WHAT NOW?
Do we use special things/items or a special place to play?This in general we leave up to the bottoms, we want him to be totaly relaxed and calm. But we tops can also invite people at our house. Remember, things can get dirty; lubes will be falling down etc. etc., so protect the things or the space where you want to play. You can use (beach) towels or plastic/latex or rubber sheets. For beginners the bed can be comfortable, the coach or just on the ground. For those under you who can effort it a sling. This is seen by a lot of bottoms as the best position to fist in.
What is a sling? A sling is a hammock, made out of leather or strong thick rubber (see photo, my slings at home), you can buy them on line or at specialist shops. Prices are very different from 200€ up to 500€. There are different models 4 points or 5 points (with head support) and different designs. You hang them on rings to your wall or ceiling or you buy a portable one.
Slings are nice and comfortable to lie in, lying on your back and the legs are up. For most of the bottoms this is a good way to handle the hands coming in. Beside that you have a perfect eye to eye contact between the top and bottom. Group play makes it also easier with a sling. In time you will learn which position you like the most, sling, doggy position, straight up or in sitting position, there are a lot of ways. Beside a sling there are more products that you can use, like a gynecology bed, a tire swing, in the years I saw some nice and hot self-made items.
What do we need more?
Paper towels to clean. Message to all Tops: out of respect we clean the ass of the bottom after every session. Gloves: latex, nitrile rubber, vinyl or neoprene. Also here you have to find out in time what you like. Even when you play Bareback (meaning without) you should always have gloves with you or at your house. The other person can have little injuries on his hand or you inside so it is safer. Condoms and Cleaning alcohol, to clean your hands and arms before playing, between breaks or after. Additional what I wrote about the eating, I need to tell you that besides paying attention on what to eat there is more. You have to find out for yourself how long it takes to digest/corrode food, for each and every person this is different.
For me it is 48 up to 72 hours, for my boyfriend it is 1 up to 3 hours… so you see different. If you do not know your timetable, let me tell how you can find out. Prepare yourself a dinner with potatoes, spinach and beef. (If you do not like spinach replace this with beetroot.) The stool will be green (with beetroot = red) colored in de following hours or days. Every time you go the toilets check-out your stool. Now you know how long it takes. This is good to find out what you can expect while you douche/clean your ass.
The washing or cleaning is the best way to do it in 2 or 3 times, if you have eaten other food that I mentioned in “Part I” or let me remind you all kind of pastas/spaghettis are good diets before playing. All this is again depending on your stool? All other food are maybe requiring more cleaning. I know guys who only live on pastas & spaghettis… but they are into heavy playing (meaning 5 or 6 days in a week). Let me tell you, if you know you going to play in the evening than the best is to clean the first time in the morning or after waking up whatever hour that is … a small cleaning around 10 to 15 minutes.
The 2nd time you clean again 10 to 15 min. yourself around lunchtime or just after finishing work and if it is necessary the 3th time one hour before the FFun, 10 to max. 20 minutes. This is a nice and comfortable way of cleaning yourself and good for the inner flora of your body. If you really hungry you can eat something like or with rice, around lunchtime or 4 to 3 hours before playing.
Rice in general stops everything for some hours… Having selected your equipment, eaten (and mentally prepared), you are now ready to begin. The idea is to create an environment in which you can relax. Relaxation is your “best” friend when cleaning out. After you find out what is the best way for you or for those who are used to the process of cleaning it will go much easier. But even I see sometimes guys who are into fisting for quite a while that they do not know really how to clean….
Your bowels will be receptive and agreeable to the enema. Select a tepid/lukewarm water temperature, something that feels pleasant to the skin.
ATTENTION! Remember the bowels can’t “feel”. Water that is too warm may cause burning of the interior lining. Water that is too cool may cause cramps. If it is your first time than apply a small amount of lubricant (something that is NOT water soluble or petroleum based) to the anal area and nozzle.
