It’s important to understand what anal sex is and why is so pleasurable. This will give you a betterunderstanding to prepared yourself for both; giving/receiving. The abundance of nerve endings in the anal region and rectum makes anal sex pleasurable for many gay men.
The opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscles when engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure or pain. In a male receiving partner, being penetrated can produce a pleasurable sensation due to the inserted penis rubbing or brushing against the prostate (also known as the “male G-Spot”, “P-Spot” or “A-Spot”) through the anal wall. This can result in pleasurable sensations and can lead to an orgasm in some cases. For some men, prostate stimulation produces an orgasm that they describe as ‘deeper,’ more global and intense, longer-lasting, and associated with greater feelings of ecstasy than orgasm elicited by penile stimulation only. The prostate is located next to the rectum and is the larger, more developed male homologue to the Skene’s glands (which are believed to be connected to the female G-Spot).
Find his prostate using your fingers
Get your man to lie on his back with his legs drawn right up, his knees held to his chest. Lubricate his ass, and then insert a well-lubricated middle finger into the hole. As the finger goes in, curl it up so that the tip of the finger is hooking up and pointing behind the pelvis towards the cock. The prostate is there about an inch and a half in. It feels warm, rubbery and smooth. Flick or run the tip of your finger crossways against the prostate. This will give him an intense sensation of pleasure and a good preparation for anal penetration
How to enjoy anal penetration – in any sex position!
The most obvious possible problem with anal intercourse is that the man who’s receiving isn’t able to relax enough to take his partner’s penis. It’s important to be relaxed in both mind and body to make it easy for his partner to enter him.
The muscle ring around his anus (outer sphincter) will contract shut if he’s frightened of being hurt, or he fears being penetrated. Rimming his ass and fingering him will make him more relax and prepared for anal penetration. That way he’ll be able to keep it relaxed which is something that’s learned over time.
Not all gay men enjoy anal sex, and it’s fine if you don’t want to do it. But if you think you’re missing out on this source of pleasure solely because of feelings you have about your anus being dirty, then you might like to explore why you feel that way. If you think you feel bad about them, then you can begin a gentle exploration, perhaps when you’re in the bath or shower. You can either do this on your own or with a friend (which may be much more fun, unless you need to get through some hang-ups first). If you want to avoid any trace of shit, just douche with a small douche bag before you try your exploration.
Once you have a finger or two (with well-trimmed nails) inside your anus, you can explore how it feels. Or you may want to masturbate with a finger deeper inside your rectum, and discover how that feels. If you feel around inside your insides, gently, you’ll find a walnut-sized lump behind your testicles, which is your prostate gland. Pressure on this can feel very good, so if you’re masturbating, try a variety of movements with your finger and see what’s most enjoyable.
If you get onto familiar terms with your anus, it will soon learn to co-operate in admitting larger objects like a penis. Practice tensing and relaxing your anus around your finger. The nest step is to try a dildo; a small one to start with, obviously; you can go onto larger objects later.
If you’re playing with a friend, he can tongue (Rimming) or finger your anus, after washing it well, or he can masturbate or suck you as he penetrates you with a finger. It’s not hard to get to a level of intimacy where you can do this, just tell your partner; I’d like to try anal play, but I don’t know how. Communication and openness is very important. Can we try it together? And it always helps to decide what you want to do before you start….
If you can’t relax
This means that you’re still quiet anxious about being penetrated. Being relax is the best way to deal with this kind of anxieties. Sex play with a trusted friend will help you to be more relax and at ease as well, so can you work your way up to full penetration gradually. If it proves absolutely impossible, then either this isn’t the form of sex for you.
If you can relax
When it comes to be prepared to try full anal sex and ready to have your partner put his penis inside you. Then you may find that you have to cover some of the practice ground described above again; after all, a penis is much larger than a finger! If you feel pain as he penetrates, take it very slowly. He can enter you a little bit at a time so that you get used to the feeling of penetration and so that you can relax as he makes forward pressure against your anus. He needs to back off every so often so you can relax; little forward pushes followed by relaxation are the best way to get in for the first time. A lot of lube will make this much easier.
If you really want to be in control, squat over him and lower yourself onto his erect penis, holding it with one hand so it’s at the correct angle to go in. Or you can wrap your hand around his shaft so that he cannot force more of his shaft into you than you want to take at any time.
After he has his penis in you, it’s about relaxing and letting go, about enjoying the feelings that come as he thrusts or moves in and out of you. If you masturbate as he thrusts, you may find that the experience is very intense. Any slight pain or discomfort you feel will soon give way to pleasure, if it doesn’t, you may want to stop and shift position, or try again later when you’re feeling more relaxed. Remember that you don’t have to be passive, indeed, the penetrator may even remain still while the penetrated man makes all the movements. It’s about receiving and giving, meeting in a sexual union which gives both of you pleasure and opens you to human contact or, at least, a very powerful sexual experience!
