A key point: most people stop too soon when a man starts to ejaculate. Keep doing whatever you know feels good, adapting as necessary even as his penis starts to get soft, until he signals you to pause or stop. Even then, be prepared for him to ask you to resume after a slight pause. Many men can experience a string of orgasms, or “aftershocks,” during the minute or two after ejaculation, but they never get a chance to discover this with vaginal sex because habit and the softening of the penis prevents further thrusting.
About half of the men I interviewed said they didn’t want a lot of intense friction on the head of the penis while they were actually having an orgasm. What many preferred was having you surround the head and hold it firmly with one hand while pumping your other fist up and down on the shaft. Then after the last ejaculatory spasm, many of them really appreciate an immediate resumption of vigorous stimulation through one or more aftershocks. Often this post-ejaculatory stimulation needs to be faster and stronger than what came beforehand.
When he is finally finished, he will probably like it if you cup his balls with one hand and hold his penis or press it firmly against his body for a minute or two with the other. If he was able to make progress on his meditation during at least fifteen minutes or so of lingam massage, you will probably want to end here.
However, if he came much more quickly than he wanted to, allow him to rest for a short interval with your hands cradling his penis, and then ask him if he wants you to resume. If he does, you can practice variations on your massage strokes and discover what works best with a soft penis. Generally, strokes upward from below are best, or ones where you hold the shaft in one hand and stroke the glans or corona with the other hand or with your mouth or tongue.
Your primary goal here is not really to bring him to another climax, but to give him a chance to practice his meditation and controlled attention with the lower stimulus level natural to a soft penis. If you continue with at least a moderate level of stimulation right through the climax and ejaculation, he may find that, although his level of arousal does go down, it does not go down all that much, allowing him in effect to start over in the middle instead of at the beginning.
Often this period of “soft massage” is a revelation for a man, as it is the first time he has experienced sensual massage and arousal without the insistent focus of an erection. Many of the men I interviewed said that the experience of having two orgasms 20 to 30 minutes apart during lingam massage really helped them learn control. And with or without the second orgasm, learning what intense arousal feels like without an erection can be an important step for him toward becoming multi-orgasmic.
Finishers
Once you get to the point where he can last as long as he can comfortably maintain his meditative state and can still encompass larger and larger areas of sexual arousal, you may need to experiment with “finishers.” Ask him for ideas and for feedback on what feels best. He’s your best guide!
Try different things, but when you find something that works, keep doing it. This is not a time for variety just for its own sake!
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Lingam Massage
A Lingam massage is a form of tantric pleasure for a male that involves his entire male sex organs. To give a Lingam massage, massage your partners body to relax them and tell them to breathe deeply as he lies on his back with his legs apart and knees slightly bent. Pour a small amount of massage oil onto the testicles and penis shaft. Massage the scrotum, testicles, pubic bone, perineum and penis shaft, varying in speed and pressure.Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female G-spot), and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Benefits of a Lingam massage
- One of the primary benefits of the massage is to obtain better control of your sexual energy and your sex drive. If a therapist is helping you with the massage they will “stand down” or step away when the recipient is near orgasm. After several sessions the recipient will be able to prolong ejaculation.
- Solve sex related problems such as premature ejaculation
- Improve blood circulation for a better firmer erection.
- Better control over internal energy.
- Fight stress and depression.
When a man has embraced his lingam as part of his whole being into his life & sex life from an essence of tantra, it brings forth a richer sensuality to love making, an ability to experience sex not only in the genitals but the whole body & a depth of connected touch with himself, others & the world around him.
Although massage of the lingam is highly sensual & pleasurable, it is not necessarily sexual. It is not a form of masturbation neither is the intention to “get a man off.”
A Tantric massage has no goals; it is a very present experience of the senses that unfolds. Therefore ejaculation is not an aim. It may happen, it may not … that is neither here nor there or my intention as a tantric therapist.
