11 ways to fuck like a porn star

We all think we are legends in the bedroom. We all think we’ve mastered the art of sucking a big juicy penis. We bet you think you’ve mastered the art of pile driving an anus. In our porn survey we found that 65% of gay men said that they learn from porn, while 51% said watching porn has made them a better sex partner. So here at FS we decided to give you some tips to fuck like a porn star.

1 - Relax

If you look at porn you’d think that every man’s arse is a gaping hole waiting to be hammered at first sight. No. You can’t just stick it in straight away and expect him to be happy about it. Frankie says relax… and enjoy some foreplay.

Unless a guy is chilled and ready, fucking his arse will probably be a painful experience. Taking the time for foreplay will make sex much more comfortable. This can include rimming, gentle fingering, lubrication, patience and listening to each other and responding appropriately.

2 - Listen to him

Being a top isn’t about being dominant. Though many gay men LOVE to be dominated, not everyone does. Don’t just charge in there. If you ask him how he likes to be fucked you can try and fulfil his request, if you like the sound of it.

Listen to his reactions too. If he is making noises that suggest he’s in pain, try to move more slowly. Most guys like a change in rhythm now and then so variation is good, but if he’s screaming with joy, keep doing what you’re doing!

3 - Wank him off

The biggest mistake people make is treating someone’s cock like a ketchup bottle. You can’t shake his thing so hard to start off with and expect him to like it. Start slowly and build up the speed as you go. Listen to his moans, and that should help with the speed you go at.

Also, with a bit of spit or lube in the palm of your hand and the underside of your fingers you can pretty much get him going. Just get yourself nice and slippery and pass your palm and fingers over the head of his cock – gently, mind. Spend enough time on this and even men with less sensitive cocks can really start to squirm. The tip of the penis is the most sensitive part of a man’s body. Don’t ignore it.

4 - Suck him off

When taking a guy’s cock in your mouth, again, remember to build up. Lick it before you suck it, suck the head before you suck the whole of it… you don’t want to go straight in for the kill like something out of a bad horror movie. And let him see you licking and sucking it. Watch out for sensitive men though – they tend not to like too much action at the tip of the cock.

Get in there and use his whole cock. And if you have a bad gag reflex there are two things you can do to help. Orange juice helps due to the citric acid in it. But also put your thumb in your fist and clench really hard. This helps distract the brain. Who knew, eh?

5 - Lick his balls

It’s not just his cock that’s going to enjoy the feeling of your velvet tongue all over it. There’s also his balls, though you do have to go in more gently here as most men are, quite sensibly, nervous when people start chewing on their bollocks.

You can tell how hard he likes things by the volume of his moaning and the motion of his hips. An often forgotten place is the hard bit (well, it’ll be hard if his cock is) between his balls and his arse.

Lick it, nibble it, and gently bite it. It’s not that it’s especially sensitive like his cock head but it’s a major turn on and often smells strongly of him (we’re assuming you like him by this stage).

6 - Top to bottom

Negotiating who is going to do what to whom is a diplomatic dance, a time-honoured ritual. Sometimes putting a finger in his arse – gently and with lube – or rimming him makes it seem that you are going to be the one doing the fucking, but it’s not always the case.
Don’t forget, you are allowed to talk about this. A simple: “I’d really like to fuck you” or “I’d really like you to fuck me” is perfectly socially acceptable.

7 - Rim him

Some people love rimming, some people hate it. Some people only get into it when they meet a certain person, and then the thing that’s always put them off suddenly makes sense and they can’t wait to get their tongue in there. And some people love having it done, while others find it a slimy old non-event.

Like all sexual practices, there’s no such thing as one-size-fits-all. If you’re going to do this with a man, make sure he likes it first. The biggest thing that puts people off after rimming is having to kiss. Like, who really wants to kiss their own arse? Having some water (if possible) after rimming to take the taste away can help.

8 - Find his sensitive points

Some men want you to get in there and go straight to the point. Others like to be worked up. Finding men’s sensitive points can be very rewarding and make sex even better. Ticklish areas tend to be great to explore during sex. So focus on the neck, ears, just behind the ears, torso, lower back and sides.

One point, which lots of men never try but works, is the back of the knee. If you don’t believe us, try it. Watch him go crazy as you play with it with your tongue.

9 - Role play

Have you been a bad boy and need a spanking? Role playing is porn in human form. Lots of couples say role playing keeps their sex lives active. Dressing up as a fireman, policeman, superhero, doctor, sexy male nurse, plumber, builder, football player… the list is endless.

Buying costumes online can be cheap from the right stores. Let your imagination go wild and recreate your favourite porn scene in reality.

10 - Fuck with confidence

More than just being comfortable in the skin you’re in, if you want to fuck like a porn star, you need to do it with confidence. Like you know how to rock that cock and that you’re going to do it better than any other guy on Earth can do it. And then you do it.
You’ve also got to have confidence in your sexual appeal. You have to understand that the person fucking you wants to fuck and thinks you’re hot as hell. You can’t be afraid of what your body looks like with the lights on if you want to fuck. Sure, you can make love under the covers in the dark, but that’s not how porn stars fuck and it’s not how you should either.

11 - Ditch your inhibitions

To be able to fuck like a porn star, you need to let go of your inhibitions. Instead of thinking about sex as a five to seven-minute ride of cock and bumming, think about sex as an exploration and experimentation.

Embrace what you don’t know and try everything you ever thought about. And yes, you’ll mess up, and yes, you may fall out of bed, but you know what? You’ll have fun. You’ll laugh. And then the fucking gets even better.

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