Finally, as for the movements of sex, let them come gradually. Just do what comes naturally, and learn through experience.
Things that can happen during anal sex
The penis never lies. What this means is that if you’re been penetrated for the first time, you’re likely to have an attack of nerves which can result in you coming too soon or, your penis is wilting, and your erection disappearing. It may happen but as time goes and you get more used to it, you will be able to control that situation. Losing your erection isn’t a failure and the problem will go away as your confidence grows. Being relaxed and intimate with your partner is often all you need to get over erectile difficulties.
Find a friend you trust, who’ll help you. Go back to anal play with a finger, and when you’re comfortable with this, try lying on your back, and inserting his penis into your ass as you lowered yourself onto him. You don’t have to move at all; just relax and enjoy the way it feels and then little by little start moving up/down . When you’re comfortable with the sex so far, try a different position: side by side, either facing each other or facing away from each other, is good, because it’s less demanding, and you can relax or you can be thrust without much danger of losing your erection.
you could thrust while he moves his pelvis in a circular way. And if you’re trying positions like rear entry or missionary, you can either thrust in opposition to him, so that your bodies come harder together, or you can thrust in synch and time with his rhythm, so that you move in the same direction at the same time: the first method holds much more energy between you, and can be good for two men who want to express their masculine energy during sex at the same time.
The question of force sometimes arises in gay sex. The answer is very simple – unless you’re into some of the darker sides of sex, anal sex should always feel good; it should not hurt. Usually a little bit at first. If your partner is trying to force his way into your anus, and it feels bad, stop the sex. He’s not considering your feelings, nor your body, and you need to ask if this is the kind of sex you want from anyone.
And since an anus is only as loose and open as its owner, if you’re the person entering it, always be considerate and kind. You should use gentle pressure to start with: if there’s any pain beyond a little at first, it’s a bad sign, for the receiver is not ready to have sex, to be penetrated, and you need to stop and work towards it more gradually. Deep thrusts and strokes can be good for both partners once the bottom is opened up and loose; at first, shallow strokes and gentle pressure are more appropriate. When things loosen up and get going, and both partners become more aroused, you can increase the the speed and depth of your thrusting until you reach the point of ejaculation. There may be more satisfaction to be gained from anal sex than masturbation because the friction of the anal canal may be considerable: this may mean you ejaculate fairly quickly. Experience and self-control (not always easily acquired, it has to be said) may be helpful in slowing down your progress towards orgasm and ejaculation; this may be one occasion on which men with delayed ejaculation actually have an advantage over the rest of us!
Finger play with your partner’s anus
As you press in (with plenty of lube), you’ll feel your finger pass the muscular rings of the outer and inner anal sphincters. The inner wall of the rectum feels ridged, soft, muscular and warm. Once your finger is inside, move it around, curling it around the inner edge of his anus and feeling his prostate. Stroking or massaging his prostate as you masturbate or you do oral on him will increase the strength of his ejaculation many times (if it hurts, it’s probably infected; if he doesn’t feel much, he’s probably nervous). Putting two fingers or a anal plug on his anus will increase his sensations, and you can move them around independently to add to his pleasure. Just having your finger(s) positioned inside him while sucking or jacking him off will feel good for him, and if you massage his prostate gently by sliding your fingers up and down at ejaculation, you can double or quadruple the intensity of his orgasm by inserting a small anal prostate stimulator vibrator in his anus. When ejaculate, you can simply pull it out gradually. Using a vibrating silicone prostate stimulator, will help you discover your male G-spot and experience explosive, full-body orgasms with this prostate stimulator. It’s perfect for beginners to the world of prostate and anal stimulation, this first timer anal dong is cleverly curved to hit the right spot every time is inserted. The smooth tip is angled to gently massage your prostate, while the handle simultaneously presses against the perineum (the magic spot between the testicles and the anus). Use plenty of moist personal lube for an extra wet, for your extra wild encounter this is a great product and will help you be more relax, aroused and ready for your partner penis penetration.
Rimming
Rimming is licking and tonguing your partner’s anus. To make this a pleasant experience, good hygiene is essential, so cleaning up beforehand in the shower or bath is a good idea just run your finger inside the anal canal to make sure it’s clean. An enema or douche can also be reassuring. It’s important that both of you clean yourself well since once the heat is turned-on its going to be difficult to stop to do the cleaning. So be prepared before you both get aroused.