A lingam massage is a conscious & present form of loving touch. If orgasm or climax does occur it is a sensual experience rather than totally sexual & not something we have tasted before …The orgasms are deeply nourishing & satisfying for the whole body.
A lingam massage session lasts anything between 60 – 90 minutes.
Each man is a unique individual, I therefore cannot & do not measure time as such but allow the healing to unfold as the true essence of tantra. I also cannot predict how many sessions you may require, I feel it is essential that we both listen to your body & be guided in this way.
The massage includes the whole body, bringing firstly a trust of my touch & secondly the whole body, lingam, mind & soul into alignment. Once we have built upon the experience of the lingam & whole body, we can reduce the session, time & cost if desired from a body session to simply massage of the lingam.
Orgasm is not the objective of the Lingam massage but it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The objective of Lingam massage, including the testicles, perineum and the secret spot (prostate) externally, is that the man surrenders himself to a form of pleasure he is not used to. One has to learn to relax and to receive. Traditional sexual attitudes have forced the man into a conductance oriented mode. The Lingam Massage lets the man experience his softer, receiving side to a pleasure in a non-traditional perspective.
The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is freely translated as the “Wall of Light.” In Tantra, or Holy Sexuality, the Lingam is regarded respectfully and honoured, as a “Wall of Light” that channels energy and pleasure. Our Lingam massage ensures total relaxation of body and mind. A total surrender and flow of energy reigns over you and afterwards you experience total freedom and relaxation. This state of mind can be experienced for hours and sometimes even days after the erotic massage.
This erotic massage is given in nicely warm and attractively decorated massage rooms.
Before starting the massage, you have a lovely shower with the masseuse. Afterwards you take your position on a massage bed or couch.
With cushions under your head in order to see you everything properly and cushions under your hips to conduct the Lingam massage well… with your legs spread, your knees slightly bent and genitals clearly exposed, you start a breathing exercise together with the masseuse in order to aid relaxation. The masseuse gently starts to massage your legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to make you relax more. Good breathing helps to get into an ever deeper state of relaxation.
When you are relaxed, the masseuse pours a small amount of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. She gently starts to massage the testicles with a tenderness that doesn’t hurt in this sensitive area. She gently massages the scrotum, making you relax even more. The masseuse continues with the area above the Lingam, to the pubic bone. The Lingam massage continues with massaging of the perineum, the area between the testicles and the anus. Next she massages the shaft of the Lingam, varying in speed and pressure. She will carefully squeeze the Lingam at the base, with her right hand, pulling upwards and sliding downwards, then she will alternate with her left hand. Right, left, right, left… she will then change direction by beginning to gently squeeze the glans, (the head of the Lingam) and then slide upwards and downwards. Also alternating her left and right hands. By varying the firmness of the massage this provides for an experience just like a tantric massage. Hardness and softness are two poles of the pleasure spectrum. If you are about to ejaculate, the masseuse will slow down, allowing the Lingam to soften slightly, and letting you relax, to continue the massage afterwards . This happens a few times and each time ejaculation is close, she slows down again. It is important to remember that an orgasm itself is not the objective of a Lingam massage. This way, one can learn to master the ejaculation. Breathing deeply is the key and will help to lessen the urge to ejaculate. Mastering your own ejaculation will allow you to achieve multiple orgasms without a drop of sperm being spilt. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different things that you can learn to distinguish.
In order to expand the pleasure, the masseuse will look for the ‘male holy spot’, just like during a prostate massage. By stimulating this, the enjoyment of this Lingam massage will achieve great heights. Unprecedented emotions can take control of you. The masseuse is always your best friend to trust during such intimacy. When the massage is ‘complete’, the masseuse will carefully pull back her soft and warm hands and leave you to rest for a few minutes before having a lovely shower with her to finish.
Lingam is the Sanskrit word for male sexual organ. It is often translated to “the Wand of Light”, an element of the human body that channels positive and creative energy as well as the source of ultimate pleasure. When we dig further into the principles of Tantra, we will find that lingam and the practice of Lingam massage are regarded as one of the best practices to build spiritual bonds and enhance a man’s sexual energy substantially.
