Oh yes, there is a vocabulary and sort of language, that if not understood correctly will get you in a lot of trouble or perhaps confuse you.
When you thought you knew it all, here comes some new acronym or word that will emerge and distort your own interpretation of its meaning.
That’s exactly what happened to me…
I felt the need to share this story with you because it happened to me and I’m sure it could happen to anyone that is not on top of gay lingo – particularly on the gay dating apps.
So after a rough week at work and many weeks of not having sex, I did what a good Latin gay boy at home on a Friday night will do: find a HOOK UP! I opened my SCRUFF app and began to send woofs, send messages, you know the things some of us do on dating apps.
By this time, it is almost midnight just finished my bottle of wine and all of the sudden I have a message from this f*ckin& gorgeous guy, finally something promising. So fast forward to the coordination process, we decided to hook up, throughout the process we talked about the top/bottom thing, safe sex blah blah blah and then he said “cool lets PArTy,” which he spelled just like that.
I was like hell yeah get you’re a$$ here let’s do this.
He gets to my townhouse and we do the ice breaker thing, I opened another bottle of wine, put some music on, then we start making out. I have to admit they guy was an outstanding kisser, besides his great looks and the nicest a$$.
I’m an butt man so he was all that and a bag of chips. We transition upstairs, things are getting steamy. I take his shirt off, pull his pants down, he unzipped my pants and begin giving me head as I lay him in bed.
“Cool lets PArTy”
He asked for his bag that he placed next to the bed and I’m like cool he wants some poppers, which he does. I put my condom on and I’m about to get inside of him, and he said “Now to the best part!”And so at this very intense moment, he pulls out two syringes that already are preloaded with with a substance, which I later found out was crystal meth.
I’m like what? At this point, my cock went south so fast, I’m like ahhhhhh what are you doing dude? He replied, “We’re PArTying babe.”
I’m thinking holy $hit, what do I do? I politely told him that there is a misunderstanding, that I don’t do drugs, not that I’m judging those who does, but sexually is a big turn off for me and it’s just not going to happen … period.
He was mad, “I drove all the way here and you going to leave me like this? I’m ready to get f*cked. I asked you if you want to PArTy and you said YES.” I told him, I’m sorry that the last time I checked partying consist of perhaps drinks, music, dancing and having fun.
Apparently, PArTy means doing crystal meth while hooking up. I told him he can jerk his meat and then go, but please don’t shoot that junk in here. Sarcastically he replied? “Don’t you know your implied vocabulary?
The whole thing just sucked! I was so into him. He immediately pulled his pants up got his bag and left. I would be lying if I don’t admit this is one of the most awkward moments I’ve ever experienced.
What a relief! I gave this experience some thought and I asked myself what could I have done to prevent something like this from happening? Perhaps ask more questions, minimize the alcohol so I could pay close attention to words?
But then, I share my experience with some of my gay friends and they also share some experiences similar to mine. I realize it just comes down to understanding a vocabulary of words, acronyms, abbreviations, and gay slang that are very common, but yet, unknown to many in our gay environment.
I find the SCRUFF slang site very helpful. Give it a try, perhaps we all learn something new that you heard before but don’t know that it means. The moral of the story is, know your $hit!
PS: I’ve since found out that partying can also be spelled with as ParTay with the online apps.
www.gaypopbuzz.com/didnt-know-partay-code-meth/