The reason rimming can feel good is that the anus is well supplied with hundreds of erotically sensitive nerves, all of which will send pleasurable sensations once your/his tongue start licking or caressing the anal area. It might not be to everyone’s preference, but it can be a turn on and fun to try it. You both will loved the rimming of your anus.
Another way to enhance a man’s enjoyment of rimming is to lick and nibble at his balls and cock at the same time.
Sitting Anal Sex
Sitting sex can be easy, it can happen naturally from sessions of kissing and foreplay, or you can move straight into it from any other position in bed as you enjoy sex. With sitting sex the man penetrating will feel more comfortable if he lies back on the bed as his partner sits on top of his erect penis. The man on top, who we had call the bottom in other circumstances, since he’s taking his partner’s penis can sit either facing towards or away from his partner. He can also masturbate while been penetrated.
One of the best things about sitting sex is that it gives the man who receives his partner’s penis the opportunity toexperience the other side of sex and with full control of it, controlling the pace and depth of thrusting, and setting the rhythm
and speed with which could lead both towards an intense orgasm. If a man usually takes the role of the bottom, then sitting on top and riding his partner’s cock may be a strange experience for him. But since we are talking about pleasure and not role playing you don’t need to feel strange about this position.
When the man on top faces his partner, he can lean forward to kiss; when he faces away, his partner can enjoy the sight of his buttocks. The man lying on the bed has limited movement, though if the man on top raises himself on his knees slightly, it is possible to enjoy some thrusting. The man lying in bed can insert a dildo in his ass while thrusting the other man penis and penetrating his anus. That’s what we call double the pleasure!
The Top
The top man needs to be confident in the assumption that if he controls the pace of sex, the man on the bottom will be having a good tim
e as well! If the man on top begins to feel tired, or decides he’s worked hard enough in that sex position, it’s easy enough to roll over onto your sides and continue sex without withdrawing his partner’s penis.
It’s important that the man on top, riding his partner’s penis, does it primarily to pleasure himself. Sex isn’t just about pleasuring your partner: you need to be sure enough to take pleasure in a selfish way from time to time, safe in the assumption that when you are turned on, your partner will find sex more arousing and will enjoy himself even more.
During missionary position sex, the bottom can help his partner get into him by raising his own knees and legs, holding his knees close to his chest, allowing his partner full access to his buttocks and anus: during sex, he can move his legs and knees into a variety of positions, and raise or lower his hips to give his partner variations in the depth of penetration; his partner, by contrast, can vary the speed and depth to which he thrusts, so as to tease and give pleasure to the bottom. This position is much more achievable for the majority of men, and it allows a degree of intimacy and deep kissing which is intimate for both.
Moving your body may be an obvious part of having sex, but when it comes to orgasm, alot of us tense up and hold ourselves almost still, which can get in the way of having an orgasm or having a bigger orgasm.
You can change your orgasm by changing how much you move and what parts of your body you move. Start by paying attention to how your body moves during sex and at the point of orgasm. Once you reach that moment of no return, just let go and enjoy squirting all over your partner. It’s important to know that if you are not in a close relationship with your man to use condoms when performing anal sex. But if you are in a close relationship and know that both of you are disease clean and he wants your come inside his ass, then you can breed him as deep as he wants.
Remember: Bare backing is the name given to anal sex without a condom. It’s increasing popularity because of a perception that AIDS has been beaten and is now a disease you can live with comfortably. It’s true that life expectancy has increased, but unfortunately the treatments are not always effective, and don’t forget the side effects. (HIV is the virus that eventually causes AIDS, a disease where the immune system collapses.). In addition to HIV a person can get other diseases like; Hepatitis and syphilis, so using a condom is always recommended.
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Prolonging orgasms and the cock ring stiff erection
To prolong the period before orgasm. It’s much easier to try this by yourself. Masturbate however you normally would and just when you get to the brink of orgasm, slow things down. Keep the stimulation going, but let yourself step back from the line a bit. Then start again until you get close to the line. Try this three or four times before letting yourself orgasm. When you get yourself to the point of orgasm and then switch position and kind of stimulation will stop you from squirting. If you keep doing this until you decide is time for letting go, you will experience a very strong squirt. Your partner will experience that pressure of you spraying inside him.
A cock ring will keep his erections stiff and strong, and by letting blood flow more slowly to the member, he’ll stay harder longer and give him a powerful orgasmic squirt. The cock ring will give you a fuller, firmer erection and more intense orgasms. The longer he lasts, the more powerful the passion and orgasmic release. It will help you stay harder longer giving you extra time to enjoy yourself and partner. Helps Control Premature Ejaculation! by slowing blood flow, the o-ring can keep you from cumming until both are ready to orgasm. There many types available for your comfort and preference.
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