The highly sensual massage that accompanies each session is known as the Lingham massage (for males) It is meant as an emotional journey into your inner self, during which everything that can be experienced should be experienced. This massage invites you to stay close to yourself and not to be distracted by things around you. This part of the massage normally occurs after almost three quarters of the time has been devoted to the rest of the body including various other erogenous zones, awakening it and preparing it for this honoring. Since this is not intended to be a sexual massage, and physical climax is not the goal, you are encouraged toward the slow savory of the whole blissful process which would open up to a blend new horizon of ecstatic state.
During this part of the massage, the utmost respect and gentleness is used in order to extend the experience of safety and sacredness that was established in the beginning of the session. Once the life force is awakened, it is then lovingly encouraged to flow upward through the energy centers of the body, known as “chakras”, and outward to all the extremities. As the energy and ecstasy expands, it cleanses and activates your entire self. Sometimes this may produce an emotional release, deep insight, or mystical experiences.
At the beginning of the session, you rest with a pillow or a tower placed under your head; this is important since it allows you to look at the partner or Masseur erforming the Lingam massage in order to strengthen the spiritual bond. Pillows or cushions may also be placed under the knees for better comfort.
The position you are in allows you to be in a relaxed state. You will feel it as your body and mind slowly let go of the problems or negative thoughts you have while going into a deeper state of relaxation. With the mind and body fully rested, dead cells can be replaced quickly and your energy will naturally be recharged.
Masseur will then apply a massage oil of your choice onto the pelvic region. The Lingam massage starts with soft pressures to the Masseur ; the stimulations are very enjoyable and will not cause you pain at all. As the session continues, the Masseur will then focus on other parts of your Lingam including the head and the infamous Sacred Spot.
Lingam massage service we have in store for you is highly customizable. You can choose from our array of gorgeous Masseur all of our Masseur are highly trained and have already mastered the art of Tantra in order to provide you with the best services possible. Every detail of the session can be customized as well, including where the Lingam massage treatment is performed or the particular massage oil used for the ritual.
So, what are you waiting for?
Ultimate pleasure is just a phone call away. Booking your own session of Lingam massage and experience pleasure and sensations unlike anything you have experienced before. Enjoy the benefits we have discussed in this part – as well as many others that come with the practice of Lingam massage and Tantra in general – today.
The Lingam massage is an effective massage for men. You will experience great sexual pleasure, feel accepted in your masculinity and will learn to direct your sensual energies with higher awareness. This sensuous art of touching offers men a chance to become acquainted with completely new possibilities and ways of sexual enjoyment. It offers a new perspective to the self-perception of being a man and points out the real potential of the male sexual organ.
The Lingam massage includes the massage of your testicles. The intensity of the testicle stimulation depends on the sensitivity of your testicles.
Tantra Lingam Massage
There are various kinds of massage that provide health benefits and other physical gains. The Tantra lingam massage is a spiritual tradition, which had its origin in India and had been invented about 4,000 years ago. The tantra lingam massage is a way of life that celebrates and strives for the union of body. Here importance is given to the union of the body along with the mind, heart and soul. Hence tantra can also be stated as a form of yoga, which means union and the ultimate purpose of Tantra is the union of lovers.The principles of tantra believe to ultimately union with the Divine and in the Tantric tradition and massages, both sexuality and spirituality are joined. Here the lovers actually aim to invite god to their beds. There are many cultures, which have a variation of this challenging and delightful practice. These include the Taoists massages in China and the Cheyenne in North America. Even thought these are differences in practices, they are all forms of sacred sexuality.
Here the motive is to share the intentional cultivation and use of sexual energy in healing, spiritual growth, creativity and enhanced pleasure. During the 1800’s the practices of Tantra were first introduced to the west and the Tantric revival during the late 1960s led to popularization of these practices in Europe and North America. Recently there have also been testimonials by celebrity musicians and movie stars who have promoted it.
