusion with this!
This kind of attraction is therefore linked to the psychological need of feeling young. Sometime people experience this kind of attraction between their thirties and forties, exactly when they start feeling a bit “older”. And is somehow linked to some of the other “Peter Pan” crisis examples, like the dream of getting a motorbike, or dressing younger etc. Of course, again, this is not a rule. It happened to me to see many people this way.
In recent year fashion has developed a lot the ideal of a “Younger” type, defined Twink in gay-ish language. Somehow it is the male alternative to the female blonde “bimbo”, the Lolita style girl capable of attracting others attentions. Just think about the porn industry and what Bel-Ami did, especially in its first years of production. But the Ephebic Model is purely European. Oscar Wilde has been one of the person who first (openly) addressed this model, and it developed a lot in the aesthetic culture of our Old Continent, and in France particularly (again, porn industry comes handy, think about the Cadinot productions).
So What? If young looking ephebic man are among your fantasies, you probably need to cope with some aspects you need to take into consideration.
- Age. Usually these people fall into an age group between 18 and 22-24. As I mentioned before, some people are capable to maintain a younger twinkie look also well beyond this age, but usually this is the reference point. Which makes it important sometime to be sure about the person age. Some people try to meet up only in clubs, sort of “delegating” the age.-check procedure to the door man. But it is not only an issue of checking their id. But more of understanding the persone you have in front correctly.
- Sex. Young age often means less experience. Which means that part of the fantasy is often the idea of guiding the younger person through its sexual discovery. Which is not always the case these days as people are discovering their homosexuality more and more often at a younger age. In any case, some people enjoy the “youth energy” that younger age people put in their sex experience. Very often the Ephebic Partner is seen to be a “bottom” boy, even if some people have the fantasy to be possessed by a younger body.
- Relationship. More then often a younger man is seen as a sexual fantasy more then a real “relationship” option. Age difference sometime can be a problem in a relationship, especially if we’re talking of more than 10 years of difference. plus, age difference is relative. 5 years in personal development between 18 and 23 are a much more relevant period than 5 years between 35 and 40. Again, there’s no rule in this. In my experience I saw myself having problem with the idea of starting a relationship with a person way to younger then me. And some friends had a problem not feeling at ease with what others would have thought. I don’t consider this really a “problem” but for some people it may contribute to a general unsure feeling.
Did I forget something? Probably yes. But I’m always keen in getting your “suggestions”.
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