Just in case you may be wondering, vanilla guys are men who are into the basics when it comes to intimacy. Here, were are talking about the old standbys of making out, oral and if the chemistry is right, a little bit more.
It’s not that guys who like this flavor won’t do other things however, most gay men who describe themselves this way find their true north with the traditional standbys mentioned above.
We’re not knocking guys who are into other activities. More power to them. There is absolutely a place for non-vanilla on the play spectrum. But the purpose of this post is to celebrate those who like good old fashioned ice cream – if you get our drift.
One of the great things about being down with vanilla is that you are able to accept the simple joys in someone through physical touch. And contrary to popular myth, vanilla is not boring. In fact, it can be extremely fulfilling.
Here are five other reasons this flavor is more than OK.
1. Vanilla allows for change
When people complain boredom has set into the bedroom dynamic, they often claim that it’s because the sex is “vanilla”. In truth, it’s more likely detachment has set in because the couple has being doing the same thing over and over again – often in unequal ways.To remedy this, switching positions can be a major step towards positive change. Believe it or not, riding a guy is still considered a vanilla activity. If you normally are on bottom, what would it be like to try being on top? See our extensive “how to post” on guy riding to learn more. And if you haven’t swallowed made out with your man while he fountains, maybe you should give it a try?
2. Vanilla can be amazingly romantic
When you meet a guy who wants to experience your essence through kissing, holding and as time goes on … more … chances are the physical connection will be made romantically. Not every intimate experience needs to replicate an adult video production, you know? In fact, having unrealistic expectations is major reason some gay couples break up.If you play your cards right, a vanilla experience can activate parts of your emotional and physical psyche that you may have lost touch with. It’s all about the sensation of the moment and chemistry. When this happens, the need for props, visuals or role play really aren’t necessary.
3. Vanilla is masculine
When a guy is secure with who he is and what he wants to do with you in the way that guys do, he’s going to act assertively and take possession of the moment. There won’t be a need to call in a third and there won’t be a need to use party favors.And it is for this reason that vanilla can be masculine. It’s raw, powerful energy that is all about the moment. It contains hints of romance but also strong elements of passion.
4. Vanilla can be powerfully erotic
Contrary to what some might think, vanilla can be powerfully erotic. This happens when the experience is not rushed but instead, savored for every moment it has to offer. When you are making out with a guy or doing more, allow yourself to live in the now and experience him for who he is – not the fantasy of what you think it should be.Eroticism is a natural state of energy. It can’t be manufactured and it can’t be magically conjured up. It’s either there or it isn’t. You can’t reach a place of eroticism unless the basics of mindful awareness are mastered. One way to help the process is to learn how to talk to a guy in a dirty way – which is very much a vanilla activity.
5. Vanilla can be sexy
The final point is simply this – vanilla can be sexy. There’s just something about a guy who is confident about who he is and what he likes. Not that there’s anything wrong with other activities that spice up intimacy but if you give it a try, vanilla can truly be hot.When you think about your next encounter with your significant other or whomever it might be, tune into the sheer energy of vanilla.
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