Power Bottom vs. Total Bottom. Know the difference?
Whenever I read a gay man’s profile and see the term “power bottom” I get immediately turned off.I say this as a person who identifies as a versatile top, so please don’t accuse me of bottom shaming. The truth is I like riding a guy from time to time.
It’s just that I’ve had too many bad experiences with men who call themselves power bottoms; like it’s something to be glorified and celebrated. Well it’s time somebody spoke out and told the truth.
So what am I talking about? Well, you are about to find out. Fair warning – what follows isn’t pretty.
Here it goes.
The men I’ve connected with who call themselves power bottoms are almost always hopped up on some type of drug. And I’m not talking about poppers here. Instead, it’s tina, crack or liquid G.
Think about it.
The very term power bottom implies that you can keep powering through – kind of like the energizer bunny that keeps going and going … and going.
Well I have news for you. Unless you are a non-human species, your ass isn’t designed for multi-hour play. Oh, you may think your hole is the greatest gift on earth but I’m here to tell you after 15 minutes passes – it’s not!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone over to a “power bottoms” house on a random hookup, only to have the life sucked out of me.
It’s like a bad movie. I walk in and find the guy ready to go. There’s no foreplay, no oral, no kissing – nothing. He just lays on the bed and expects me to pound on him like I’m a jackhammer.
And the worst part – the very worst part – is that so called power bottoms can never ejaculate! I don’t know if it’s because they’re so tweaked out they can’t release or what but it sucks!
And how many “power bottoms” have asked me if I have a few friends I can bring along? “Feel free to invite other tops if you want,” they usually say.
I mean how f-ing piggish can you be? What, I’m not enough?
Here is what I’ve discovered. Gay men who call themselves total bottoms are completely different than power bottoms.
Let me explain the difference.
Total Bottoms
Total bottoms are just that – guys who can only sleep on the bottom bunk. Sure, they’ll do oral and a bunch of other stuff but they will tell you up front when it comes to the anal thing, they only play the catcher position.In my experience. most all of them are skilled. They’ve got gifted mouths and can be extremely aggressive.
Power Bottoms
Power bottoms, on the other hand, are guys who just want to keep taking and taking it. They don’t care if the top needs a break or even if he’s exhausted. All they want to do is get pounded for hours on end.Seriously, there’s nothing fun or “hot” about it for the top. In fact, the experience sucks!
And unlike total bottoms, power bottoms aren’t interested in oral or anything else. They just want lay back while you do all of the work. Like vampires, they just drain you of energy because they’re never satisfied.
Don’t let anyone tell you that power bottoms “know how to take control” or how “dominate” they can be. It’s a crap. Total bottom men can do that but not power bottoms.
And Lord help you if you are versatile, like me, and want to switch roles. Power bottoms will never, ever let that happen. That’s because they can’t get hard. Sorry, but it’s true.
Don’t think for one second that power bottoms can be generous, empathic or anything else. They can’t.
But how could they be?
They’re so consumed with their partners filling their holes and not offering anything in return that the idea of focusing their awareness elsewhere is foreign to them.
It’s like they’re permanently stuck in Freud’s anal phase of development. In this way, they’re similar to the greedy school kid who wants to hog up all the candy.
So it’s like this guys. If you are a bottom man, call yourself that. There’s no shame in this.
But please stop calling yourself a power bottom. You aren’t awesome and you aren’t cool. You’re just selfish!
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