Lubrication allows for easier insertion of the nozzle. Allow the water to enter you at a rate that doesn’t cause immediate discomfort or “triggers” the evacuation response. The best results are obtained by taking just enough fluid in to cause some pressure in your left side. When you reach this point remove the nozzle and retain the water by clenching your anal muscles.
Retention allows the water to move around in the bowel. You can also scrub your hand over your stomach to stimulate this also called gravity. As it does, the pressure you felt in you will subside and additional water may be injected. Time and experience will teach you when to add more or release what you have. When releasing, FORCE, yourself to do so in a calm and relaxed manner. Sudden expulsion of the enema mixed with fecal material can cause fissures and abrasions to the rectal tissues. Use common sense.
Repeat the process until the fluid you are releasing is clear with no fecal fragments visible. If you really have difficulty getting clean enough, it’s worth filling yourself partially, holding it, and lying down or even raising the hips slightly. This allows gravity to work in your favor, and moves the water more deeply into the bowel. You’ll find that expelling after deep filling will take longer, and water will continue to make its way down for some time, but once you’re used to it, you’ll learn to know when its all out.
Doing this repeatedly over a period of a couple of hours, with 15-20 min breaks, will in most guys clean out deeply and effectively. It’s also worth taking a moment to think about the shape of the bowel, and where it lies in the abdomen. Tracing the route upward from the anus, the rectum generally slopes toward the guy’s left, kinks slightly, and moves up the left hand side of the body as the descending colon until it turns a corner more or less under the bottom of the rib cage.
Lying on your left side will again help gravity to help in the cleaning process, by letting the water enter the descending colon more easily. No matter how careful the cleaning out, nothing can guarantee cleanliness, especially with deep or heavy fisting. No real fister will be phased by this, and will simply scoop it out and carry on. Wishing to be as clean as possible is understandable and reasonable, but fisting really isn’t an activity for anyone who is paranoid about coming into contact with shit.
DO NOT and i repeat DO NOT go on for more than a half hour with putting water in or push it to far this will make your ass tired even before starting. Liters of water is’t good either do it in small proportians. Short periods are better… There is one other very important thing to do before we start to play: Tops & Bottoms cute your nails. Please, uncut nails can do a lot of harm to the bottom. Check also if after cutting the nails are smooth if not polish them. Once again, this information is in no way an absolute standard for the practices being discussed. Each one of you must determine for him/her-self what suits them. I can’t say it enough this is written out of our experience, but in the 30 years of me fisting it helped a lot of guys with it…
Lubes Realizing that the anus was intended for the expulsion of fecal material and not for the insertion of foreign objects, one must take into consideration two primary factors; one how do you coax the anus into allowing the insertion of a foreign object and two what lubricant(s) should you use.
Lubes
Realizing that the anus was intended for the expulsion of fecal material and not for the insertion of foreign objects, one must take into consideration two primary factors; one how do you coax the anus into allowing the insertion of a foreign object and two what lubricant(s) should you use.
Anal-specific…
This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place.
Some lubricants contain benzocaine, Xylocaine/lidocaine (or lignocaine) or ketamine, they are anesthetics. However, the use of any numbing for anal penetration is not recommended in the beginning.
First learn to listen to you inner body/ass, as a lack of sensation makes or can make accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine it can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-aminobenzoic acid).
Here I will tell you about the various lubes that are currently available.
Lubes to use for Fist basically come in 5 main groups: water soluble, tropical oil based, vegetable based, silicone based and oil based. The last 2 groups like oil based and silicone based are not or netter not used for fisting.
Oil based, for example petroleum-based lubricants (petroleum jelly), such as Vaseline. Its use is strongly discouraged as it is not readily digestible, leaves a residue in the bowels that inhibits the normal functioning of the bowel, it can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex gloves due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants and is harder to wash off the skin and out of laundry.
Silicone-based, are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. They are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.
Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. At least one manufacturer claims their silicone-based lubricant is safe for use with silicone products. They are also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.
Only 3 groups are useful for Fisting.
Each group has its own particular advantages and disadvantages.
Water soluble lubes, (J-lube, Elbow Grease Gel, Foreplay, KY, Durex play feel, etc.), are water based. These have a tendency to dry out and become tacky during use and need to be re-applied several times or moistened with water during a session. A spray bottle of water is a useful and convenient way to accomplish this.
J- Lube’s primary ingredient is polyethylene oxide, there is a readymade one “Probe” another well-known water based lube for good heavy play. Both of these lubes are well-known for their stringy quality but they’re messy. The thing is that they form wonderful slick barriers that make large penetrations very much easier.
Tropical lubes, (Elbow Grease regular, Fist, Natural Lube, etc.), are made from palm/coconut oils and usually do not require any additional moisture to keep them slick. Care should be used as some people are allergic to tropical oils and products containing them. Ask your partner before using any lube that contains as part of its chemistry palm/coconut oils. Tropical lubes, like petroleum lubes, cause a rapid breakdown of latex items, so use a little extra caution and change gloves often during a session.
Vegetable based lubes, (Crisco, etc.), are made primarily from corn or soy bean oils. They are heavy, do not need any additional moisture to keep them slick and provide excellent adhesion to the anal area. Breakdown of latex items is minimal and the cost is negligible compared to the other types of lubes.
Some lubricants, with the exception of Crisco, contain Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide, which has proven beneficial in the destruction of the HIV virus that causes AIDS. However, there are conflicting reports among experts as to how beneficial Nonoxynol-9 is and there have been statements issued by the Surgeon General’s office that Nonoxynol-9 has caused allergic reactions in some people. Here again, a little common sense and caution will pay off. Ask your partner if he/she is allergic to Nonoxynol-9. If your partner does not know proceed with extra care, or better yet, select a lube which does not contain nonoxynol-9.
In fisting, there can never be too much lube. You must remember that the sexual activity that you’re engaging in causes a tremendous amount of stress to the anal area and the bowel, regardless of how careful you are, so the smoother you can make the penetration the better. There are people who use one can of Crisco every session. A little messy, but the results are great! Myself I love to play with Crisco because if I want rimming the rose-butt and I LOVE that, I do not want to have a strange taste in my mouth, but in the last years I learned to do it also with other lubricants… still you will see a difference if I play with Crisco I go even more wild.
Lube contamination is a major concern, especially if you are involved in a group scene. Most of the commercially available products come in squeeze tubes or with pump tops for dispensing. Others, such as Crisco, do not have these advantages so extra care must be taken to prevent contamination. The easiest way to do this is to portion the lube out into disposable containers. This way the original container doesn’t become contaminated by everyone “helping” themselves. In a one on one session the one pound cans of Crisco are easy to use and dispose of.
With a little experimentation you will determine which lube is best for you. Everyone has his favorites.
The best rule is to use whatever the bottom prefers. If you, as the top, are allergic to the chemical structure of the lube, take a few extra precautions to protect yourself such as wearing a long sleeve shirt with the gloves up over the sleeve cuffs or obtain some veterinarians’ gloves like those used in artificial insemination of livestock which go all the way up to the arm pit. With a little common sense and care, you and your partner should be able to have a fulfilling session.
NOTE: PLEASE TO ALL BEGINNERS AND OR THOSE WHO PLAY ALREADY FOR A LONGTIME, MORE AND MORE I SEE ON PARTIES AROUND THE WORLD GUYS COMEING IN WITH PLASTIC DISHWASH BOTTLES FILLED WITH J-LUBE OR ANY OTHER LUBRICANT.
THIS IS A TURN-OFF
THERE ARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS OR BOTTLES YOU CAN BUY EVERY WHERE LIKE IN SPORT SHOPS
USE THEM, IT’S MORE SEXY