Thus Tantra is becoming the sexual learning of choice and is an ideal option for those who want to enjoy a passionate sex life, healthy body and spiritual growth. The concepts of the tantric massages are to involve various forms of contractions and massages and even sound into the massage to evoke desire. The concept of this form of massage is based on sound, visualization, affirmations, creating a sacred loving space and other ceremonial practices. The use of meditation, sensual massage, and sexual play is also vital here.
For building high sexual energy charge the massage is suggested as this leads to enhanced pleasure and also helps the person getting the massage done to enjoy other blissful moments. The tantra massage helps you to continue to learn and advance, with never-ending potential for growth and scope of learning. The tantric massage is a practice that yields immediate results and thus people can experience a difference in the lovemaking process. This massage can be given to both the partners and even the partners can give the same to each other.
There are various vital factors here that should be considered and unlike the regular lovemaking, which has the goal of orgasm, this massage believes in making performance better. The approach often results in a great deal of frustration and performance anxiety as there is no goal, but there is a purpose, which is the union. These massages have become popular these days as most couples find less time to interact with each other and look for alternatives to seek reunions of the body and mind along with rejuvenating the soul and your spirit.
One of the activities frequently undertaken by people commonly now a day is having a body massage. There are different massage types and styles, each performed with a different objective. Some massages are specially designed to relax the body and provide physical comfort, while others to make you feel mentally relaxed and light. However, there are other massages especially designed to cure or treat some dysfunctions of body.
When it comes to dysfunction of body parts, the major problem with men is impotence or erectile dysfunction that results primarily due to premature ejaculation. To treat this problem in men, the popular therapy followed is a Lingam Massage. The lines below explain all the details you need to know about this massage and how it can treat impotence.
Lingam massage, finds its roots in Indian about 4000 years ago. The massage works on the philosophy uniting mind, soul, and heart. In fact, the it is closely associated with yoga, and is recommended for men who suffer from erectile dysfunction and other male genital related issues.When considering a place to receive massage, not every massage outlet is expert in providing lingam massage. Rather, only expert massage therapists know the intricacies of the massage, like where to apply the right amount of pressure on the genital’s of man, so that the best affect of it be achieved. The massage therapist, very carefully presses the soft tissues of man’s genitals that are related with erectile dysfunction. Therefore, no ordinary masseur can perform a this massage.
The lingam massage works on the reflexology technique. Reflexology when performed on male genital leads in better circulation of blood in the area, stress reduction on the genital, and stimulating the nerves to function normally, therefore, the erectile dysfunction problems could be resolved with a lingam massage.The person undergoing the massage therapy needs to be cautious and comply with the rules and cautions prescribed by the therapist. During the massage to treat erectile dysfunction, the use of chemical oils is to be strictly avoided. A specialist therapist would only use the recommended oils for the procedure that are extracted from natural herbs. The benefit of using organic oils is that, they leave no side effects on the genital area, as use of cheap oils may lead to further complications in erectile dysfunction.
As far as the posture and the way this massage is performed, there are different ways of approaching it. However, for erectile dysfunction treatment purpose, the receiver is made to lie on his back with cushion or pillow under the head. The process starts by placing the pillow under the receiver’s hips to make them rise, and the knees are bent while spreading the legs. Before the initiation of the massage therapy for erectile dysfunction treatment, the receiver is taught to practice some breathing techniques, so that during the procedure the receiver remains tension free and calm. Then the therapist officially starts the procedure and starts oiling the body, especially the genital area in case of erectile dysfunction problem. The application oil is done in a way that it leads to unity of heart and body, thus treating the erectile dysfunction problem.
In short, lingam massage is one of the best techniques to treat erectile dysfunction. A person by undergoing lingam massage can do away with all genital problems such as low sex drive, and premature ejaculation.
Preparation for the Lingam massage
About MassageIn Tantra, the penis is called the Lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as “Wand of Light.” A Lingam massage is a massage of the male genitals using a large variety of strokes and grips. The goals of the Lingam massage are to honor your man’s Lingam and to help him to expand his ability to receive pleasure.
The setting and your attitude are what make a Lingam massage a special experience for your man. Prepare a quiet, preferably dim, space with a bed, a futon mattress, or a blanket and pillows on the floor. The temperature in the room should be a little warmer than normal because you will both be nude. Lighting candles or an oil lamp in the room will keep the lighting subdued and also help generate heat. Your oils and lubricants should be within easy reach. Try to get spill-proof bottles and use plastic rather than glass. Make sure that you have a couple of hours where you won’t be disturbed.
Begin by breathing together. Stand or sit face-to-face. Embrace or hold hands, look into each others eyes, and breathe deeply into the belly. Continue looking into his eyes and breathing with him. If you find he is holding his breath, place your hand on his lower belly and remind him to breathe from that place, to “fill his belly” with his breath.
Next, have him lie face down and begin giving him a full body massage. After about 10 minutes, ask him to turn over, and then continue the massage. Advance the massage slowly toward the inner thighs and pelvis until he is breathing deeply from his belly and his body is fully relaxed.
Then, as a show of respect for his male power, ask permission to touch his Lingam. Simply ask, “May I touch your Lingam?” or, if he is more familiar with Tantric terms, “May I touch your Wand of Light?” If he gives you permission, pour a small quantity of massage oil or water-based lubricant on his Lingam and testicles. Rub the oil or lubricant into his skin, beginning at the top of the inner thighs and moving into the crease where his legs meet the pelvis floor. Using slow, steady motions. work along theconnecting bone and muscles, releasing tension as you go.
Next, massage above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Rock your hand over this place, feeling the bone beneath the muscle and skin. Then, move on to the scrotum, gently pulling and kneading his testicles. You will need to pay very close attention to his responses here and encourage him to tell you what is just right for him. Some men can’t stand to have their testicles touched at all, while others enjoy stronger handling. Start gently and slowly add pressure, rather than the other way around.
From his testicles, move your hand down to massage his perineum, sometimes called the “sacred spot.” Locate the small indentation, about the size of a dime, halfway between the testicles and anus. You can use downward strokes from his Lingam to his anus or a circular motion. Circle and pull at the tissues and gently push inward on the spot with your finger. Since the spot may feel painful at first, only increase pressure as much as he is comfortable with.
Finally, place your hand on his Lingam. As you massage the shaft, gently squeeze his Lingam at the base with your right hand, and pull up, sliding completely off. Then do the same with your left hand—squeeze his Lingam at the base, and pull up, sliding completely off. Then do this again with your right, then your left, and so on. After a while, change directions—slide alternating hands from the top down to the base. Then, take the Lingam between both hands and rub your hands quickly back and forth, as you wanted to start a fire. Hold his Lingam by the head and gently shake it back and forth. Thoroughly massage the head by cupping it in your palm and turning your wrist, making “juicing” motion (as if you are juicing a lemon). Move from the Lingam to the testicles to the perineum and back again, noting his responses.
If, at any point, your man seems close to ejaculation, slow your movements to reduce stimulation and let him cool down before beginning again. If he is very close, but not past the “point of no return,” you may be able to delay his ejaculation by squeezing the tip of his Lingam between your thumb and forefinger. Squeeze very firmly and hold it for about thirty seconds. Encourage him to take deep breaths while you do this. Moving to the sacred spot is another way to delay ejaculation. If he starts to feel close, decrease stimulation on the Lingam and increase stimulation on the sacred spot, which should help decrease the pressure to ejaculate.
If you hold back his orgasm six times, a tremendous amount of sexual energy will be stored, which he can either retain and circulate throughout other parts of his body or release. If he chooses to ejaculate, his orgasm will probably be much more intense than usual. Keep reminding him to take deep breaths even as he ejaculates. When the massage is complete, slowly remove your hands and allow him time to relax and savor the pleasure he has just received.
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